To be a bit [hmm] at all the life affirming New Year FB posts?

[supersop60]

That's it really. So many of my FB friends have written about how they've overcome their various challenges in 2019, and how blessed they are to be moving forwards in 2020, and how we should all count our blessings/live our best life/live every moment/ my door is always open/ etc etc.
It's all a bit icky. Just say "Happy New year"

This person is on ADs for depression, but keeps forgetting to take them, and is having an affair with a married man, no steady job and constantly borrows money from her DM.

So? Just keep scrolling.. why does it matter to you? You could always scroll past. Better yet, unfollow or hide for 30 days. The options are there.

• hide their posts

The 10 year challenge,the whole family photos wearing matching pjs, bunny ears on grown woman make me cringe. Keep it to yourself to share with your nearest and dearest.Nobody cares,you're all like sheep following the latest fad. The Marilyn Monroe quotes,life affirming quotes etc, are nonsense too,so boring!

@supersop60 what’s your point? Maybe the person on anti depressants was suicidal at the start of the year and might be doing better now, regardless of the other crap going on.

I wrote a post saying how much positive stuff had changed in 10 years, I skipped over my suicide attempt in 2014 and the fact I’ve spent 7 of the 10 years in intensive therapy and mental health care, or my multiple miscarriages as that’s not really appropriate for social media is it? Would you prefer an honest and brutal account or some slightly more superficial but well meant happy words?

Live and let live, I reckon. And also consider just hiding or unfriending the people that irritate you. It will make yours and their lives better.

What I really can’t stomach is people seeing fit to pass judgment on what others post on FB. Especially people who have struggled for whatever reason and are seeking to find positivity.

If you don’t like it, stay off FB and keep a graceful silence. Not hard.

Just don't read them then OP. If other people want to be happy/ optimistic, let them, they're hardly doing any harm with a fb post.

I prefer people who look back and take control, make plans and have goals

to people who are just stuck in a boring routine and achieve nothing, moan about the same-shit-different-day, do nothing about it and resent people who do.

Except they usually aren't. As I said previously it is just words, like with the 'my door is always open' posting. There is no substance to the posting.

I hate them too.

( I feel like a terrible person, but....)

Someone I know very well posted something about challenges of 2019, its been a tough year etc...
This person is in a loving, solid marriage. Kids are all healthy and happy ( grown up kids). She is fine financially, has a good social life... I'm puzzled.
I do think some people are just glass half full....

Yep. It's cringe

*CharityConundrum

You get what you choose on Facebook- if you're friends with vacuous people who post cringeworthy stuff, then you can't really complain that your feed is full of vacuous comments.*

I agree. If they irritate you just delete them. What I don't get is why people moan about what others post but keep them on their Friends list. Why? Just get rid.

It's not the SM what is the problem. Or the people writing about their year.
It's you and other moaners who are presumably adults and yet somehow have an FB full of people you obviously don't like🙄
Stop moaning, act like an adult and delete people or unfollow them ffs. 🤷

AllergicToAMop

I think some people are too nosey to delete the people they don't like but then moan about their posts.

@MargotB7 Yup.

YANBU! It makes me a bit sick really.

It's you and other moaners who are presumably adults and yet somehow have an FB full of people you obviously don't like🙄
Stop moaning, act like an adult and delete people or unfollow them ffs.

No. I do like them but think they're misguided/pressured by seeing others do it.

I think it's a sign of either insecurity or a rather show-off nature.

I posted a photo of myself with my DC 10 years ago and us now as they are older. I am very grateful for being their mother and seeing them grow into lovely people. I don’t care what I actually look like in the photos and I struggled to find photos of us together as we are not a photo taking family, but I like to have photo memories and share them with my closest family and friends. I did not post a monologue though, I have seen many of those

I'm only friends on Facebook with people I am actually friends with. So I'm happy to see them enjoying life or maybe just making an effort to do so. The 10 year thing might be a bit cheesy but it's not a bad thing to reflect on your life from time to time.

*No. I do like them but think they're misguided/pressured by seeing others do it.

I think it's a sign of either insecurity or a rather show-off nature.*

God forbid someone wants to boast a bit in front of their supposed friends🙄

IMHO in these times everyone could use bit of positivity and pat on a shoulder once in a while. I find it sad that it's just so common to actually bitch about someone sharing good news or success rather than saying "good job" lately.
And no. I haven't posted anything myself.

I see your point, some posts are a bit much,
On the whole though, I love seeing people's positive posts and pictures, is that not the whole point of fb? Keeping up to date with friends lives, giving support etc.
Delete the people you find irritating or just delete fb??
I'd much rather see the positive side of it than be judgmental and negative.
My daughter finished her cancer treatment last year and fb was a great support for me.
As for people saying their friends lives aren't that hard - how could you possibly know? You only know what they tell you

Let's hope your fb 'friend' isn't on Mumsnet

OP is clearly complaining about blatent insincerity.

ha do ordinary people really talk about their 'content'?

what do you call insincerity? People judge without knowing anything

take this post
Someone I know very well posted something about challenges of 2019, its been a tough year etc...
This person is in a loving, solid marriage. Kids are all healthy and happy ( grown up kids). She is fine financially, has a good social life... I'm puzzled.

the posters has no idea if that person had health scare, financial issues, marriage problems behind close doors... their "friend" might appear to have it all, whilst they are just being discreet about the shit they went through. No one has a perfect life.

I don't mind life affirming. I fucking HATE sanctimonious egotistical shit.

Does anyone really recommend deleting your friends and family on Facebook because their happy new year post was slightly annoying?