Hubby wants to go do his hobby as there is a break in the weather

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So it has been raining for says, this morning we have a break in the weather and hubby wants to go off and practice his hobby in the sunshine as the rain will be back around lunchtime. All well and good so far,but we are going away for new year and he has to get a fence sorted so that we can leave the dog here (the plan is for the dog to stay at a neighbors house,but if he doesn't get on over there, she will bring him home and just come and take for walks and feed). Was ibu to tell him he needs to secure the fence before he can go off on his jolly?

All the posters saying 'can't you put up the fence yourself'.

I'm not actually convinced that most of you would manage to put up a new fence by yourself with no help (I'm looking out at my own wooden panelled fence here, that required 2 men and a whole day to complete. They are huge, heavy 7ft x 10ft panels and needed both men to lift them into place!) Plus the digging out for, and hammering in of, the extremely heavy 7 foot concrete posts.

I'm by no means averse to DIY (and I live alone so do most things without male help!) but in this instance, I think you are being unfair to the OP. I'd have a go at a small repair to an existing fence...but she's already stated that this is new fencing that needs putting up, so it's likely to be extremely heavy.

I do agree, though, that he should simply be reminded that it's a job that he has said he'll do before they go and then left to 'be an adult' about his time management.

If it wasn't done in time, I'd actually go without him...as it wouldn't be safe to leave the dog at that point 🤷‍♀️

'Hobby'? No one in real life uses this word OP.

Well over half the posts following mine of 10:06 entirely back-up what I said about why women aren't taken seriously!

He goes Maypole dancing? I know all about that - he might as well be off swinging.

Well played, OP

You had me until fucking maypole dancing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

C’mon Op, maypole dancing when it’s not even April, let alone May?? He’s having an affair. I bet her fences are pristine 🔨

LTB.

Right. So you are planning to dump your dog on your neighbour, but have no idea whether the dog will "get on" ok there?
Why have you not put more thought & preparation into this?
Did it not occur to you that the dog is not a parcel, & that you should let him stay with neighbour a few times to get him used to it, before booking your holiday?
And if it doesn't work out, you are fine with the dog being left alone at home apart from the bare necessity of walks, & happy about him being left outdoors in the winter, probably barking his head off & certainly lonely, bewildered & scared?

I don't give a fuck about your DH's hobby or fence fixing schedule. You are unfit to own a dog.

'raining for days', yet climate more temperate than the UK.

Maypole dancing is clearly a distraction from the crap outing hobby mystery, but I bet the basic concept is true and the kennel is fabrication to cover for being pulled up on leaving a dog home alone. Or it is actually a crate in the house rather than a kennel in the garden.

YABU purely to your dog. That’s not good planning, sorry.

Can I ask why you're putting up a fence, and not a brick wall? Once it's done a wall is much longer lasting, lower maintenance, and better at keeping animals in or out.

You should get a cat - much less trouble than dogs.

Can I ask why you're putting up a fence, and not a brick wall?

Cost. Speed. Ability to DIY.

'raining for days', yet climate more temperate than the UK.

Does it only rain in cold countries?

raining for days', yet climate more temperate than the UK.

Yes because it never rains in forrin land does it?

Yabu to tell him it needs be done before he heads off. Yanbu to remind him that it needs to be done by xxx because of xxxx.
If he says fine I will go to golf and then do it in the rain if I have to this is his prerogative.

miljea I think the one advising to get a cat might win your contest of most irrelevant post...🤣

Hobby and hubby in the same post.

My blood pressure

Disgusted by your lack of concern for your dog.

Can't you do the fence?

Hobby and hubby in the same post.

I thought it was just me that had itchy teeth reading this!

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