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Original poster

To ask her to take it back and exchange it

69 replies

namechanege · 26/12/2019 01:40

Name changed for this!

DM bought me a handbag for Christmas one that I’ve wanted for years and could never afford to buy myself.
However I feel super ungrateful because I don’t like the size or the print on it (number of sizes and prints available in said bag). I don’t want to come across as an ungrateful cow which is how I feel but I don’t want to keep something I don’t feel I’ll end up using a lot because of the size issue.

OP posts:
BitOfFun · 26/12/2019 01:41

Can't you do it yourself?

mrsp2009 · 26/12/2019 01:45

Can you exchange it and hope
She doesn’t notice?

DramaAlpaca · 26/12/2019 01:45

Let the dust settle for a day or two after Christmas, then ask her very nicely if she'd mind changing it/if you changed it. You love the bag, but you'd get more use out of a different size, that sort of thing. That's what I'd do, anyway. You know how best to handle your DM and how she'll take it, but I'm sure she'd prefer you to be happy with the gift.

Napmum · 26/12/2019 02:42

I agree with dream alpaca ask her if she minds you changing it because of the size. Then change both bits she might not even give a thought about the change of print as it's possible that there were none in that size of that print available when you exchanged.

Italiangreyhound · 26/12/2019 02:47

Agree, ask her if she minds your changing size and then change pattern too.

Purpleartichoke · 26/12/2019 03:43

Yes, it’s such a nice gift that you want to use it as often as possible and you think a different size or configuration is more practical. They may not even have the same print in the other size

PatricksRum · 26/12/2019 05:19

Which designer handbag is it?
Misses point of thread

Original poster
namechanege · 26/12/2019 13:59

@PatricksRum LV Neverfull MM

OP posts:
PurpleFlower1983 · 26/12/2019 14:04

I would change it.

ChanChanChan · 26/12/2019 14:04

Ask your mum whether she would mind that you want to change the size or the print. Take it back to the store and exchange the bag for exactly what you want. Tell your mum that in the post-holiday period they were so low on stock that you had to get a replacement that wasn't the same size/print as her gift.

Not sure if you'd even need the receipt, as the store would have a record of the bag/purchase?

CalmFizz · 26/12/2019 14:06

It depends if the one you want is the same price as the one she bought you.

Sushiroller · 26/12/2019 14:10

You lucky lady 😍😍😍😍

As an FYI It's an amazing I have three and LOVE them.

GM would be too big for me MM is perfect.
If you don't want a GM and want a diff excuse id go for practicality... and say you just want one you know you will use every day /get the most use out of

I'm sure you've done your research...
The azur does get a lot of colour transfer if you wear dark jeans so you have to be careful but looks fab in summer.
And light interiors are equally a bit of a pain due to marks and staining. The red classic is v practical though.
Monogram and azur NF leather straps can also stain
My NF ebene looks practically perfect after 4 winters heavy use

I would approach with caution go down the i want to get max usage/practicality route.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 26/12/2019 14:21

What an amazing gift. It would be better to politely ask than to not use it, she will be expecting to see you with it.

Sagradafamiliar · 26/12/2019 15:05

Your mum would want you to have the one you want when she's spent that much money. Unless she's been able to acquire that one on offer and therefore wouldn't be able to swap it for you.

Bwt I think it's a cheek when someone wants a refund or exchange then expects the gift giver to do it for them. Like they haven't already pissed about buying something they thought you'd want or would fit. Fair enough it's not quite what you want but do the legwork yourself! Rant concluded.

Original poster
namechanege · 26/12/2019 16:50

@Sagradafamiliar it was bought online so she would need to make contact to make the exchange as we don’t live near a store. I’m happy to be in when the courier collects etc but she would need to make the initial reach out.

OP posts:
tinytoast · 26/12/2019 16:54

Oh no please change it the Neverfull is so tacky!!!

PatricksRum · 26/12/2019 23:39

Oh no please change it the Neverfull is so tacky!!!

I have the GM. It's certainly not tacky.

olympicsrock · 26/12/2019 23:46

Hmmm - I think you shouldn’t. Your mum went to a lot of effort. The bag may have been in a sale , she might have bought it months ago and kept for Christmas. She has given you an amazing gift just be grateful - if you complain it will ruin it for her.

I say this as the recipient of my gift just asked if they could have the receipt to change my gift. Answer was no as I bought in Jan sales last year 50% off. Completely ruined the joy of giving for me.

QueenofPain · 26/12/2019 23:49

Louis Vuitton bags don’t go on sale so I think the OP is fine on that front.

MiseryChops · 26/12/2019 23:53

Had to google this bag. £700 is gal that right ?!?!?

Just been sick in my mouth that’s how much my car is worth

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 26/12/2019 23:58

I guess you just can’t please some people

I mean what are you going to say? You have thought about my gift and you’ve got me the brand of bag I’ve always wanted, but the size is wrong...really?

You are being so unreasonable, maybe mummy should of taught you some manners instead

MrsEricBana · 27/12/2019 00:08

Maybe it's a fake so she can't change it. Just saying.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 27/12/2019 00:08

I guess it would be LV!

I definitely think you should change it. I went back and forth between 2 sizes for my Louis, ended up going for the GM because the smaller size didn’t quite everything and I didn’t want to leave out necessities out or risk ruining the shape of the bag. I bought it myself though.

However there’s no point in her spending all that money if you aren’t going to enjoy and use the bag. It was clearly supposed to be a special purchase so she may even feel miffed if she doesn’t see you using it! Just tell her that now you’ve got home and tried it, the size is a bit awkward. I doubt she’d be that fussed about the print either.

If the bag you want costs more, I think it’s awkward to expect her to find the difference. Suppose it depends how much it is.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 27/12/2019 00:10

Wow, I’m clearly tired. Ignore my numerous mistakes🤦🏻‍♀️

Panpastels · 27/12/2019 00:11

Sometimes I think I live on a different planet to other people Shock

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