To ask for your Christmas CFuckery stories?

[bluesteakandcheese]

I am currently laid up in bed feeling like utter garbage, spent last night being sick so I'm exhausted but can't sleep.
Anyway - as you can imagine I'm pretty bored (DH is staying away from me in case I've got a virus apart from to bring me water) so WIBU to ask for your Christmas CF stories to keep me entertertained?

Runner is she always so mean? I'd have got dh to ask her for a contribution to pay for the lunch and if he was chicken I'd have asked her straight out.

I don't have any personal ones, but a good friend who has suffered a MiL who clearly hates her has a long history of getting crap gifts. The best one was the small beaded purse (of the type you got as a child) with half a packet of Trebor extra strong mints in it.

@Butterfly3005 this is the worst story on here. Were you expecting her later that day? I think you have a DH problem, allowing here to act and speak to you like that.

I would have asked her to leave and definitely not allowed all your hard work to be spoilt be her demands.

You need to stand up to her, how dare she wake you up Xmas morning.

We live abroad so don’t spend Christmas with our families (airfares astronomical), but we usually invite friends and any Christmas orphans we come across to celebrate with us. This year it was just a table for four, as many of our expat friends have left / returned home. The other couple are Eastern Europeans like my DH and have joined us for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day the last two years (since we met). They’re our neighbours too. Traditionally European celebrations take place on Christmas Eve, and the last two years we’ve hosted both the Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. It was commented a few weeks ago that it’s their turn to do Christmas Eve but we’ll still do Christmas Day, which they agreed to. Then week before Christmas, CF1 made a big fuss of how much pressure he’s under at work and that Christmas Eve is going to be a struggle and they’ll both be at work on the 24th, so dinner might not start until 8.30pm or 9pm as they’ll need so much time to prepare (traditionally it’s 12 dishes, mostly buffet style, and I find it hard work as they’re not dishes I grew up with), and laid it on thick. Guess what, we ended up hosting Christmas Eve too. They turn up, beautifully dressed etc, I notice her nails and commented.. they’ve had the day off after all so she spent the afternoon getting a massage and nails done while he played Xbox. my DH did say “You could have hosted after all”, and she said “It was nice to have an opportunity today to relax after a busy year”
They came back for Christmas Day, but after lunch announced they were “popping home for a nap and we’ll come back around 6pm for dinner?”
Across Christmas Eve and Christmas Day we served prawns, lobster (cooked from raw collected live Christmas Eve from fishmongers), ham, turkey and beef plus traditional dishes which had to be cooked from scratch (dumplings, soups, etc) so a lot of time and effort went into the meals. He trained as an executive chef, but is now a regional sales manager in a different industry, but they turned up to all meals empty handed - not even a bottle in their hands. after dinner they made a big deal of inviting us for New Year’s Eve for dinner. We arrived last night to tomato soup for starters, followed by prawns and spaghetti noodles with prawns in a tomato cream sauce (frozen prawns) and dry cod filets. Dessert was a scoop of ice cream with canned fruit.
We were then treated to a domestic argument over a broken mug.

Next year we’re booking a week in Spain.

i havnt drank for almost 20 years, since i was 21 (story starts with a bottle jack daniels and a straw and ends in my stomach being pumped). all my family know i dont drink. not even champagne at toasts. DM bought me a bottle of hendricks gin. apparently she tried it at a charity luncheon a few months ago and it was lovely so thought i may love it. she asked me to open it "to try it" several times on christmas day. I said no, I dont drink. She then tried to take it on her way out "as it was a shame to waste it". Thing is, this is the 4th year running she has bought me alcohol so I was ready for it and stopped her taking it with her. she was fuming, called me wasteful and has not spoken to me since christmas day!!

@sleepingkat2020 that's outrageous! So your own mother basically buys something for herself, gifts it to you and then leaves with it because she knows full well you won't use it?!
Good for you for keeping hold of it, what a bloody cheek

@Oldishusernewname she has done it for a few years. the first one i was so shocked i let her take it. after all, it would go to waste sat in my house so what she was saying was essentially right. i then realised afterwards. shes very "appearance based". she will buy you expensive chocolates and alcohols and things, despite the fact you dont like them. nothing is ever personalised to you. my favourite chocolate is galaxy (cheap and easy to get hold of obviously) but she doesnt care know and insists on buying me expensive hotel chocolat ones. i dont eat them. DH loves it. shes the kind to also promise you things that never materialise. shes not short of money either, very well off. its baffling but shes always been like this. i keep as low contact as possible.

So I think I might be a CF lol. DH and I have 2 sons. DH has 2 ds who have 3 ds between them. About 4 years a go I was so sick of the rubbish/useless/no thought going into , presents they'd buy my kids , so told them We were only buying for MIL & FIL. Since then i have done this BUT they give my sons £10each in a card!! Should i feel guilty? .......cause i dont lol x

confuddledtown just wow! What a spoilt brat. My own mum spoils her grandchildren-christmas is for children ffs. What a cow. Stand your ground.

My DM gave my husband of 20 years 3 pairs of socks.. Which were part of a set, but not all of the set!!! 😂

@Nearlyshitmypantsthere so your husbands sons got their half brothers shit gifts so you stopped buying them gifts from you and said you were only buying for your inlaws from now on? so your step sons and your step grandchildren get nothing?

