Aibu to play dumb to implied demand

[8MinutesToSunrise]

So I'm off sick and my little boy is with his dad/my ex today. Ex texts saying 'we will be at a+b's this evening'. I guess I'm asking aibu to play dumb and I pretend I don't understand that the translation for his message was 'I demand you pick ds up from my friends (they were our friends but ghosted me when he left) house because I'm having fun'. Why can't he just ask me if I mind. If he'd asked I'd have said sure, no worries. Even though it will be very uncomfortable for me. But the fact he didn't bother to ask just makes me want to stamp my feet! It's just basic politeness isn't it? I always make sure we're home for pick ups unless I've got a very good reason and I've asked him first.

Just reply with 'that's nice dear' and see if he expands.

I'd play dumb and see if he says anything else. Something along the lines of 'Ah, that's lovely! Have a nice time!'

“Oh lovely, have fun”

“How lovely, pass on my regards to them”

Agree with pp! Say sounds nice tell us the response!

Enjoy. Git.

Hinters 🙄🙄

Be bold. Say: 'Have fun. I'm ill in bed so please can you text when you're on your way to drop him back here, in case I fall asleep. Thanks.'

Just reply with enjoy yourself and wait for his reply. If he can't ask the question then ignore and reply to whatever his texts actually say.

Be bold. Say: 'Have fun. I'm ill in bed so please can you text when you're on your way to drop him back here, in case I fall asleep. Thanks

I like this one! 😂

Yes play dumb. That’s shitty of him. But heck the friends don’t sound great so be pleased you have nothing to do with them now. I know it’s hard though.

Yep, as PP said, just a have fun! Will do :)

‘That’s nice, hope (DC’s name) is having a lovely time’ should suffice.

So I asked if he was planning on dropping ds off then? His reply 'but we're closer here?'.

Not a question, and not the fucking point! Ah that man gives me rage (not helped by the steroids I'm on).

His reply 'but we're closer here?'

“Excellent. See you at . Could you drop me a text when you’re almost here as I’m unwell in bed and don’t want to sleep through you arriving!”

Yep.
I like this. Just keep dodging it and see how long it takes before he caves

Just say ‘OK. Well let me know when you’re dropping off because I’m ill in bed’ and just keep saying that - as well as ‘No, I can’t pick up’ when he eventually asks. Tosser.

I assume if he had been a man with manners perhaps he would not be your ex.

I think the not well response is the best one.

His reply 'but we're closer here?

Answer: “That’s great. It means you don’t have as far to travel and I can stay in my sick bed.”

‘Yes, I guess that does mean you are closer. Will make it quicker for you to drop DS home. Do text when you are on your way as I might pop out myself.’

Definitely go with a message like the illness one or "text me when you're setting off, I'm having a nap."
You don't need his crap.

Just stick to your guns... Your ill so shouldn't be expected to go and pick up.
message saying OK, see you at 7pm when you drop lo off (or whatever time he is due back) then don't engage in further conversation

I’d text back something like ‘that’s great, you won’t miss much of the party when you pop out to bring DS home’

Well he has asked outright now and if it's closer it seems reasonable if you usually collect him. Really irritating first text though, I'd have strung him along way longer.

these replys are golden.stick.it.out. a new year win for us all