AIBU to expect my boyfriend to go out with a sprained ankle

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He sprained his ankle whilst on a run on christmas day. He hobbled back to the house and it was very swollen. We iced it etc and he spent most of the day sitting down to help it heal. The next day it was very bruised and still swollen. He can walk up and down the stairs (in pain) and around the house doesn't seem to be too much of a problem.

We had planned to see friends tonight at the pub 20 minutes away. We haven't seen them in a while. When i asked him if was up for it he said he didn't think he could walk in shoes and wouldn't want the risk of someone else accidentally stepping on it.

I said to him we would get an uber drop us off right outside, we already have a table booked so would be sitting down most of the evening. AIBU to expect him to come? Perhaps I am just being selfish?

@ArgumentativeAardvaark

What’s your agenda here? You sound really nasty.

OP - he’s in pain, sprains can be very nasty. My ankle still hurts from a bad sprain 25 years ago. My whole ankle turned black.

Go alone! I broke my ankle but what hurt worse was the soft tissue damage I sustained in the accident. If I sat too long with it down it got stiff and when I stood up it swelled and hurt like a mutha fuck! Let him stay home.

How often does he get stepped on or kicked at ffs. If he's being a grump leave him and go out. Don't waste your night

Meh. Do you know how many joints are in human body? 360. I know because I sprained them all. ALL, I tell ya! Still went to the Asda for weekly shop, batch cooked for year in advanced, made 37 meals from the whole kitchen I bought in sale AND run 5k. 🦸‍♀️🦸‍♀️🦸‍♀️

Obviously YABU...

Also people should ignore posters who are just looking for a fight. Some of their names even tell you that they live for it.

If its bruised swollen and painful has he been to hospital to get it checked, it could be a fracture. Poor guy.

augumentativeardvark Do you hate men or something? You're always on threads slagging off men.

@tinytoast I think you must have me confused with someone else. Care to give some examples of this supposed extensive man-hating posting history of mine? I pretty much only comment on The Archers.

A sprain can be far more painful than a break and can be agonisingly painful. If he wants to stay home, just let him.

Meh. Do you know how many joints are in human body? 360. I know because I sprained them all. ALL, I tell ya! Still went to the Asda for weekly shop, batch cooked for year in advanced, made 37 meals from the whole kitchen I bought in sale AND run 5k.

Pah! You amateur.
Some of us did a marathon and walked a 7 mile school run with gangrene in our legs.

"Meh. Do you know how many joints are in human body? 360. I know because I sprained them all. ALL, I tell ya! Still went to the Asda for weekly shop, batch cooked for year in advanced, made 37 meals from the whole kitchen I bought in sale AND run 5k"

Fucking lightweight. I broke every single bone in my body and my head fell off and I couldn't pick it up (as my hands were broken obvs) but I still went to work as I don't like letting people down. You just have to get on with it. Some of us can't just take time off at short notice.

I would be disappointed but it really is his decision to make, what you think is neither here nor there as it's his ankle and only he knows how it feels. Make sure he's got painkillers in easy reach and whatever he needs and go without him and enjoy it.

YABU- sprained ankles can be excruciatingly painful.
When I sprained mine I couldn't even bear a sock on my foot and couldn't get a shoe on it. The thought of someone accidentally knocking it would have been too much to bear.
You should respect his wishes and let him stay at home.

YABVU. Just go on your own and let him heal.

Ice, compress, elevation. They say this for a reason. You’re risking elongating the healing process if you don’t let him do this.

For those doubting me, I did walk on my broken ankle. I ended up getting it looked at and wore a boot for a couple of months after an X-ray diagnosis It bloody hurt but I did it.

Are you annoyed that he went for a run on Christmas day?

YABVVVU

Tell him to elevate it (by kicking you up your unsympathetic arse)

HTH

Mine still swells up and bloody hurts after ruptering the ligament over 20 years ago.

As if you’re even asking this. Why can you just listen to what he is actually saying?

He's a complete wimp, OP. I had my legs blown off by a bomb and I still got up to go to the shop for milk. LTB.

I'd go but I'm irresponsible with injuries and used to pain after years of crazy horses since my childhood. I'd likely be worse in the long run as a result: Your DP is probably quite sensible not to go.

Your friends can come round your house surely?

It's okay for you to make the suggestion to take an uber. If he still says no, I would just leave him to rest. Are those his friends or your friends? If they are your friends too, am sure you can see them on your own?

FaerieQueene so you walked on a broken ankle. We believe you. But tell us - do you think that was a smart thing to do?

FWIW I fenced an entire competition with a cracked kneecap. No, it wasn't clever. I just didn't realise how bad it was until afterwards.

I've had bad sprains too - they can be very painful and take a long time to heal. Your DP is right to rest instead of doing something important like going to a pub.

He should definitely stay out of busy pubs!

I hope he stayed home.

I've had various breaks and kept going because I didn't realise bits of me had been rearranged. Not a good idea! Increased pain and healing times.