@Nearlyshitmypantsthere DSISTERS. i get it now. YANBU, you informed them you were no longer buying, its their choice whether to carry it on and give your sons money. you were upfront.

Not sure if this is cheeky but my husband's side of the family always get me crap presents. This year he told them not to get me any chocs as I'm on a diet (keto and it's going really well). But Prosecco would be greatly appreciated.

Well, this year I got 1 bottle of Prosecco, a small box of knock off Guilyan-style chocs and a mini bottle of Prosecco with a candle . Nothing from my MiL who gave both my husband and 3 DC £250 each. She also did a "lucky dip box" which contained the dregs of her trip to the auction house.

My children sent her a thank you email but she complained that they never thanked her for the tat in the lucky dip.

Next year I want nothing from them.

Hope you feel better soon bluesteakandcheese

Time to roll out the cf that is my exh (thank goodness) and his family

First Xmas he comes to my dm and dsd’s. Refuses to get out of bed so everyone is sat waiting on him to get up for 45 minutes then semi privately complains about the fact that he got hardly any presents from my family- dm and dsd spent about £150 on him and he got included in the family stockings from dsd’s parents. He didn’t thank anyone for anything and sat upstairs binging on chocolate while I helped make lunch. After lunch he sat with the elderly dsd’s dps talking about death and shared a couple of horror stories about him finding old folk in the care homes he worked in badly injured after falls I’d tried breaking up with him a half dozen times by this point in our relationship but he’d trodden me down so I said nothing. Oh and when I received my gift from his mum I got 6 pairs of 22-24 knickers when I was a size 16.

Following year we went to his mum’s. I took wine and nice chocolates with presents for her and his dsis and nieces and nephews. Was told we were heading to dsis for lunch and that I had to stump up £20 towards the cost of lunch. Still to this day I don’t know if he gave her the money or not but she and her family sat down to turkey and all the trimmings whilst me, the ex and his dm sat down to a frozen steak pie from Iceland with some lumpy mash his mum brought round.

Other present highlights from his dm include a used calendar from the year before with his families birthdays written in, a budgie toy I’d bought for her budgie and a box of black magic she’d opened, bitten one of the chocs, realised she didn’t like dark chocolate and then wrapped it up for me. I used to spend at least £100 on his dm on top of what he’d get her buying things I knew she’d like.

I don’t miss him or his family but my dd is refusing to say what they gave her for Xmas so I imagine it’s not just me...

@Lanurk after the first Christmas you still had a child with him

I know not my finest moment. I also married him so he has parental rights and access too. Meh

Sleepingkat2020 , no sorry , I should have wrote Its my husband sister , so our nephews. For years I bought them gifts I knew they'd love , some quite expensive, in return my sons got deodorant, shower gel , that sort of tat. So after saying I was stopping , now they give my sons £10 in a card but I give nothing.

Sleepingkat , yes lol , sorry I never had my glasses on, that's exactly it.. I'm glad you think I'm not being unreasonable, as although I said I dont feel guilty, sometimes I do........

Pre kids we used to buy for the adults. But once kids came along just for the kids.

We were the last to have a child, so one Christmas I was pregnant and we received from BIL and SIL, beers for DH (which his brother drank) and chocolates for me, infused with geranium oil that induces miscarriage. We’d already lost three pregnancies, so I wasn’t best impressed.

My mil bought a bedding set. I thought ok quiet nice not what I would have picked. It's gold. Then I noticed it was a king size set. Got DH to message and say thank you it's very nice but sadly no good for us can they return or know anyone who can use it? She replied oh just take it in 3 inches either side.

I had some friends over after Christmas for a buffet, all the food was provided for by myself and DH. They bought two beers for themselves and nothing else. Ate as much as they could and left without so much as a thank you. I should know better really as they have form for this.

There used to be a warehouse type place here that would have very good public sales a couple of times a year. One year I picked up a craft kit that I thought dn would like - it was in the £1 section, so being2 me I got her some other stuff (from elsewhere) to go with it.

DS opened his present from them, which I recognised as also coming from this place, they'd had loads of them....on the 10 pence table!!

Our gifts come covered with the reduced stickers all over them or are obvious regifts with bits of the original wrapping paper still on them (we dont see them until boxing day)

My daughter got a Birchbox for Christmas my older son got a box of biscuits & my younger son a car from Poundland, my sister is far from skint I spend £20 each on her children not a huge amount but I try to put some effort into what I buy them, my other sister got us all a hamper which when adding up it probably came to £15, all their children get selection boxes off me next Christmas!

I love my FIL, he is the best.... but.... every Christmas he buys me a generous gift voucher for for a shop I loved when I was a teenager... which is when I first met his son.... it's been about 30 years now and I'm pushing 50 and fat. My DH has outright told his dad that I am too old now for the teenager shop but it hasnt sunk in... compared to some of what I've seen above though... I'm clearly the lucky one...

Hubby's brother. 55, never married, doesn't work, no hobbies, or actual life.Bit of a hermit really!Owns 4 properties, 3 of which he rents out and lives on the rent
His own house is falling down but he won't spend a bean on it.
Every year for 17 years he has come to us for Christmas day. This year we went out to eat and he wouldn't come as he would have had to pay.
Day after Boxing day we invited the in laws for tea, so BIL got invited too. He brought 4 cans of lager and a bottle of wine.
He had 5 plates of food,drank all the lager he brought plus 4 cans of hubby's,and took the wine home with him....