Hubby wants to go do his hobby as there is a break in the weather

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So it has been raining for says, this morning we have a break in the weather and hubby wants to go off and practice his hobby in the sunshine as the rain will be back around lunchtime. All well and good so far,but we are going away for new year and he has to get a fence sorted so that we can leave the dog here (the plan is for the dog to stay at a neighbors house,but if he doesn't get on over there, she will bring him home and just come and take for walks and feed). Was ibu to tell him he needs to secure the fence before he can go off on his jolly?

As long as he's prepared to definitely fix the fence in the rain this afternoon I'd just let him get on with it.

So he's going to play golf then?

Did he ask for your permission? If so, you weren't unreasonable. If he didn't, you were.

I think he wants to go out on his bike.

Cue lots of pointlessly bitchy speculation about the hobby, while missing the point entirely.

Ah the elusive "hobby"

Op, yanbu.

Btw

As long as he puts the fence up later I can't see the problem.

Did he ask for your permission?

He is an adult not a child FFS. Would you have said the same thing of a woman had posted?

OP he knows the fence needs to be done so YANBU. When are you supposed to be going away?

No, not unreasonable at all.

Chin his bike to the fence until he finishes it.

That's hardcore sashh

So the dog will potentially be left at home alone except for feeding and walks? Overnight? I'd be planning better dog care than fence repair.

So if the dog doesn't get on next door, it will be alone overnight? Apart from the mysterious hobby, this is massively unfair on the dog. Is it used to being left for such long periods? And the need for a secure garden, will the door be being left open? If so, massively unfair on the neighbourhood when it goes out and barks.

Any reason you can't sort a fence yourself?

FFS are you seriously planning to leave a dog on it’s own in the garden while you go away? If I was your neighbour I’d report you to the RSPCA (not that they’d care, but I’d do it anyway).

I don't think I've ever heard anyone IRL use the word "hobby".

I'm always bemused by the number of people who seem to think that telling us their partner plays golf, or goes cycling, will in some way be identifiable.

I'm waiting for the day that an OP comes on and says that the hobby is something truly niche - like newt wrestling or toenail clipping curation...

The planned arrangements don’t sound v nice for the dog!

He's an adult perfectly capable of doing his hobby and fixing a fence without his DP trying to micromanage.

Also, the arrangements for the dog don't sound fair. You'd be better off finding a better dog sitting arrangement.

The dog would just be left in the garden?

Let him go with your blessing. You can laugh at him needing to fix it in the rain later.

I think he can choose what order he does things in himself.

Any reason you can't fix it?

YABU because you have not arranged proper care for your dog when you are away. It's the middle of winter and is going to be cold, most likely freezing.

The fence is not the issue here, what is an issue is the lack of respect and care that you both have for your poor dog.

@BaolFan 😂 nor me! In all my (over 50!!) years on this earth, nobody has ever said to me, "I'm off to do my hobby this afternoon" 🤷‍♀️😂

It's all so very mysterious here on MN...because of course, it's so outing to say golf/cycling/fishing/climbing 🤦‍♀️

WHY do people insist on never mentioning what the bloody hobby IS?

They'd rather construct awkward sentences like "DH wants to go and do his hobby"

Which is just weird when you could say "DH wants to play golf" or whatever.

Go on OP...what's the top secret hobby?