My sister got engaged last year, and I couldn't have been happier for her. I was the first to send her a congratulations card, and had a personalised wedding planner made for her to jot ideas down etc as she planned the wedding. I asked a few times if she wanted any company at wedding fairs etc and if I saw anything i thought she would like that matched the colours she had mentioned etc, I whatsapped it over to her. I got quite a cool response each time so I got the impression she maybe found it this annoying and so stopped - fine by me, its not like I'm a wedding enthusiast, i was just trying to be sisterly and show some enthusiasm. As well to add to the mix, I think I also felt a bit of pressure to be visibly enthusiastic as my parents are convinced I'm desperate to marry OH of 10yrs and must be secretly gutted its not me getting married (honestly not the case but this always falls on deaf ears).
Anyway my sisters planning her wedding, fine, asked me to be one of her bridesmaids,cool. When discussing her hen weekend, she asked for this to be arranged specifically for my due date (in a few weeks!) Her wedding isnt until April, but she insisted she needed to be "fresh for the wedding". Although I found this a bit "off" I obviously don't expect the hen do to be planned around me, and in all honesty there probably woudnt have been a great time for me to go anyway, as I'd have either been pregnant or have a newborn.
I dutifully went along to "planning meetings" with the other bridesmaids (2 of my sisters friends who i don't know) and helped plan her hen weekend, paid towards my sisters place etc
Meanwhile I realised I hadnt heard from my sister in ages. This isn't unusual as were not really that close I guess, but I would have thought she would have at least asked how the pregnancy is going, how DD is etc, but nothing. I then got a mesaage from my mum informing me my bridesmaid dress had arrived at her house and i need to try it on for alterations. I knew absolutely nothing about a bridesmaid dress, my sister hasn't even mentioned she had been to look at any. I obviously hadn't tried anything on either. I told my mum that I was surprised my sister hadn't mentioned anything to me about a dress, and queried if there's any point trying it on while I'm so pregnant as it will need several alterations presumably. This was taken by my parents to be a sign I'm so terribly jealous and am refusing to try my dress on. Infuriating, not the case!!!
I still haven't heard from my sister, other than she sent a Christmas card and £20 for DD to which I have sent a thankyou card.
Would other people feel hurt if they were me that their sister has not communicated anything about the wedding to me, and has literally not contacted me for months for no apparent reason. We haven't fallen out or had a cross word. I think this is my parents doing their bitching and my sister hangs on their every word.
I feel particularly hurt as my parents and sister know I had horrendous PND after having DD 2.5yrs ago, there was no support from them then and whereas I don't expect support from this time, i find it hard to swallow the way they are behaving this time around as well.
Am I being unfair to be completely sick of them?