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Original poster

Probably being unreasonable - indicating to driver to slow down?

108 replies

Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 14:18

I am 100% sure I'll be told that I'm an arsehole, but to be honest this day can't get much worse (not just for this reason).

So I was crossing the road. It's a long road - purely residential with 2 schools and one shop. But it's a very straight road.

Obviously, I'm presuming the limit is maybe 50kph. (Don't know as I don't drive here).

So I'm crossing the road and this BOLLOCKS in an SUV comes over the hill doing 80mph if not 90mph. I'm in the middle of the road, so being in bad fucking humour and feeling fucked off in general, I stood still in the middle of the road and waved him down (with the slow down movement). I then tootled across the road. The other small-pricked cunt of a bollocks hoots the horn at me (blasts it for 10 seconds) as he passes me by.

So, jury, which of us was the bigger lunatic? Me trying to direct traffic or the arrogant speeding bastard?

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Scarsthelot · 01/01/2020 15:01

That make you happy? I drive, I know what a car sounds like at certain speeds

All cars sound different. They can even sound slightly different from another car that is the same make and model.

Engines size, gear spacing, age of vehicle, how it's been driven etc all impacts how it sounds.

Unless you used your mind palace to deduce all this, you actually have no clue. Even with a mind palace, there still wasn't enough time

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:04

@TakingtheHobbitstoIsengard Thank you!! I was feeling as alone as I was in the middle of the road there for a while thinking this guy is just going to run me over!

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Doggodogington · 01/01/2020 15:09

So you have no idea what the speed of the road is and no idea what speed the car is going? Ok then.

Greysparkles · 01/01/2020 15:10

Considering you've used kph and mph, metres and yards I'd say you've no idea really how fast or how far away he was!

SmudgeButt · 01/01/2020 15:11

possibly he was still drunk from late night celebrations? no excuse of course....

I quite get you wanting to do this (having done similar myself) but as others have said it probably wasn't a safe thing to do. Not only could you have been flattened by the twonk it's also possible that he might have stopped and beaten you up etc

Once when I was driving round a roundabout I tooted at a car that tried to cut in despite me having the right of way. the woman driving the car took great offence and followed me for 3 miles onto and off of a motorway trying to cut in front and threatening to side ram me with her car. I finally stopped at a light and she jumped out of her car and pulled open my car door and tried to pull me out of the car - all the while shrieking like a maniac. She was a petitie size 2 type (and I'm def not) so she was unsuccessful and continued to follow me, thumping on the car when I finally stopped near (but not too close to) my house. I called the police and gave them her description and license plate. Not sure if anything was done though they did say they were going to go and have a word as she had disappeared by the time they showed up.

As I say - I'm much bigger than her and I'm sure I could have decked her if I needed to but it was still pretty scary. And what if she had a knife or gun? what if the guy in the speeding car had either of these??

TimeAfterTimeAfter · 01/01/2020 15:12

What's really going on with you, OP? Because it's not this, is it? I mean, whether a bloke drives too fast or not isn't what's weighing on your mind. Continuing to argue the toss about it is distracting you from dealing with your actual stressors.

Bloomburger · 01/01/2020 15:13

He wouldn't have had time to stop quickly enough once he saw you standing in road if he was travelling as fast as you say. You were incredibly stupid to just stand in the middle of the road but if you think so little of yourself that you are willing to risk your life to make a point then that's up to you.

Freddiefatpants · 01/01/2020 15:16

While I have no idea if the driver was indeed doing 80/90mph because the only person who knows that is him assuming his Speedo was working, I do think that he probably was speeding and driving aggressively from your description. I live in a village and it's got a straight bit through the centre and this seems to act like a magnet for some idiots, and though I don't know exactly what speed they're doing, I know it's above 30 because we have one of those light up 30 signs, I'm surprised the bulbs haven't run out. I'm fed up of taking my life in my hands every time I cross an empty road wondering if some twat will come flying round the corner and mow me down and behave like I'm the one doing something wrong. Some also overtake on the bit of road anyone in front of them doing 30. Then there's an accident and everyone laments what a lovely person the driver is and how it was a tragedy and how their life is ruined too and how they didn't mean it. It's bollocks, most people know the worst concequences of driving like an arse is killing someone else but they continue safe in the knowledge it'll never happen to them until it does.
I do think YABU to place yourself in the path of this complete idiot though, it could have ended very badly for you, but I'm glad it didn't!

