Do men really still fancy us if we get fatter and older?

[User9876789]

I’m asking because I once read some statistics that said men fancy their wives for much longer than we fancy our husbands. I’m not physically attracted to my husband any more but he still seems very keen on older, fatter, saggier me. Do you think men really maintain that desire or are they just not very fussy and are grateful for the sex??

I don't know about fatter but definitely age hasn't changed anything for DH and I. We've been together since I was 20, I'm now 40.

Who gives a shit!!

I also want to know what a slutty hair style is in case I want it too!

Never mind the original question - what is this slutty hairstyle?

Because, I really really REALLY need one tout suite!!!

Mummaofmytribe and HalfManHalfLabrador, it's a bit like Melania Trump's hair, except a slightly shorter, blonder and more layered.

Elindab
That’s not very clear. Any chance you could post a pic and scribble out your face??

Sorry OP, to answer your question, I think it depends on the man.

Also, your own insecurities that come into play, if you not comfortable with your weight.

I think many people fancy sex less as they age. It becomes more about a nice shared experience occasionally rather than a regular and frequent activity. I don’t feel that’s to do with being bigger and less attractive as we become older - although that’s certainly the case with me sadly - more because our drives settle and then begin to dissipate as we - men and women - pass the obvious age of active childbearing.

I guess it depends how much a man initially fancied a woman because she is who she is rather than simply her looks. She doesn’t change who she is after all.

Apologies - I can only talk for myself and a few friends I’ve had this conversation with and am sure there are many older women who would feel differently. I made it sound like I was speaking for everyone!

Placemarking for slutty hairstyle pic

Mummyoflittledragon, I looked at photos and it's nothing like Melania Trump! Just brown and scraggly like normal, and probably I just imagined the whole thing. Point is, men are random. That's all I was trying to say. Sorry to be misleading.

Dont think that we can generalize with men. They are individuals. In my case no, mine didn't fancy my when I grew fat. I've lost most of it now and hes glad. My mother has gone from 8 to 13 stone, my father thinks she is the sexiest woman alive.

Dh met me when I was a size 6, and he stills fancies the pants off me 10 years later at a size 16 (with a C-section over hang to boot). In fact I wish he fancied me a little less sometimes horny bugger!

In terms of random men, I find the only time I don't attract men, is when I don't feel confident about myself. Despite being the biggest I've ever been right now I'm in a really good place in my life professionally, socially, etc and feeling very happy and assertive, and suddenly I'm getting interest again from men (some of whom are VERY attractive). You can't discount confidence and happiness.

Elindab
No worries. I think a few women were interested in this illusive haircut!

I want to see pic of slutty hairstyle too

My exh used to tell me I was fat as fuck and he was no longer attracted to me as a 14/16 and he preferred me as as a size 10. Then when we split, he promptly took up with a woman bigger than me who didn't carry he weight well at all .

My DP doesn't seem to care that I'm almost 5 stones heavier than he is or that I'm older than him. We've only been together a few years though so there's time for that to change, haha. I'm pregnant so getting even bigger and he doesn't seem to notice at all. There's definitely less sex recently, but I don't think it's anything to do with attraction levels.

Not me - I'm mid fifties, 5'7 and 12-14. I've always been invisible to men.
I put it down to my resting bitch face.
I must just give off bad vibes.

Same, although I’m 41. There was a brief moment aged around 15-17 (looked about 10) when I appeared to be attractive to adult males. I was a size 8 and had very long hair.

@User9876789

I’m not physically attracted to my husband any more

Does that not make sex somewhat challenging?

At 55 last year I lost a stone and a half. Felt fantastic. Went to a work reunion and at least three former colleagues were very charming to me whereas previously they had always ignored me. Lose the weight, buy some new clothes and get your hair coloured properly that's my advice. It's a huge confidence booster.

Do you still fancy men that have got fat and older?

I think, like women, men are attracted to all different types and ages.
I'm still attracted to my husband as he is to me, despite neither of us being like we were in our late teens when we first met.
Maybe because you're ageing together you don't really notice?
My dad says in his eyes my mum is still a gorgeous 17 year old, despite now being in their 80's, grey, carrying a few extra pounds and in my mum's case, wearing dentures 🤔

@Monty27
Not really no. I saw a pic of an ex recently. We had a serious relationship prior to me meeting my husband and I always thought he was really handsome.
In his pic he was fat and bald with a beer belly. My first thought was ugh, lucky escape 😂

@56Chuffit absolutely. I married a beautiful young man. He's an embarrassment now. We've been divorced for 20 years now though

I have been with my dh 30 years. I am pushing 50.
When you love someone, you love them - their body shaped container is not fundamental to that love.
Objectively I can see dh is bigger than he was. So am I. It doesn't matter. He tells me daily how much he loves me and we still have a fantastic sex life albeit slightly less frequent than it once was. When I ask him if he still loves me now I am old and menopausal and greying he says I am still his lovely Faina and that I am all that he needs. When he asks me if I mind that he has a beer belly I tell him it makes no difference to me, I love him whatever.
If you don't have a man who loves you when you get bigger and older, you don't have a man who really loves you.

Depends on the man and what else is going on in the relationship. I don’t think either men or women are attracted to each other solely on looks. If you’re still laughing together and being physically affectionate you are going to be more attracted to each other than if you’re bickering and physically distant.

Yes. I'm 30 and about three sizes bigger than I was pre babies. DH is constantly saying how much he loves my curves and telling me how sexy he thinks I am. I also fancy him more as he has aged though so I guess we both find each other more attractive.