to ask DP to refurbish house?

[Lily7050]

When DS was born DP insisted on settling DS in his house. I have my own flat with mortgage. DP insisted on urgently renting out my flat to cover mortgage payment. DP's house has not been refurbished for over 10 years. DP is not a classic hoarder but he accumulated a lot of stuff in his house over the year.
It looks like there are quite a few mice running house. DS is just 7 month old and I do not feel comfortable having a child in the house with mice infestation. DP thinks that mice are not dangerous to the child and mouse traps would resolve the problem but I know he tried traps earlier without much success.
AIBU wanting to call professional services and get rid of mice asap?
I am prepared to pay for the service as well as for new furniture and house redecoration as I find it unpleasant to live in the house in its current state.
The boiler is around 30 years old and has not been serviced for a few years. It still works but kind of on autopilot. In summer DP was unable to turn the heating off from the boiler. The boiler is located in the little cupboard adjacent to DS's bedroom.
I have ordered a carbon monoxide alarm but not sure if AIBU insisting DP to arrange boiler service or to arrange it myself?

Tbh, when DP insisted on settling DS in his house he promised to tidy up the house. However, now he puts minimum effort and does not want to refurbish the house.
I had to threaten DP that I would move out with DS to make DP to clean the little bedroom from old stuff stored there.

By staying there, you’re telling him it’s acceptable.

If SS consider the environment to be acceptable then in case I leave and my partner goes to court the court will decide that the house is adequate for a child to live there.
I need to be sure that official authorities in this country consider this house unacceptable. Otherwise I may loose my child acting unreasonably.

You can’t ring social services and expect them to tell your boyfriend to do more DIY! It’s a complete waste of their time and resources.

Why did you move in if it’s this bad?

You need to take responsibility. Move out if it’s unsafe.

Fgs where are your brains? You want SS to step in when you can clearly do something about it. Disgusting letting your child live with mice running around. What kind of a mother are you?
Why cant you move back into your place again. Put your child first, not your love life.
You are just as bad as him.

How will you lose your child? What are his reasons for not getting house up to standard?
Does he work? I’m sorry to say he sounds an unfit parent and you’re not far behind; his want to have you live there doesn’t take precedence over your DSs health and safety.
Woman up and move out u til he gets his act together!! Who actually wants SS invovment? He sounds an utter cunt.

books stored on low cabinets

Is this really a cause for concern? I assume it was much worse than books low down.

I think you need to try move back into your flat OP.

You can't be serious MolnMal

Eh, did we read the same post?

OP you can't really be serious. You are his MOTHER, you aren't helpless. It's your job to protect your child. Move the fuck out and tell him to sort it or you won't be coming back.

I actually think this is bollocks now. Nobody is that incompetent.

Otherwise I may loose my child

Why will you lose your child?
Have you involved social services yourself?

the OP's flat is on a 24 month contract however needing the flat back to live in it is a lrgally acceptable reason for terminating contract after 6 months but it is not a section 21 notice it could take a few months

more importantly it appears that as you call him DP you are not married and neither are you a tenant if you argue he can technically tell you to leave tomorrow and you have no claim on his property, even if you help with rent bills the most you will get is child maintenance
he can't stop you moving out to somewhere close you can get prohibited steps oders to stop you taking our child abroad or hundreds of miles away but not a flat in same town or next town
SS will not remove your child and give him to DP because you want to move out even if it was temporary accommodation
while low down books might not be ideal SS are not interested in that or old furniture etc,
the boiler might be perfectly ok ( it does need testing for sure) old stuff is not necessarily dangerous it is probably much better made than any modern boiler

What is actually wrong?

The boiler is 30 years old (so is ours).
The rooms need decorating (what’s stopping you doing it?).
You want new furniture (without more information, it could be just that you want different stuff. Social services aren’t going to agree that’s necessary!)
There might be mice (get traps, get people in).