AIBU to expect my boyfriend to go out with a sprained ankle

[Flutterbyx303]

He sprained his ankle whilst on a run on christmas day. He hobbled back to the house and it was very swollen. We iced it etc and he spent most of the day sitting down to help it heal. The next day it was very bruised and still swollen. He can walk up and down the stairs (in pain) and around the house doesn't seem to be too much of a problem.

We had planned to see friends tonight at the pub 20 minutes away. We haven't seen them in a while. When i asked him if was up for it he said he didn't think he could walk in shoes and wouldn't want the risk of someone else accidentally stepping on it.

I said to him we would get an uber drop us off right outside, we already have a table booked so would be sitting down most of the evening. AIBU to expect him to come? Perhaps I am just being selfish?

If they are real froends they will understand why he dosent want to go and respect that.

If he liked the friends enough he’d go.

Balderdash.

Sprained ankles are shit. Leave him alone.

Trust him on this. I am a veteran of sprained ankles. They can be very painful, and can take a good 2-3+ weeks to settle and then longer still to heal. The last time I sprained an ankle, it took 9 months and physio before I could run on it comfortably.

My sister sprained her ankle and went out on it. It's never healed properly. YABU. It needs to be rested to heal

I think you should get an uber and enjoy the night without him. If he says he’s in pain then it would BU to continue to try and drag him out but personally I think it’s only a sprained ankle and there’s not going to be any driving or long periods of standing involved. If it was taking place in a nightclub I would completely agree with him.

Has he actually been to a&e and had it xrayed?

I've sprained my ankle an awful lot and in the first couple of days even stretching very gently would result in a lot of pain, trying to get footwear on is not pleasant, and you're hyper aware of anyone potentially touching it. Would it be a good idea for him to be drinking if he's taking painkillers for it?

What happens when he needs to go to the toilet? Are there steps to manoeuvre around, and then there's all of the other chairs and people to negotiate past.

I'd say listen to him. Could you not get your friends to come back to the house with you?

Well obviously it's his decision however I would say this. I have sprained both ankles badly. The medical advice at the time of the first sprain was RICE (rest, ice, elevation, compression), the second time it happened (mush more painful sprain) some years later the advice had changed to keep it moving and don't use compression as it inhibits the bruising healing.

Sure enough the advice the second time worked a lot better. It just depends on how he feels. Once they told me to walk on mine as long as I didn't go mad then I had the confidence to move about knowing I wouldn't be harming it.

Ultimately he's the one in pain so he has to decide for himself.

@TheFaerieQueene of course you did!
OP you’re being pretty selfish. Leave him to recover. The last thing he wants to do will be to go out.

He’s a wimp. I went out for dinner with a dislocated and broken big toe.

Seriously though. Pain is shit.

Let him decide what is best for his recovery.

A nasty sprain can hurt more than a break.

If he's in pain enough to miss seeing friends then he's on pain. Let him make his own choices.

But absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t go!

YABVVVVU

HTH

If he's in pain and doesn't feel up to it, why are you pressuring him? It's unfortunate but you're going to have to go by yourself.

Yes, YABU. A sprained ankle needs a lot of rest and elevation. It's extremely painful. I twisted mine on early August and I still can't walk on it properly.

He’s the only one who can decide if he’s well enough to go. I badly sprained my ankle playing sport a few years ago and it was more painful than broken ribs, there is no way I would have been able to go out to the pub.

Sprains and soft tissue damage can hurt worse than breaks. After a fall, I was splinted to help the soft tissue heal but the fractured bones were left alone. I've got incredibly unstable ankles after several sprains so let it heal properly; some people can walk about on mild sprains but some can be very damaging.

YANBU I once went out on a full night out clubbing dressed up ect still having broken my ribs, legs, arms and neck. He is such a wimp.

some comments on this thread are stupid. Of course he shouldn't go. Find your empathy OP.

Im waiting for the ‘my whole ankle fell off and i still power walked to waitrose for breadsticks’ part of the competitive I'm fine Posts on here

Really though, leave him be

Great cross post

@PristineCondition

Sprains can be worse than breaks. Leave the poor guy alone.

I sprained my ankle and tore ligaments almost 20 years ago. The bugger still hurts in damp weather .

Has he been seen by a medic? It could me more than just a sprain. Ankles are tricksy sods.

Soft tissue injuries can be really bloody painful.

If someone demanded I went somewhere when they knew I had a painful injury I would think they were a bit of an asshole