To be a bit [hmm] at all the life affirming New Year FB posts?

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That's it really. So many of my FB friends have written about how they've overcome their various challenges in 2019, and how blessed they are to be moving forwards in 2020, and how we should all count our blessings/live our best life/live every moment/ my door is always open/ etc etc.
It's all a bit icky. Just say "Happy New year"

And this year it’s literally tenfold as people have taken to summing up their decade along with the 2009-2019 photos.

I have no issue with people sharing their news and achievements on FB - it’s a social news site after all - but maybe folk don’t want to reflect on a bad year/decade or be reminded of others’ being amazing - a bit of awareness and compassion would do a lot more than empty memes and quotes about mental health.

And all the decade photo challenge shows is that phones take better photos now and most people know how to work a filter 🤷‍♀️

Well, happy new year to you OP. Hope the coming year improves your mood and allows you to appreciate the happiness of others.

Yabu

You could easily scroll past or hide it if it is “icky” to you.

There are so many miserable fuckers on here 😂

You need to remind them of the mumsnet approach to Facebook.

You can't post about nice things that have happened because that's braggy. But you also can't post about bad things that have happened because that's attention seeking. You need to aim for posts that will attract no interest or comments. Some examples:
I see the postman has a new van.
It's a bit cloudy today.
I'm going to try and get home in time for Emmerdale.

You can't post about things that you have like children or a new house because some people can't have children or buy a house. Before posting think about whether there is anything in your post that some people might not have, how your posts make every single other person on the planet feel is key.

Posting photos can be a bit of a minefield. You can post selfies as long as they aren't particularly flattering, maybe you have a slight doublechin or haven't put on any makeup. You can post food pictures as long as the food doesn't look very tasty and isn't expensive, chicken nuggets, overcooked oven chips and beans is fine.

With a bit of effort we can get Facebook back to it's true purpose, providing a dispassionate account of unremarkable events.

But this is what Facebook is all the time. If you don't like/can't tokerate this stuff, why bother being on facebook

I can't really imagine how bitter you have to be to despise seeing other people's happiness.

Would....."10 years of getting a bit older and life stuff happening....let's crack on with the next 10 years of getting older and life stuff happening", be better? Accompanied by a photo of me looking a lot bit fatter, greyer and more like my grandad?

I actually worry that a lot of these 'overcoming adversity' life reviews could be very triggering for people going through their own 'stuff' and feeling in a bad place. NY is the time for all this fresh start stuff and that can cause people depressed/facing medical issues/handling family issues/feeling bleak about some area of their lives to feel pressure to somehow magically resolve those in the coming year. It's all too easy to compare yourself to others, and those FB upbeat posts aren't always the whole story, but when you're in a sensitive place they can read that way.

Personally is stay quiet over this NY period as there are aspects of my life that I worry would trigger others (and believe me, life ain't all rosey for me, so I avoid at all costs this idea that I am some Instagram perfect life person!!!)

I can see what OP means, not because I’m ‘miserable’, but more because I don’t get it.

A year isn’t really that long, in the grand scheme of things. Yet people seem to post about how much has happened/changed that year, for every single year! While I can muse that a lot has changed for me over the last decade, I can’t say that anything groundbreaking has occurred for me within a year.

Then there’s all this “New Year, New me” tripe

I have never hit 'YANBU' so quickly.

It’s completely misguided to think this thread is about people genuinely experiencing devastating events in life. Of course nobody is going to have anything but compassion and sympathy from someone affected by loss or serious illness.

What is irritating is speaking in platitudes, endless NYE snapchat filter pics, being determined to prove that you’re the only person who’s had a tough time this year because you came back to a scratch on your car at Sainsbury’s in June. Posting Keep Calm memes.

I’m not saying I hate people who do the above, just that it’s rather eye roll worthy. It’s not that deep.

I agree with you op, I can’t stand all the FB crap either

I seem to be the only one on here who likes the ten year challenge!

I also think that a lot of the Facebook posts were done when people were pissed so take with the usual pinch of salt.

You get what you choose on Facebook- if you're friends with vacuous people who post cringeworthy stuff, then you can't really complain that your feed is full of vacuous comments.

I put 2 pics up. I look shit in both of them!

I don't mind the people who have had a shit year reflecting and hoping for the best or the photos
etc It's the braggers I can't be doing with, do they not realise how awful it comes across? You would never brag in real life conversation surely? It's poor manners if nothing else.

When I say bragging, I mean full on stuff, not people sharing good news.

Who cares how they phrase it. You sound like a right misery

It’s completely misguided to think this thread is about people genuinely experiencing devastating events in life. Of course nobody is going to have anything but compassion and sympathy from someone affected by loss or serious illness.

This (and the rest of the post). I know that some friends have gone through some dreadful times the past year /few years, and theirs generally have a more reflective tone.

The ones the OP is talking about are from the ones that post about doors always being open, if you cared that much you'd be kicking my door in, not expecting me to knock on yours, so I see it as being without much substance.

I've got FB friends who say "this is going to be their year" they're going to break glass ceilings and they're so glad to see the back of 2019 etc etc, but if you look at their posts in previous years they've been saying exactly the same thing since 2015!

I have a friend who has documented her pretty awful year on fb and the comments she's had on New Year have actually been really nice, loads of people wishing her well for 2020 etc. It's been a comfort I'm sure. The woman who listed all her dcs exam results, medals, her new car, husbands payrise etc didn't give me the same warm glow funnily I don't think it makes her the devil but it is funny.

@CameronG Yes they are. Facebook is a tool for narcissists to self promote and receive affirmation for it. In my humble opinion.

I think that the ones that give me pause are the ones that don't sound genuine, or the ones that are totally attention-seeking. I also have several friends who have had an absolutely awful year, and just say something like "Happy New year - hope this one is better". ie the friend who has just been given the cancer all-clear, or the friend who posts from hospital because her liver is packing up.

**2019 has been a year of some super highs and some super lows. I've dealt with things I never thought I could, I've accomplished things I'm so proud of and I've learnt a lot of lessons along the way. And whilst I haven't been able to post much content the last few months, it's been down to just focusing on getting my head in the right space to come back swinging! 💪

2020 will bring success and happiness within myself. I'm focused, driven and ready to actively make changes that will improve areas of my life I have only dreamt about until now.**

This person is on ADs for depression, but keeps forgetting to take them, and is having an affair with a married man, no steady job and constantly borrows money from her DM.

yawn

I prefer people who look back and take control, make plans and have goals

to people who are just stuck in a boring routine and achieve nothing, moan about the same-shit-different-day, do nothing about it and resent people who do.