To think you can’t have two good sleepers?

[Jadefeather7]

Expecting my second baby. First has been a brilliant sleeper. Have this sense of dread that the second will be a different story but also hoping there’s some chance I could get lucky again! Anyone had two good sleepers?

I got told this after my first was a brilliant sleeper. Second just as good. I worried for nothing. I think people like to say it is all down to the kid, but we parent in a way that sleep is important and expected. You probably do too without realising it.

The first few months are wonky anyway but people with bad sleepers live to harp on about how everyone else will get one without thinking about how their constant cosleeping at age 3, never refusing to breastfeed, never letting anyone else do bedtime and never letting them shed a single tear is affecting their child's sleep quality and quantity (looking at you SIL!).

Both mine slept perfectly.

As long as they were attached to me at all times.

Expecting number three and I could really do without another 3 years of my life co sleeping.

My first 3 were brilliant sleepers, my 4th isnt a great sleeper and is hit and miss. A few nights a week he will sleep through for 10-12 hours and other times he can be up 2-3 times and end up in our bed.
First 3 were formula fed and now 2 year old was breastfed till he was 23 months, not sure if thats why he took so long to start sleeping longer stretches, he was feeding alot at night and now hes weaned hes much much better

I had 3 fantastic sleepers all doing 12 hours by 4 months old.

My 4th didn't sleep through until 16 months

First one was good. Second I would say is average, i think she would be better if she had come first! She suffers slightly from having to slot into the existing routine based on DS preschool drop off & pick up etc. However I've (so far... touchwood) never had the thing of babies who wake hourly at night.

One terrible sleeper 3 years old... And one good sleeper 5months (SO FAR....)

My two were good sleepers. Eldest slept through at 7 weeks and my second at 14 weeks. They are 13 and 11 and still sleep well but I'm pregnant with number 3 and thinking this one might be bad sleeper.

My sinister had two good sleepers. I hate her

Sister

I have two terrible sleepers - somebody else got to have 2 excellent ones!

I'm thought my first was an excellent sleeper, turns out they were just a good sleeper, and my second is the truly excellent sleeper .

Two excellent sleepers here too - and they still are now they are in their teens / twenties. Used to have to wake up baby / toddler DC2 for food during the day regularly and he still slept all night.

I do think it’s a lot of nature rather than nurture, but if you found particular things worked well with your first DC then try it with the second.

Well, I had two awful sleepers, so someone somewhere lucked out with two brilliant sleepers or DH and I were both awful at getting the sleep thing right with them!

Mine might have been awful sleepers until the age of 3, but they we both brilliant at being left, not at all clingy. Either they were just good at that naturally, or DH and I managed to crack that one!

Four amazing sleepers here. Then I had my 5th who was a crap sleeper and still is at age 11.

I had 3 good sleepers, my sister had 4, her daughter has 2 good sleepers now, I think it must run in families. All were breastfed and none have coslept.

This thread has made me feel a bit better that lots of people do have 2 good sleepers. I'm also pregnant with DC2 and can't stop thinking I'm going to have the worst sleeper ever, as punishment for being so smug about having a good sleeper in DS who is 3 and slept through from 11 weeks.

I had 2 good sleepers! The second being better than the first she slept 12+ hours from 12 weeks and has continued to do so. Although the past week and a half she's been a nightmare I'm hoping she goes back to normal once we are back into nursery routine.

She's 2 and a half now btw and this is the worst sleeping pattern she's had since she was a newborn so I've been really lucky.

I have two now 8 and 16.. both very very different births and children but I did the same thing with them from day one and both slept through at exactly 12 weeks . I don't think any of it is luck but it's a very unpopular opinion in life and mumsnet .

I’ve had 3 brilliant sleepers, all down to pure luck. They all slept a short night without a feed from 8 weeks, approx 11-6 and then 12 hours by 12 weeks. DC2 was breast fed and the other 2 bottle fed. They all woke only a few times a year once they started sleeping normally when they were poorly or teething.

@NotPennysBoat I agree. I sleep trained both of mine from birth.

I don’t know why some people immediately associate it with ”crying it out” as I did nothing of the sort. Just did sensible things.

2 brilliant sleepers and 1 who doesn't sleep sleep at all

First was amazing, through from 8 weeks. Slept 8 til 8 ish.

Toddler still wakes up every bloody night.

We had two good sleepers, but we prayed for help with dd, she was a nighmare, still not sleeping through at 16. Years, not months.