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Who's the most badly behaved here?

152 replies

Seasonaldisorder · 03/01/2020 19:04

I'm neither of the people in this scenario but live opposite them and have heard been forced to listen to both sides...they're both being unreasonable wankers but who's the most unreasonable?
Neighbour A was going away over Xmas. Asked neighbour B if he could pull his bin to the property boundary on bin day otherwise it wouldn't be collected. Neighbour B agreed and then asked is they could use A's mainly empty bin for their Xmas rubbish overflow. A agreed as long as it was bagged up and not loose (they are very houseproud and this obviously also extends to their bin!)
Anyway neighbour B filled up the bin with a load of unbagged shite (including food waste!) and then FORGOT TO PUT IT OUT.
Neighbor A was furious on his return to find a full uncollected bin, and told B to empty it out and clean it. He asked him on NYD when B had a horrific hangover. B said he'd do it the next day. A waited until 5.00 the next day and, after no sign of B coming round, rolled his wheelie bin round to neighbour B and upended it on his path.

It's been carnage. Foxes and cats spread the rubbish as B didn't notice for a while so the other neighbors are furious. B actually called the non emergency police number (according to his son who's friends with my son and is MORTIFIED) but apparently they were VERY short with him.
I think A was entirely in the right but he lost the moral high ground when he emptied rubbish everywhere. DH thinks A is the hero he's been waiting for but I think this is because hes mild mannered and diligent with our bins so this whole fiasco is amazing to him!
So... who's the MOST idiotic?

OP posts:
DreamsAboutSummer · 04/01/2020 03:58

B is totally out of order. Angry
A is hilarious and can be my neighbour anytime! Grin

k1233 · 04/01/2020 04:36

A wanted to use his bin. Couldn't as it was full of Bs rubbish. Very reasonably asked B to remove the rubbish, agreed on a time to do so. B didn't remove rubbish. A returned it for him. I really can't see a problem. Team A here Wink

ThanosSavedMe · 04/01/2020 07:24

Goof for A. B is a dick

Ragglesnaggle · 04/01/2020 08:09

Team A all the way.

elmosducks · 04/01/2020 08:31

I am loving this and part of me is Team A, but in RL I would say that they are as bad as each other.
B is only human and forgot, it wasn't malicious.

PITA though.

Dolorabelle · 04/01/2020 08:43

I think A was entirely in the right but he lost the moral high ground when he emptied rubbish everywhere

I agree.

A's annoyance absolutely understandable. B was out of order - more for putting unbagged rubbish into the bin than forgetting to put the bin out - but tipping it all over the drive wasn't a great thing to do.

But understandable.

Still it detracts from the fact that B has behaved very badly.

FrancisCrawford · 04/01/2020 08:49

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CodenameVillanelle · 04/01/2020 08:51

A was in the right. He was left with a bin full of rotting shite and the dockhead B hadn't removed it as agreed, so he returned it. Was A supposed to bag it up himself?

CodenameVillanelle · 04/01/2020 08:51

Dickhead obv

fastliving · 04/01/2020 08:54

Christ almighty. The day I'm houseproud about my bin is the day you can take me out back and shoot me.

This ^^

My bin was grim when I got it with my house, never occurred to me to clean it.
It's still grim and I don't bag up all of my rubbish and I empty my hoover directly into the bin.
Yes it's gross, but it's the inside of a bin which sits outside?
Those who bag or double bag your rubbish are contributing massively to the single use plastic problem the planet has 👏

Roussette · 04/01/2020 08:59

Those who bag or double bag your rubbish are contributing massively to the single use plastic problem the planet has

Our bin men often reach into the bin and take the bags out and throw the bags into the lorry. And leave what is left in there, so we have no choice but to bag it up. I can't imagine emptying the hoover directly into the bin, it would just stay in there!

pictish · 04/01/2020 08:59

A all the way!

B ‘forgot’ to put the bin out and ‘forgot’ to clean it out but he didn’t forget to fill it up with all his surplus rubbish did he? He’s a lazy, advantage-taking wanker. B was quite simply making A take responsibility for his own shit.
Not saying that I would empty rubbish onto the path myself but I bet B won’t seek to treat A like a doormat again. Cheeky bastard.

Thewheelsarefallingoff · 04/01/2020 09:06

They both sound like awful neighbours (B slightly worse). It is karma that they ended up next door to each other. Grin

Inca2012 · 04/01/2020 09:55

Don’t understand the pp saying B made a mistake or forgot. Dumping unbagged rubbish in the bin for days on end isn’t an act of forgetfulness. And if he was just the laid back type he would have apologised and cleaned up his mess. He didn’t. Like others have said he thought they’d be no consequences and when there were consequences he phoned the police 🙄. That’s not the behaviour of a laid back guy who just isn’t as uptight about bins. He’s an entitled arse.
‘A’ emptying the bin is a bit ott, but if I was a neighbour I wouldn’t blame him. There wasn’t much else he could do that wouldn’t inconvenience himself more and let ‘B’ get away with it.

pictish · 04/01/2020 10:00

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pictish · 04/01/2020 10:03

Sorry wrong thread, have reported.

RoyalChocolat · 04/01/2020 10:04

Team A here.

chilling19 · 04/01/2020 10:56

Excellent bin war thread! 👍

thetreeisstressingmeout · 04/01/2020 11:01

Who doesn't bag up their rubbish??!?!??

GameChange123 · 04/01/2020 11:09

Ha someone should report them to council for stripping / littering

GameChange123 · 04/01/2020 11:13

Oops anti-virus fail fly tipping not *stripping!

Perhaps some of the affected neighbours could send large bits of rubbish unstamped in the post so offende r has to pay excess postage charge. That might teach them a lesson

NomNomNomNom · 04/01/2020 11:13

B is the CF and A lost his patience and shouldn't have dumped rubbish everywhere.

GameChange123 · 04/01/2020 11:15

I give up with auto correct (* anti virus wtf!)

NomNomNomNom · 04/01/2020 11:16

B is only human and forgot, it wasn't malicious.

This is clearly not true. There's no reason to have put unbagged food waste into A's bin, that wasn't an accident. If he had every intention of putting the bins out and forgot he would be apologetic and go clear out the bin immediately but didn't. B is clearly lazy and couldn't be bothered to clear up his own mess and thought he could get away with it.

Butchyrestingface · 04/01/2020 11:26

I think A was entirely in the right but he lost the moral high ground when he emptied rubbish everywhere

Tbf to A, they couldn’t reasonably have predicted that B would a) not notice rubbish strewn all over the place and then b) rather than pick it up, call the non-emergency no (wtf!)

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