To be a bit [hmm] at all the life affirming New Year FB posts?

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That's it really. So many of my FB friends have written about how they've overcome their various challenges in 2019, and how blessed they are to be moving forwards in 2020, and how we should all count our blessings/live our best life/live every moment/ my door is always open/ etc etc.
It's all a bit icky. Just say "Happy New year"

Can I just say this decade Challenge is exactly the same as the 10 year challenge a few months ago 😂 do please not realise! It's doing my head in! Also yes to the life affirming massive long messages about their year and hopes for the new. It's so cringe! I've had a bad year and feeling good for the new year but don't feel the need to tell everyone that. I wouldn't do it IRL and neither would most people.

I didn´t realise the ten year thing was a fb challenge. Several of the people on my wall have posted photos today. Tbh, I have mainly been surprised at just how much some of them have aged!

Why don't you say it on their posts then? No, thought not.

Nobody is allowed to like doing ANYTHING these days.

Why can't people just let other people express themselves however they want without tearing them to pieces? If you don't like it then don't go on it

@chinateapot wishing you and your dd all the best for 2020

And this stupid ten year challenge where you post a photo of your current self and one from ten years ago

I've just seen one of those, the person looks as if they could have been their daughter ten years ago. I've refrained from commenting, all the sycophants are saying how she hasn't aged but all I can see is how she looked like her daughter ten years ago and now looks like her mother (I know both daughter and mother).

Thankfully there are no photos of me ten years ago so I can't compare myself.

@kalinkafoxtrot45 I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad year. Hoping 2020 is calmer and less stressful for you 💐

I really dont mind the new year messages.

What really winds me up, is the dry January crap.

Your not drinking for a month.
If you have to post about it, make a big deal out of the fact you are not drinking for one single month then you really have a problem

I've had a really bad year and just posted a life affirming crap new year post. But I wanted to let my friends and family know why I have been hiding away for 6 months, and I dont have randoms on my FB so I'm fine with it, but thanks for your feedback.

YABU

I like hearing what my friends are up to and I am happy for them when things go well.

What on earth do you think Facebook is for, if not people sharing their news?

Yeah l mean if someone is getting over a messy break up, a bereavement, illness, job loss, and are looking forward to a new year of potential opportunities, they should bloody well keep quiet about it quite frankly

Why would their friends and family want to know all that shit??

I was suicidal at the start of the year and i managed to pull through it, and ended the year by starting my own business. Damn right I'm going to post some life affirming bullshit if i want to. I'm proud of myself.

Most of the people I know who have posted this have been through unimaginably hard stuff though. But it might be only small number of people know just how much they have battled.

(And I say "unimaginably hard" as someone who watched my son fight for his life twice this year (anaphylaxis) and has been caught up in a court system that is unable or unwilling to protect my children from their abusive father. )

@ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal well done!! Onwards and upwards, you've got this, etc etc

Sometimes a platitude does the job when there are no words that can really articulate how we feel. When we might be too damn tired battle weary to give a fuck whether anyone thinks it is cheesy.

I see the super warriors on my Facebook feed and I wish them the easiest and happiest of years possible.

One of my fb friends announced tonight that her child had died. I also know that several of my friends have had awful years and it's not likely to be any better next year. Therefore, it seemed rather crass to post a "Happy New Year" status. Instead I posted acknowledging that some people were going through tough times and that they were in my thoughts. Sorry about that.

@chinateapot

Much love to you and your girl. Here’s hoping 2020 is your year.

Wishing her a speedy recovery 💓

Mine are saying how deeply depressed they all are, posting loads of selfies with smiling faces but adding #fakesmile to every photo or #smilingbutdyinginside etc. One in particular is posting loads of self help stuff and how amazingly brave she knows she is for telling everyone bout her depression, telling everyone they need to do xyz to be like her when she's told me how she needs someone to save her, how she needs people to come and listen to her, etc.

Are the people who reject Facebook somehow superior to the ones that don’t? Is that the insinuation here?

It’s not really positivity though is it.

Otherwise you wouldn’t feel the need to share the optimism message.

Some of it is quite sickly - and two faced also when you know that it's actually not as it's portrayed to be.

YABU... People are entitled to post what ever they deem appropriate on their own social media. Just because I don't do new years resolutions, or no drinking January, (no point, I generally don't drink), or reflect on my life at an expected time of year, (I say expected because so many people doing it, means that it's a common thing?) or, or, or... Doesn't mean I'm going to judge my friends and/or family who do! And I certainly wouldn't go on another form of social media (like you have in this case) complaining about them. If you don't like what they post, hide them or remove yourself as a friend, nobody is forcing you to be on Facebook FFS!

And for those saying that you know it's not true, well surely that a means you are supposed to be a closer friend to the person, to be privvy to that level of confidential information about their actual day to day problems. And yet you chose to judge them, for putting on a happy "front" for whatever reason to the rest of the world. Shame on you, I don't know how you can even call yourself a friend...

Many of my friends have gone through absolutely horrendous tragedies this year, I'm pleased to see that most of them are still with us and still fighting. I don't mind if they want to sum up their year at the end of it, with a positive message and renewed hopefulness. For some of them, hope is all they have left.

Facebook is so mindless. Life's better after you delete it, honestly.

@CameronG that's exactly it, yes. It's absolute snobbery whilst forgetting that no one especially wants to read their opinions on here either. Different platform, same crap but on Facebook it's the lowest of the low apparently.

One of my friends every single year puts,
'how hard the past year has been, how she's overcome so many obstacles, how she's come back happier and stronger, Next year WILL be my year!'
She's learnt so much though so that's good

As far as I know nothing major has happened.