To love my husband?

[BadEyeBri]

He isn't perfect. I probably do more "wifework" than I should. He's sometimes a bit pester-y for sex. He drinks a bit too much. He's the most self centred creature I've ever met. He swears and is a huffy bastard.
But he lets me use him as decompression when I've had a bad day. He loves all the many (many) animals I've filled the house with. He's never pressured me for kids. He moved to a different country just for me. I've never once doubted that he loves me.
So many posts I read could be written by me about him on a bad day. So many advising LTB. AIBU to love the bastard?

It’s your life OP if you’re happy crack on.

Nope. Dh says yabu, but that's cos he's contrary

🤮

If you are happy off you go

I mean he doesn't sound great, but presumably you know him better than us.

Sorry your bar is so low

Assuming from your post you dont have children. I think for some, the misogyny deepens after children. I thought I was relatively equal before kids, in my relationship, in my job, life in general. I did more "wifework" but it didn't seem to matter as I still had time to do the things I wanted to do as well. It affected me so much more as a mother than it did before.

Amazed by all the folks with perfect lives on MN. However do you do it? 😆

Why is your self esteem so low?

What does decompressing look like? Would he be told to LTB?

No ones perfect!

@AnneLovesGilbert what makes you think I have self esteem issues? Honestly you guys amaze me.

Ah fuck it! Love him tonight hate him tomorrow... it’s all good

Clear blue water between perfect and drinking, lazy, sex pestering, rude, selfish and grumpy love.

He sounds a bit rubbish sorry

Good for you OP, you win the award for the first smug git post of 2020.

This is pretty nauseating.

The sex pest thing makes me want to vom. Why do so many men do that, and so many women accept it as normal? We need to talk louder about this.

We love who we love, OP. Go give him a hug.

Well, I am glad you have got him OP. Means there is no chance of the rest of us accidentally ending up with him!

Surely your animals would listen to you decompressing as well as he can, without the shit stuff?

Mines pissed me right off tonight, total miserable fucking bastard! Never known such a mood killer on New Year's Eve! Told him next year I'm off out new year and he can stay in with the kids (who are too little to stay up).

Anyway happy you're happy OP!

BadEyeBri I’ve been on and off MN quite a few years and towards the latter is become quite apparent that these perfect Petes DO exist...

However I could write posts about my dh and he could do his fair share about me. But as I’ve said no ones perfect and if there is still love there then rock on

Well rather you than me love but hey, if you’re happy. They do say there’s someone for everyone

I think you accept your husband isn't perfect but love him unconditionally and I respect that! Good for you 😊 too many people labelling things and striving for a perfection that DOES NOT exist!

Clear blue water between perfect and drinking, lazy, sex pestering, rude, selfish and grumpy love

Isn’t that all men... ( joke! It’s a fucking joke!)