Hubby wants to go do his hobby as there is a break in the weather

[ayvasili]

So it has been raining for says, this morning we have a break in the weather and hubby wants to go off and practice his hobby in the sunshine as the rain will be back around lunchtime. All well and good so far,but we are going away for new year and he has to get a fence sorted so that we can leave the dog here (the plan is for the dog to stay at a neighbors house,but if he doesn't get on over there, she will bring him home and just come and take for walks and feed). Was ibu to tell him he needs to secure the fence before he can go off on his jolly?

Is the hobby Austrian Mountain Yodelling?

Op fixes the fence and dh does his hobby
Then they have sex all afternoon

So long as he still has time to fix the fence later he should be able to decide how to spend his own time.

My DH has disappeared off this morning to do his hobby too... and I'm not telling any of you what it is, so nerr!

I don’t get all the secrecy over hobbies either. So he plays golf, cycles, flies a model plane, Morris dances....no one cares. Just say.

Poor bloody dog. If you can't make adequate arrangements for your dog you shouldn't have one.
My h is a keen cyclist and cycles a lot. He has never referred to cycling as his 'hobby', and I would think he sounded a tit if he did.

I sincerely hope you are not planning on potentially leaving your dog outside in the garden.

If a neighbour of mine did this I’d be taking the dog home with me and I’d be reluctant to give it back to you without official involvement on your return.

If your dog doesn't get on at your neighbour's place then you plan on leaving it out in the garden? Wtaf?

What about the weather? If you are in the UK it is considered neglect and the RSPCA would take away a dog who is outside a without shelter.

I hope your hubby doesn't fix the fence so that your dog can't be neglected.

I reckon the hobby is outdoor swinging!

Yep

From now on any unmentioned hobbies I’ll be thinking swinging 🤮🤢

You don’t need the fence fixed you need proper dog care, YABU to leave a dog at home who may only be fed and walked for a few days.

Any reason you can't sort a fence yourself?

Why in earth should the OP sort out the fence too?!? Why is it ok for the DH to decide to go out for the am and then just leave the OP’s to sort out the fence? It’s seems that their arrangement is for him to do that. I’m not sure that him just dumping that chore onto her wo any prior agreement is an acceptable way of sorting the issue out.

@ayvasili, let him go but please remind him he will have to sort out the fence this afternoon, regardless of the weather. If he isn’t prepared to do some fencing in the rain (or it’s not possible, Eg he needs concrete etc...) then He shouldn’t go.

You aren’t leaving the dog in the garden?

Who gives a shit about the dog or the hobby. If the fence is bothering you then you fix it. If you don't know how or which tools to use, then Google it and have a go- bet it's easier than you think. Then dance in the kitchen to some Beyonce and feel empowered that you don't need to rely on someone else (which had so far has just caused you annoyance)

I'm also curious as to why it needs doing before going away & dog being left-it's seemingly not been a problem thus far?

Won't the dog be in either house & walked/fed where it is?

@WhatshouldIdo123 if he didn't ask for her permission she was unreasonable to think she was allowed to dictate.

Not sure you can drip feed an opinion but ok.

I also didn't call you a bitch. I said your response was bitchy. Which it was.

Why in earth should the OP sort out the fence too?!?

"Too" in addition to what else?

@CanIHaveADrink we know nothing about their home life, who says she does everything. You're assuming she does everything as much as I am assuming she's not fixing the fence because she thinks it's man's job.

She's micromanaging his time, I'm a firm believer of want something done, get it done yourself. But I don't do everything because DH and I manage our own time and are grown up enough to identify what needs to be done when it can be done.

I'm more concerned about what you're doing with the dog. So if the dog doesn't get on at your neighbour's house they're going to leave him/her at yours and just pop in to walk and feed?
How many times a day and how long are you away for?

It's really not ok you know. Dogs need company, they get anxious and bored on their own. Mine would probably be fine because they have each other but I'd never do it.

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Any reason you can't sort a fence yourself?

I hate the type of response, women don't have to be able to do everything, I have many, many skills but shoot me I can't fix fences. Why should the OP be expected to know how to do it, it's not some failing if you aren't a superwoman.

I use the word 'hobby' about DP's hobby but that's because it's painting wee models of dwarves or somesuch-Warhammer maybe?-and it's too geeky for me to ascribe a more specific name to without me not being able to fancy him anymore

@coconuttelegraph why are you assuming she can't because you don't feel capable? Because your vagina is the reason you can't so she mustn't be able to either?

It would not occur to me for a second to ask DH if I could go out and walk,or cycle - my hobbies.Unless we'd planned a family activity and there was doubt about when we'd do it - I'm an adult,I plan my time ,I let the family know what I'm doing and when.
Ops H knows he's got to do the fence,he 's decided to go out first while the weathers ok.
Why is this even an issue?
And when are you going away - is he off work,does he only have today to do the fence?