To be upset ...

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My ex husband wants to take my 5 kids( we have 6 but ones a baby who's breastfed and will stay with me) to his ONE bed flat on New Year's Eve to see the New Years in with his girlfriend and her 3 kids (only one of her kids is my husband) and I'll be at home with baby alone and won't get to see the New Year's Eve in with my children. Also there will be 8 children and 2 adults staying in a one bed flat!! I want to see the new year in with my children!! He's got his new family. Why should I be without my kids on New Year's Eve just because he left me!

What a nasty excuse for a man.

Tell him you have already made plans for New Year's Eve. He can have the kids during the day on New Year's Day but he absolutely will not have 5 children, never mind 8, staying overnight in a one bed flat.

I think you need to get contact arranged so you know in advance exactly who will be having the children and when.

If I’m honest though, I would imagine he and his girlfriend along with at least the baby will probably sleep in the sitting room and all the other children in the bedroom and they will probably find it a great adventure. It’s no different really to going camping and being in such a small area as a one off wouldn’t be an issue for me.

@Tistheseason17
You can’t just ask children what they want to do and follow that. What type of parenting is that? Especially as they are young children!

@Dawsoncreek
How's the view from your high horse! ? I bow down to your perfect parenting..... duh 🙈
Children do get asked about their parents and how they feel about them during residency discussions even at a young age....
Anyway it was a suggestion for OP - Not an opportunity for you to suggest I'm a bad parent. Gee, thanks...

@Tistheseason17
Asking young children which parent they’d rather spend time with is bad parenting. Period. It forces children to say what they think the parent wants to hear. It pits the parents against each other, in the child’s mind. It’s about doing what is best for the children & that’s not always what children want. If holding that view places me on a “high horse”, I’ll happily stay on it.
P.S. You don’t need more than three dots for ellipses. You are welcome.

@Dawsoncreek
It's a long way to fall.

HTH