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Original poster

To be slightly , say a little pissed off..

103 replies

lalalalala123456 · 30/12/2019 21:17

ok I just need to rant please..

Hubby made plans this morning to meet up with his friend to play a few games of pool at the local pub - absolutely great, go have a good time.. he promises me before he goes that he would have 3 beers and be home in time for Our 2 YO bedtime around 7pm.

7pm comes he isn’t home and he hasn’t called , I call him he said he is having too much of a great time and won’t be home until 9pm, a lot of noise in background during the phone call , I ask who he is with , he said a mix of women and men who have arrived.

9.15pm and he still isn’t home .. I go back to work tomorrow am at 7am and he has to be up watch our LO as he is currently unemployed due to redundancy.

Just seeing others opinions on how they would be feeling right at this very second , because I am feeling slightly pissed off.

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category12 · 30/12/2019 21:50

I'd wait until it's properly late before I'd get really pissed off.

NC4Now · 30/12/2019 21:52

He should have let you know, but I don’t know anyone who leaves the pub at 7pm. Even 9 is ambitious - the kind of ambition that goes out of the window after 3 pints.

SarahAndQuack · 30/12/2019 21:53

I think it's very rude. Doesn't matter if he's gone to the pub or the shops or wherever - if he said he'd be back at 7 he ought to have been the one to ring.

It's so rude to decide he can unilaterally change your mutual plans for your evening together.

I don't get why some people act like going to the pub is an automatic licence to be careless with other people's time.

DrManhattan · 30/12/2019 21:58

When you get up tomorrow make as much noise as possible.
He has been rude and selfish with his behaviour.

KaleidoscopeEyes · 30/12/2019 21:58

Who decided he was having 3 beers?

Danni12 · 30/12/2019 21:58

I think it's unacceptable because he promised you twice that he would be home by 7 and he wasn't. Plus he didn't even contact you

bigchris · 30/12/2019 21:58

1.30 to 9.30

That's an expensive drinking session for someone unemployed, I'd be pissed off

Atthebottomofthegarden · 30/12/2019 21:59

It’s a bit annoying, but he will get his just deserts tomorrow morning 🤣

Atthebottomofthegarden · 30/12/2019 22:00

Desserts 🤭

iforgotthatyouexisted · 30/12/2019 22:00

As long as he's up and capable of looking after his child tomorrow then I'd let it go and suggest he's more realistic about what time he'll be home.

Unless it takes two people to put a child to bed I don't know why it was so important he was home by 7.

Obviously you also need to make sure it's your turn next time.

BumbleBeee69 · 30/12/2019 22:02

he's been as selfish Prick.. Flowers

Original poster
lalalalala123456 · 30/12/2019 22:04

KaleidoscopeEyes He did, he said the following : ‘ I have made the decision to have 3 pints only and be home in time for bed time’

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bigchris · 30/12/2019 22:05

I think if you go drinking at 1pm it's reasonable to be home by 7
Is he having dinner out ?
Drinking culture in this country is so far gone it's unbelievable

letsdolunch321 · 30/12/2019 22:05

I would be very pissed off, my exh used to do this on a regular basis. Why can these idiots not do as discussed. If the boot was on the other foot I am 1000000% sure this behaviour would not be tolerated.

I always felt unloved and his friends came first.

Livpool · 30/12/2019 22:07

It wouldn't bother me. He will be the one looking after a child with a hangover so...

Pinkyyy · 30/12/2019 22:12

Is he home yet?

Greenkit · 30/12/2019 22:16

He's the one with a hangover and small child in the morning...

nowyoulistenheretaeme · 30/12/2019 22:18

I don’t like someone promising one thing and doing another. I had years of this. Tis rude.

And a bit of a liberty if he is spending a lot of money on the drink if he isn’t working.

MapMyMum · 30/12/2019 22:18

It would bother me, but I would go to bed and get a decent nights sleep, dont let him affect your first day back tomo.

When you get up tomo, make sure he is up before you leave, or put the 2 year old in the bed with him to make sure he cant not hear them

Original poster
lalalalala123456 · 30/12/2019 22:19

Nope not home yet !!

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Abouttimemum · 30/12/2019 22:20

Some people on here are very tolerant.
If he’d said on his way out, planning to make a day of it don’t wait around for me I’ll be in when I’m in, OR, called at 3/4/5pm and said actually I’m having a good time so I’m going to stay out. No problem.

But it’s just plain rude to behave the way he has behaved. I agree with PP that our attitude towards alcohol in this country is disgusting. It’s no excuse for a lack of common courtesy.

letsdolunch321 · 30/12/2019 22:20

Lalalala, you must be so mad waiting for him 😟

WatchOutLurkerAbout · 30/12/2019 22:21

I would be mad. Tbh I'd be sending an extremely fucking snotty message about being at work tomorrow and him having to look after dc.

But then again. When I get angry about stuff like this I get quite pissy. Blush

Collision · 30/12/2019 22:21

Is he back yet?

Pinkyyy · 30/12/2019 22:24

I suppose it depends a lot on how behaves the rest of the time. How long ago was he made redundant? Is he actively looking for work? Does he pull his weight around the house? If he's usually great and is genuinely just having a good time, I'd let it slide.