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Would you cheat on a desert island?

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 14:15

More of a WWYD actually.

Hypothetical situation.

Imagine you’re very attracted to another man. He’s flirted with you, made it a little obvious that he’s attracted to you too, etc. You haven’t succumbed to him because you’re both married and it would be wrong.

However, you’re both stranded on a desert island in some kind of unexpected shipwreck. You have no idea how long you will be there. It could be a day. It could be forever.

Would you kiss him? Would you have sex with him? How long would you resist for? A week, a month, a year, 20 years, a lifetime?

What if this was your husband/brother/male friend? Would he kiss her? Have sex with her?

Thanks

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SimonJT · 27/12/2019 14:40

No, not only would I not do that to my partner, I wouldn’t want to waste the energy/sweat more

Primrosepenny · 27/12/2019 14:40

Would you kiss him? Would you have sex with him? How long would you resist for? A week, a month, a year, 20 years, a lifetime?
Have sex definitely. I’d resist about a week maybe but if I was getting good signals, I’d do it whenever.

What if this was your husband/brother/male friend? Would he kiss her? Have sex with her?
Almost definitely

MorrisZapp · 27/12/2019 14:41

I'd send the rescue ship packing til I'd had some more

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 14:41

Butterflyflower1234, what if you fell in love on the desert island and wanted to split with your husband. But had no way of telling him. Would you still spend 50 years on the desert island with a man you love but without touching him or telling him so?

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Spartonian · 27/12/2019 14:43

But after X amount of years, you would be assumed dead and your marriage would not longer be valid.

So in theory, if you waited, you would not actually be cheating.

EssentialHummus · 27/12/2019 14:43

Would you feel guilty EssentialHummus? Do you think your new partner would feel guilty?

Probably less guilty the longer we were stranded, I guess? I'm in this situation now (mutual attraction, everyone married, no intention to act on things), hence the very enthusiastic reply.

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 14:44

But after X amount of years, you would be assumed dead and your marriage would not longer be valid.
How many years?

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Spartonian · 27/12/2019 14:46

@ElizaZ I believe it's 5 years

Spartonian · 27/12/2019 14:47

@ElizaZ its 7 years

MitziK · 27/12/2019 14:48

When fertile, unless we only made it to the desert island by floating on a makeshift raft of condoms, I wouldn't be going anywhere near the bloke.

And only then if there were some non desert places. Nobody needs sand in their wotsits.

DBML · 27/12/2019 14:49

I need to know the circumstances which led to me being on a ship with him in the first instance?

TooTrueToBeGood · 27/12/2019 14:50

Maybe I should get a coil just in case this happens...

Wouldn't a satphone be an altogether more sensible choice if you think this a "just in case" scenario worth preparing for?

Emeraldshamrock · 27/12/2019 14:50

I'd say the relationship would develop really fast between two people alone on an Island.
I don't think I would for a long time I'd be pining for my DP and DC until I lost hope.
Would my partner or brother? I think I'd give them a week.

U2HasTheEdge · 27/12/2019 14:51

I would like to say no but who knows what I'd really do in that situation? Has he had the snip or brought condoms? Couldn't risk getting pregnant.

IndigoHexagon · 27/12/2019 14:53

Just had a chat with my husband and we’ve agreed that if we ever get stranded on a desert island, with the honest belief of no rescue, then if we survived a month, we could have a free pass. Life would probably be far too short to not take comfort if on offer.

How long would you wait if you were the spouse back home who’s partner was missing presumed dead??

puddingbowlee · 27/12/2019 14:57

The thing is if 2 people ended up on a desert island they would likely be fairly traumatised & probably cling to each other to cope so at some point there will likely be sexual activity.

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 14:58

MitziK There would be some sand free places...!

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Spacebowlisback · 27/12/2019 14:58

I don’t know how horny I’d be in that situation.

Meshy12 · 27/12/2019 14:59

Did you mean to include brother??

That’s strange OP

puddingbowlee · 27/12/2019 15:00

I'm in this situation now (mutual attraction, everyone married, no intention to act on things), hence the very enthusiastic reply.

Ooh exciting, how do you cope? Although I think this is the more exciting point, the idea rather than the reality.

puddingbowlee · 27/12/2019 15:01

Did you mean to include brother??

Op meant would your brother cheat

1forAll74 · 27/12/2019 15:02

I think that you would have to wait a while,if you were shipwrecked onto an island with a man that you didn't know. There is lots to do at first,as in make some shelter, and hopefully find some food.

After some time,you might find that you are both attracted to each other,and the situation could become an intimate one. That's if you are youngish and fit, and he isn't 85 etc.

I wouldn't have minded Tom Hanks on his island, but he didn't have,or want a woman there, !!

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 27/12/2019 15:02

I am still child bearing age although pushing it and do not fancy pregnancy/giving birth marooned on a desert island.

He would not be getting any.

Not even a cheeky finger?

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 15:02

I need to know the circumstances which led to me being on a ship with him in the first instance?
You were on a special work trip or school reunion without spouses. Your spouse is safely back home and didn’t die in the shipwreck. You and your friend managed to get into a life raft together and after several days you got washed up on a beautiful desert island. Lush with edible vegetation, good shelter and numerous fishing opportunities. There’s a forest there so plenty of firewood. Fortunately you and the man you’re with are good with your hands so are able to fashion an axe and a hut. Initially you make two huts, one for each of you. You watch the sunrise together every morning and the sun set.

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ElizaZ · 27/12/2019 15:04

Has he had the snip or brought condoms? No, that is a risk.

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