Was she ungrateful or was I inconsiderate?

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My sister and I share an Amazon Prime account. Yesterday was her birthday so I decided to take inspiration from her Amazon browsing history. I ended up spending £250+ on her gifts. She guessed what I had done and told me it was a bit "uninspired" but she was happy with what she had been given. Tbh I did take the time to consider which items she would like best and they were wrapped beautifully. I also decorated her living room and arranged a decent meal. AIBU?

Next time she'll be getting a very original and inspired gift from the local charity shop.

My sister used to behave like this. She would sulk every year that her presents were wrong, useless, not thoughtful enough. She is just an ungrateful half glass full person.

One year her boyfriend who was absolutely mad about her went to town on present buying for their first birthday together. He arrived with a mountain of gifts. She gleefully unwrapped them and seized the opportunity to use them to berate my mother and I "see, he bought me a watch... I can't believe you never thought to buy me a watch" etc. The next day I heard her begin to whinge about the gifts he bought her, calling them chavvy and embarrassing.

I couldn't even tell you how she reacts now as I make no effort whatsoever and pay no attention to her reaction. In fact I rarely buy her gifts, what is the point? For her last significant birthday I handed her a generous voucher and told her to buy herself a nice handbag.

She was definitely ungrateful!

YABU.. to spend that much unless it was a special birthday!
However, inspired way to do it!

Rather entitled sister? Have some experience there!

Uninspired - wow. £20 voucher next year.

I think there is a difference between checking someone’s browsing history and their wish list. I have lots of books that I want to read in my basket waiting to be paid for. My daughter often accesses that for ideas. And I assume you share a account so you can share iBooks?

Ungrateful beyond belief.
Next year get her a bottle of wine from Aldi (although I’d be really pleased with that tbh), so a Baylis and Harding gift set then.

I’ll be your sister 😘

I would say that's fine but dont expect anything else from me in future with that reaction. There is no need for rudeness.
100% I would go to the party now and get sh**faced! I'd then be a cow and say I'm having to drink the cheap stuff because I spent all my money on my sisters crappy uninspiring present. Cheers! HNY!

HUGELY UNGRATEFUL -And you ought to tell her that.

I would LOVE you as a sister Its not the amount you spent but the thoughtfulness. I wish someone would decorate the sitting room for my birthday x

I think it sounds a lovely thing to do. You talk about being close and knowing her better than anyone. Cant you just let her know that her comments upset you?

What a brat

She needs to grow up!

It sounds like you put a lot of thought into her presents, she sounds like a nightmare & needs telling!

*This is so sickeningly Princessy. ‘I wanted a big speshul surpwise!!! Where’s my lovely, speshul jewellery?!’ Christ alive.

I think for the sister’s next birthday I’d be inspired to spend the money on a pair of steel toe-capped boots and treat her to a surprise kick in the foof.*

@StillCoughingandLaughing howled at this that much I forgot what the aibu was 🤣🤣

OMG. Where was she brung up.

Wow! You sound like a brilliant sister & she sounds selfish & ungrateful! I'd have to call her out on it. What's she normally like in terms of present buying for you?

but I know my sister better than anyone

Apparently you don’t, since her being an ungrateful mare has come as something of a surprise.

Wow thats a brilliant idea!!! You have inspired me to do that next year for my husfand! Frigging genius!!!!!

You're both right.

You did a wonderful thing and she should have been more grateful, no question BUT £250 on Amazon?

You could have taken her to the theatre and a meal or a mini break or a Michelin star meal or an overnight shopping break.

You need to be more creative in the future and she needs to lead by example.

You could have taken her to the theatre and a meal or a mini break or a Michelin star meal or an overnight shopping break.

Or she could have bought her a Dyson, or filled her freezer for a year, or signed her up for a regular charity donation. She didn’t do any of those things. What’s your point?

That is a lot of money for her to be unimpressed.
No siblings here so can't give any argument in your defence I am afraid.

I think it's fine, really the only point is that you chose them and she liked them. If yes to both, then a good thing surely?

OP you are welcome to share my amazon and be my sister. Uninspired gifts are my favourites. Bath sets, perfume, slippers the more people "hate" them the more they're the type of gift I love. Also rum 😂