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:17

As I said, it's a long road, and there are occasionally police cars speeding down the road with sirens on. This car was doing that same speed if not more.

No, there's something else going on alright but I don't want to talk about it.

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EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 01/01/2020 15:18

HmmHmmHmm

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:23

If you can imagine about half a mile or more (does that confuse the poster who doesn't like me using measurements?) of straight road with a dip in the middle and a hill at either end? I was in the dip in the middle. So while the car was accelerating, it was also coming down a steep hill. Believe me, the car was speeding.

I use kph/mph/metres/yard values as some are ones I know in certain measurements. I know for e.g 120kph is approx 80mph. That help?

All measurements are correct to the measurement unit I've given them in. EU country, so measure in both Brit and EU measurements depending on the context.

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Booksandwine80 · 01/01/2020 15:24

Sounds like he was going too quick, but we don’t know do we as you don’t either Confused

What you did was idiotic at best and at worst fucking selfish and suicidal

TheReluctantCountess · 01/01/2020 15:25

What exactly did you hope to achieve? You probably wound the driver up even more, thus adding to his reckless driving as he continues his journey.

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:27

Lol, I'm responsible for his reckless driving?

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Lizzie0869 · 01/01/2020 15:29

I agree with @SmudgeButt that what you did was very foolish, although most of us understand why you did it, and we're also sick of those lunatics who think they own the road and are a menace to other road users. But someone who is driving as aggressively as you've described could potentially be capable of violence towards you as well.

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:29

If I was suicidal, I'd have walked out in front of him. Not tried to slow him down. I was angry to be fair and just wasn't in the mood to be bullied off the road I suppose. Can't come up with anything more profound than that.

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:30

As he drove off, I was thinking to myself, 'aren't you very brave beeping your horn at me from the safety of your car you tiny dick'.

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Scarsthelot · 01/01/2020 15:35

OP I dont know what's going on.

But police cars, even with sirens dont drive at 90mph in built up areas.

Danni91 · 01/01/2020 15:36

OP you are not responsible for his reckless driving just your reckless reactions

And you do seem overly aggressive in your responses, I assume it's other peoples fault for not replying the same as you want to hear, but maybe try just letting it go?

Hopefully you both learnt dangerous driving and dangerous actions are never worth it. I'm not sure you feel better for standing in front of him or you wouldn't be posting about it. Heres hoping he feels equally as bad for beeping and driving too fast & lessons learnt all round.

ChicCroissant · 01/01/2020 15:38

So, jury, which of us was the bigger lunatic? Me trying to direct traffic or the arrogant speeding bastard?

You were the bigger lunatic OP, to answer your question. You are coming across as someone who always thinks they are right and not really thinking a situation through properly. Very impulsive.

Booksandwine80 · 01/01/2020 15:39

OP, you said yourself you stood in the middle of the road whist he was driving towards you. You may as well have walked out in front of him, would have had the same result.

Cohle · 01/01/2020 15:39

You don't know the speed limit or how fast he was going. Hmm

Your behaviour was stupid and endangered yourself and the driver. Do you have issues with anger in other areas of your life?

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Shedidnt · 01/01/2020 15:44

But police cars, even with sirens dont drive at 90mph in built up areas. Lol, you don't know this road!

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SpoonBlender · 01/01/2020 15:48

Fuck me there's a lot of apologists for arsehole drivers on here. Sort yourselves out. Car drivers have no right to be speeding.

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