To be concerned about this?

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Not sure if I am overreacting here or not so would like some impartial advice.

DS (6) was messing about on e iPad sending texts to me. The iPad is linked to DH’s phone so had all of his texts and WhatsApp’s and emails etc on it. I don’t ever snoop because he has never given me reason to. However, I was sitting next to DS yesterday messing about as above and I notice a message to ‘Jane Smith’ (not real name) saying ‘I want to stick my mummy in your pussy’. No other messages in the thread. DH said he had no recollection of the message. He was absolutely smashed that night so seems plausible that he wouldn’t remember.

The message was sent on a night 2 months ago where DH was at an event with some friends, including my brother (so no question about where he was), and whilst he was out met up with a colleague (Jane) and her husband as they were also there.

I didn’t know what to think so went upstairs and DH followed about 10 mins after to reiterate he didn’t remember sending the message, said it must have been meant for me (but we don’t send each other shit like that ever). He then showed me the WhatsApp conversation between them where they had arranged the meet up and there were no further messages. But he had had 10 mins where he could have deleted other things?

For context, I can’t imagine where DH would find the time for an affair. He comes straight home from work every day. He rarely goes out without me and his friends are mostly my friends husbands so when he does I’m fairly confident that he is where he says he is. He has no hobbies aside from golf which he plays with his cousin and running which he does from home. I know his phone pin and his messages are readable without opening the phone up anyway. As I say it’s all linked to the iPad too.

I guess what’s bothering me is just the message. I can’t work it out. He definitely sent it, no denying it. His colleague clearly hasn’t mentioned it and if I had ‘accidentally’ sent that and found out 2 months later I think I would be visibly mortified.

I’m not sure what to do next?

iPad currently doesn't have WhatsApp as an app unless something has changed?

I’ve had WhatsApp on my iPad for quite some time.

Obviously there is then. Must look

I have WhatsApp on my iPad too.

Dodgy AF!! Never in a million years no matter how off my face drunk I’ve been, have I ever set a text like that. He’s either having an affair with”Jane” or wants to. I’m surprised some of you on here are so naive!

I think it sounds more like someone was messing about with his phone on the night out and sent it as a wind up. If he was pursuing this woman I don't imagine putting his "mummy" in her pussy would be much of a turn on for her 😂😂

@Yeahnah2020 it's a game. Not usually funny when sober but can be amusing when drunk. You type a sentence and use whatever predictive text comes up for the gaps.

I want to stick my fingers in your head Is what mine brings up. It's how rude is your phone. So not necessarily naive. Maybe you're naive to think Jane wants his mummy up there

I want to stick my back in your account

Hmm mine makes no sense either.

Side note OP, just how close are you and your MIL.

I would usually use a text message to type out on of those predictive texts things just to see what it says. I usually remember to make it a new message without a number entered, but if I was drunk I'd almost definitely be stupid enough to type it into an active chat and press send.

Mine is nowhere near as interesting.
I'd like to stick my stuff in your car.
What a dull text life I lead!

if his predictive text picks up the word pussy and he doesn't filthy text you.... ?

My last phone was rude. I'd never texted half the stuff it predicted.

Gosh his poor mother.

if his predictive text picks up the word pussy and he doesn't filthy text you.... ?

This is my thoughts. I'm not averse to the odd sext or two yet I still got 'i want to stick my phone in your number'

Predictive text is predictive! He must have said pussy beforehand at a few points for it even to suggest this.

However!! I do agree that it sounds like the predictive text games I play with my friends, so I would give him the benefit of the doubt

I want to stick my fingers in your head

That was mine, me and oh send lots of dirty texts when he’s on a stopover at work and that’s as dirty as I got

Honestly if he was being dodgy and deleted messages then I'm sure that'd be the first one he'd delete! I wouldn't worry personally, it does sound like one of those weird predictive text things

As for the word 'pussy' being in his predictive text he could of used that word previously to describe his mates, I know plenty of men that use 'pussy' as an insult, doesn't necessarily mean he's been sexting before if that's the first thing that comes up

What's odd is that there isnt a reply from her?

If he sent that, and which he did then wouldnt she have replied either to be angry or whatever?

I think it's really odd that he would have sent a message like that and there isnt anything after? not even A WTF?

Hammered out with friends?

I'd think a mate was being an idiot and used his phone. It's definitely a predictive text game.

I get I want to stick my head in your beautiful home....

My phone is no stranger to rude words

One day because she was sat there at the time with him. Playing the game? 🤷🏽‍♀️

crusty op said text was from 2 months ago.

Yeah, from a night out with ops brother and the woman in question. I'm suggesting they played the predictive text game together in the pub.

This will be outing if any of my close friends are on here, but we were recently discussing Les Mis and one of my friend's phones corrected it to Les&Barbara Mis. She doesn't know any couples called Les and Barbara so would have no reason to have ever written it before. It's turned into a running joke now. Predictive text has no rules!

It seems innocent and much like the predicted text game.