To think DH has a nap issue.

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Will start by saying this is not a Christmas nap have a go as everyone relaxes at Christmas and naps etc but this goes on all year round.

He's 31, fit and healthy (runs a bit) and does a desk job. No medical needs.

He works 35h week and chooses to go in for 7am to finish early. We don't need childcare for him to do so he just likes to get in (to nap presumably) but some of the time he makes dinner and does diy.

But the napping situation is out of hand. He falls asleep everywhere, in the morning, at bight, can't watch tv, has to drink coffee and coke to do long drives (and he works ah hour away so I worry about it.

He 'needs' 3 espressos and a long shower in the morning to wake up. If he doesn't get that he's dozy and drowsy and will fall asleep again as soon as he sits down.

Just been to PIL and notice that FIL and BIL are exactly the same. But I also noticed when they made coffee in the morning they made it (not joking) half the cafetière coffee and half water.

They had at least 3/4 cups before breakfast and constantly through the day which I thought was mad! I would have an anxiety attack I think if I drank 10 cups of coffee that strong a day. I had one or two a day (and I asked for weak which was what I thought was normal coffee to most other people) and that was met wit derision and calling my drinks baby coffee.

But then FIL and BIL were also dozing constantly. At 9pm they both excused themselves to get to bed. They had got up at 7. This continued all 5 days. We hadn't done any real exersize except for one day we went for a hike. BIL is 25.

Aibu to think they have a dependency on caffeine and dh is going the same way?

He's just disappeared for a nap after taking dd to the park for an hour. Said he couldn't stay up for new year if he didn't have a nap.

I find it all so bizarre we are young, fit and healthy and shouldn't need to nap all the time?

Dies he snore at night? Could be a symptom of sleep apnoea. Or he could just be lazy!

Get his vitamin levels checked, coupd be vitamin D deficiency.

They all snore quite badly.

Type 2 diabetes; low thyrois; depression; low iron? Well worth checking out.

I suspect too much caffeine is the main issue here! I have 1 or 2 coffees a day (normal strength) and after a few hours I begin to feel tired like all the energy has been used up!

I would also be worried about diabetes, does he have any other symptoms?

Maybe a blood test as a general health check would be worthwhile?

The thing that worries me the most is that his grandfather died of leukamia at 35. But he won't admit anything is wrong only that he needs naps!

Agree with pp, sounds like sleep apnoea or a vitamin B/D deficiency. Could just suggest he take multivitamins anyway, but it'll take them a while to build up even if it's that

Sorry. Just saw the snoring. Might need a sleep clinic checker but I imagine a Dr wanting to check iron etc first

Yeah a blood test would pick up on most of these possibilities!

He had an op last year and had bloods done then and other checks and nothing came up then and he's always napped.

Can people just be really really tired all the time?

I'd persuade him to see a gp and get a sleep study done

It's quite likely sleep apnea.

Not normal for a healthy adult.

Bloods would not show sleep apnoea

Could have an undiagnosed medical condition? Or maybe he just needs more sleep than the average person? I have a condition which makes me sleep excessively at times. It was only diagnosed in the last couple of years but I have been like this for most of my life. I hate it, but when I need to sleep I really need to sleep. I don't drink coffee very often and I'm not sure about that side of things.

Narcolepsy?

Odd that his family are the same though but he really shouldn't need all that coffee to keep awake

Odd that his family are the same and dont want to panic you but I would get him to get checked at his gp. My h has a serious heart condition and this is one of the symptoms that alerted us.

I need more sleep than DH. Naturally around 9 hours a night vs his 6 hours. I stay up until midnight to go to bed at the same time as him, up at 6.30 for kids/ work. Consequently I live on coffee and still tend to doze if sat still, which wins DH up no end as to him I’ve had loads of sleep. I do feel constantly exhausted though!

Does he do any exercise?

I need about 9 hours sleep per night, but I wake up easily and don’t feel tired or need to nap throughout the day - I can’t remember the last time I had a nap! If his whole family are like it it could be hereditary maybe? But definitely not usual, I think he needs to see his GP.

sounds like sleep apnea to me, (I have it and before I got my CPAP machine I could sleep 10 hours a night, have a nap in the afternoon and still be nodding off at 9.30 pm. Never realised that altho I was asleep I was actually waking many many times an hour. My diagnosis and sleep machine have literally revolutionised my life) Also worth pointing out sleep apnea contributes to higher incidence of many serious diseases, stroke etc. Def worth getting it checked out

I am the same but I have MS...

Yes he runs a couple of times a week but not excessively and he sometimes forgets!

We don't get 9h a night really as we have a dd (8) who gets up at 7. And he's up at 6 on a weekday. I'd say we get about 7.5/8h a night

Yes it's his whole (male side of the) family. His mums normal, stays awake like a normal person all day ha ha

I remember going to the doctor before complaining I was tired all the time, having to nap etc - it kept being fobbed off as due to having kids, shift work, recovering from pneumonia months earlier etc - despite me saying this was new (ish) - and I'd been doing shifts for years

Was only when I collapsed (in work - in a hospital) that it was really taken seriously. It's not normal to be like that (in my case it was b12 levels - but it was only after several blood transfusions that I realised just how bad I'd felt)