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AIBU to expect my boyfriend to go out with a sprained ankle

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Flutterbyx303 · 27/12/2019 17:45

He sprained his ankle whilst on a run on christmas day. He hobbled back to the house and it was very swollen. We iced it etc and he spent most of the day sitting down to help it heal. The next day it was very bruised and still swollen. He can walk up and down the stairs (in pain) and around the house doesn't seem to be too much of a problem.

We had planned to see friends tonight at the pub 20 minutes away. We haven't seen them in a while. When i asked him if was up for it he said he didn't think he could walk in shoes and wouldn't want the risk of someone else accidentally stepping on it.

I said to him we would get an uber drop us off right outside, we already have a table booked so would be sitting down most of the evening. AIBU to expect him to come? Perhaps I am just being selfish?

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NorthEndGal · 27/12/2019 17:46

The last thing he needs is to get kicked under the table or something

Marshmallow91 · 27/12/2019 17:48

You are. Let him stay home and you go out

LuluBellaBlue · 27/12/2019 17:48

But you don’t actually know how painful it is for him and as pp if someone knocks into it.
I wouldn’t want to be out and about if in pain either.
Why can’t you go without him?

MrsFrostyTheSnowman · 27/12/2019 17:49

As someone who has had a broken ankle and torn knee ligament you need to listen to him, he knows his own body, if he is concerned about walking or being knocked they are valid complaints.
He might not feel comfortable Sat at a table in a busy pub for hours, he might want to sit with his leg up/ out of have the freedom to wander every so often

HomeMadeMadness · 27/12/2019 17:49

I wouldn't drag him if he wasn't feeling up to it, I'd just go alone but when I had a sprained ankle I still went out for meals as long as there wasn't much walking.

Chocolatemouse84 · 27/12/2019 17:50

Yabu. He's an adult and can decide if he wants to g out or not without being pressured. Just go and have a good time without him

Pipandmum · 27/12/2019 17:50

My daughter went to school in crutches fir a month. You could Take an uber but can he keep his leg up? Otherwise go on your own, or stay in. How do you think you'd feel in his position and he insisted you go out?

MrsMozartMkII · 27/12/2019 17:50

It's bloody painful and he needs to elevate it and rest.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 27/12/2019 17:51

He’s being pathetic and clearly just can’t be bothered seeing the friends so is jamming it up.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 27/12/2019 17:51

Hamming

HairyFloppins · 27/12/2019 17:54

My daughter had to have a cast and crutches for two weeks with a badly sprained ankle. Was a while before she could walk properly.

The pain of a sprain can be worse than a fracture. Leave him alone.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 27/12/2019 17:57

If he is in pain and doesn't feel up to it then go alone. He will obviously have to kove around to go to the toilet etc, will he be abke to drink and take painkillers? Will he do more damage if he ends up walking around on it, will it be a quiet evening or is there a chance it will move on from the pub?
All this needs to be considered. Presumably he doesn't want to be taking time off work if he can avoid it so whist he has time to rest it and heal it sounds ike he is being sensible.

WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 27/12/2019 18:00

he said he didn't think he could walk in shoes and wouldn't want the risk of someone else accidentally stepping on it.

He’s given you his answer. Why are you pushing? Can’t you go without him?

TheFaerieQueene · 27/12/2019 18:01

Each to their own, but I broke my ankle and carried on walking my dog every day - the only thing I couldn’t do was drive. Sometimes you just need to keep going!

Expressedways · 27/12/2019 18:02

There really isn’t any point dragging someone along if they don’t want to come as it will be miserable all round. Whether you think he should be ok to go out is irrelevant- he doesn’t want to and it’s never reasonable to pressure someone. Go without him.

showmewhatyougot · 27/12/2019 18:03

Does he usually give you reasons to doubt what he says?

I'd say having a swollen foot is enough of a reason not to go out. Plus I'm sure alcohol will not help.

BillywigSting · 27/12/2019 18:05

When I sprained my ankle badly it was too swollen to even get shoes on never mind comfortably

I think yabu here only he knows how much it hurts

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 27/12/2019 18:05

If he liked the friends enough he’d go.

tinytoast · 27/12/2019 18:06

You are being so so selfish. Leave the man alone.

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/12/2019 18:06

I sprained my ankle. Agonising pain at the slightest touch. I couldn't face the thought of anyone coming within three feet of it. YABVU

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 27/12/2019 18:07

I broke my ankle and was in hospital for 10 days. Then an operation with plates and screws to put it back together. Filled by 3 months in a cast and completely none weight bearing.

So no two injuries are the same and if your boyfriend says he doesn’t s not up to it listen to him and go on your own.

ShinyMe · 27/12/2019 18:07

Can't the friends come to you, if the pub is so close?

NobJobWinker · 27/12/2019 18:07

He's an adult capable of making his own decisions

Just go without him

Ginger1982 · 27/12/2019 18:08

YABU. Go on your own.

tinytoast · 27/12/2019 18:08

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