Do your teenagers swear around you..?

[Parsley65]

I don't remember any conversations about this when I was younger, but neither me or my older siblings ever swore in front of my parents. I remember going out with my siblings one day and being surprised that they swore quite a lot outside the family home.

I rarely swear and don't particularly like it. My teens tell me I'm old fashioned and that everybody does it. I pick them up on it on the fairly rare times that they do it. I think it's disrespectful, but wonder if I'm being unreasonable. What happens in your home?

The very occasional word will slip out from my 15yr old, but never directed towards us so not disrespectful. I think most kids learn the ‘rules’ about when it’s acceptable to swear and when it’s not. I still don’t swear in front of my parents though.

Everyone swears in my house including teen, tween and my mum and PILs. Kids aware other people don’t like it/not appropriate so don’t do it in front of those people.

Oh and just to add that it’s, “oh fuck!” directed at an object or similar, it isn’t used to abuse another person.

My eldest does. I can’t stand it but DH swears all the time so not really her fault. I won’t have her directing it towards me, but otherwise I let it go.

My two teens swear around me, but never at me. DH hates swearing and they rarely swear around him, or around our 10yo. To each their own on this one I think, as long as they can tell when it is and isn’t appropriate.

Yes they do. I'm also quite sweary so not a big deal.

I swore around my parents when I was a teen, even though my DM doesn't swear, she gave up chastising me after a year or so.

What zasknbg said. I love a good swear myself and delighted to be able to stop monitoring myself so closely now kids are older. Don't accept or use any swearing aimed at denigrating someone else though, or misogynist words. What I hate more than swearing is twee swear standi ins like sugar, and a particular stand in word my ex used to use which makes me feel murderous.

Not a chance - they know it’s totally unacceptable.

DS has told his sister to fuck off a few times when she has been awful. Generally he's very nicely spoken.

No they don’t and we don’t in front of them. I do with my girlfriends.

No, they don't, although they know I'm not upset by swearing. Like I did when I was a teen, they've taught themselves to have different verbal modes depending on where they are.

No

DD is a rare teen that hates swearing off her own back. Just won’t do it. Luckily her friends accept her sensible ways I try not to swear in front of her but do drop the odd f bomb so it’s not like it’s my good influence.

I've never allowed it, but have no doubt they do when I'm not around, of course.
Was quite funny last night, typical Christmas evening playing Pictionary with the DC and family, the normally super quiet 17 year old shouted shit and she made eye contact with her siblings like she had ruined Christmas!!
As long as it's not too offensive, laugh it off!!

My eldest and my youngest never swear in front of me, but my 12 year old does all the time. I dont like it tbh, and wish he'd keep it for his mates if he has to do it, but its my own fault as I can be sweary myself at times.
Im not offended by it but it needs to be appropriate time and place.
I am more likely to pick him up on abusive language than swearing these days. As in, id be more likely to tell him off for calling someone a name, even if its not a swear word, than I would for saying " for fucks aake"

I am very relaxed about swearing so long as it is an appropriate situation. My kids know when it is and isn’t ok to swear and manage just fine.

I don't have a teenager now but when I did, I never heard him swear - in fact I've never heard him swear! I did hear his friends swear at times. Husband and I never swore in front of him either.

We're all quite bad at swearing but all know when it's not appropriate and my two teens are very polite etc when it's not just the 4 of us!

Mine are 17 and 21 and we have never heard them swear.

I am sure they do, but never in our company.

This is despite my liberal use of profanities at all times since they were babies.

17 YO occasionally. 15 YO not yet. I don't swear much, maybe if I drop something but then probably just sh* rather than f**.
17 YO has been known to give me the finger if I tease her, but with a smile so I know she doesn't mean it.

Got two kids aged 21 and 13 and it's a no no in my house. Never allowed it and never will. They don't feel sad about this

Yes both 17 yo DS swear in front of us. Never at us though, if that happened there would be serious consequences.

No, I hate swearing and it’s rarely done in our household. Plenty of words in the English language without needing to swear.

I won’t let my teens swear at home, they know it’s unacceptable but I’m sure they will when with friends.

$1 swear penalty in my house!
I didn't mind them swearing in all fairness as it'd be dropped into conversations, however I'm about to have another baby and I don't want the baby growing up hearing swear words, so thought I'd eliminate this bad habit.

Money in swear tin will be used for a family meal out I think (though we currently have $3 in it) so I may be being slightly optimistic!

Yes, like sailors. Ours is a humorous, loving, sweary household.