To feel shaken by a dirty phone call?

[leostar1994]

I think from someone I used to work with. I obviously have no way of verifying this but I recognised the voice. If it is who I think, then he is also a friend of my boyfriend of three years and so it's definitely overstepping a line.

I’ve reported it to West Mercia police and they’ve given me a number to call with a reference to quote should it happen again. I wasn't originally going to do this but after thinking about it for a couple of hours I thought it was the right thing to do.

It was a no caller ID number and he was whispering “do you like sex?” over and over. I asked him who he was and he said that it was his friend that had told him I like sex so I asked him over and over who his friend was and then told him to eff off and hung up. He called me back like 3 more times and I answered on the fourth time and said I would call the police and then he stopped whispering and said out loud “[my name], I want to lick your [insert word here] and [insert word here] in you” which really freaked me out! Obviously I wasn't sure if it was just a complete stranger but as they said my name, it must be someone I've met and as I say I have my suspicions.

I feel really quite shaken. My boyfriend was really surprised and comforted me. AIBU? I've never had this happen before!

Ring who you suspect and when he answers say 'oh I thought it was you'. He'll either shit himself hinking he didnt withold the number properly or if innocent think something else perfectly explainable.

Why isn't the caller charged that £1000 when it goes to court?

I just found this on here....... I know it was a long time ago but I just goggled to comfort myself really. I was just laying in bed comforting my daughter as we are both ill with Covid and unable to sleep as our chest feels heavy and I received a call with a man on a private number saying dirty things and then masterbating down the phone. I'm upset, confused, anxious, angry and just thinking why and who? I've had this number about 15 years and the same partner so can't think of who would do this? It's affected me so much

The person then called about 25 times after and then thank god gave up. I just can't think who and why? I have a family, been in the same relationship for 15 years, no other men know this number, I'm a bit older to receive this phone calls, it's just made me feel all over the place and very vulnerable. I haven't told me partner as he would go mad. The person on the phone was saying "show me how suck your bf d1ck, suck his toes, you are so pretty, and then groaning and I could hear him pleasuring himself. I really don't know what to do

@Lyn29 call the police first thing in the morning.

Sorry that’s happened to you, that’s awful

Sorry this has happened to you!

This ought to be recorded as malicious communications (Act 1988)

They can request details from the phone company by means of a data protection act form (DPA) which ought to go straight to the police liaison at the phone company. I've never heard of it costing that much but hey perhaps I'm wrong.

Unless this sort of crime is screened out (depends on their screening policy which you could ask for) but given the recent (political) drive towards preventing unwanted sexual harassment to women and girls it ought to be looked at.

Contact www.victimsupport.org.uk/crime-info/types-crime/sexual-harassment/ for more help.

You should start your own thread @Lyn29 as reopening this might bring back bad memories for the OP.
I’m sorry it has happened to you, report it to the police.

zombie

I had someone I knew intimidate me frequently on the phone in the evenings when I was dating a family member of theirs and they did not approve. I never spoke or interacted. Calls would come in waves, after the first I'd redirect my phone to the area police desk. Eventually they stopped calling.
DO NOT interact with callers.

I am sorry this happened to you but highlights the need for phone companies and police to be more helpful and make it easier quicker and cheaper to assist in tracking these people who could turn out to be serious offenders is there any campaign to push them into making access easier who can we complain to to ensure that women are properly protected and these types of crimes taken seriously and investigated properly?

Apparently the networks don't provide this information for free to the police.

This makes me reaylly angry.

There is money for police work that is deemed a priority.

Apparently harassment of women by men isn't considered a priority.

Have you ever written to your MP, @leostar1994? This is supposedly what your MP is elected for.

I would think that maybe some sort of letter-writing campaign would be in order here.

Maybe a petition.

This happened to my grandma, all sat down to eat and the phones goes, weirdo on the phone asks ‘what colour knickers are you wearing?’ Grandma doesn’t miss a beat and responds ‘actually, I’ve just shit them!’ never called again!

Sorry this happened op and other posters, I’d feel very uneasy if I recognised the voice too.
Awful the police won’t do more and their answer is for YOU to do something and change your number

Unless the phone has a listing and is in your name, that is the part that is frightening...this man knows your name. The rest is just typical "pervert fun." NEVER answer back. At the first hint of "dirt," hang up the phone. Do not gasp, or yell, or react in any way. The "fun" of this is eliciting a reaction. And DO make sure that the police know that he called you by name. That can elevate a possible (although rare) threat.

That’s fucking disgusting and has made me so angry on your behalf. What the FUCK is wrong with these men

oh zombie 🙄

I'm sorry this happened , it must of been really scary. I fantastic that you reported it.

I lived in the US when I was 19 and was working in a pizza restaurant, I answered the phone one evening while working, to deep breathing and some twat asking if I liked Cunnilingus (sp), anyway I had no idea what that was and thought it was a type of pasta, so read out the list of pasta dishes we did .....don't think that was the answer he was looking for.