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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask her to take it back and exchange it

69 replies

namechanege · 26/12/2019 01:40

Name changed for this!

DM bought me a handbag for Christmas one that I’ve wanted for years and could never afford to buy myself.
However I feel super ungrateful because I don’t like the size or the print on it (number of sizes and prints available in said bag). I don’t want to come across as an ungrateful cow which is how I feel but I don’t want to keep something I don’t feel I’ll end up using a lot because of the size issue.

OP posts:

Ohpleasefuckofflove · 27/12/2019 10:11

On that note it’s probably going to be a huge headache changing it OP! Keep it for a week i say. I think you’ll grow to like it!

billy1966 · 27/12/2019 10:14

OP, I would ask would she mind if you change the size, making no mention at all of the pattern.

Put it out of sight until you exchange, and if there is any reference to the pattern, just say stock was limited.

Enjoy your bag👍

ShirleyPhallus · 27/12/2019 10:14

I honestly find the reverse snobbery around handbags on MN very odd. Why does anyone feel it’s anyone else’s business what people spend their own money on?! Nothing seems to get people frothing like chat about handbags.

AJPTaylor · 27/12/2019 10:14

If you were ever looking for a thread that typified mumsnet,this is it!

AJPTaylor · 27/12/2019 10:15

The responses that is!

VividImagination · 27/12/2019 10:57

If it really did cost £700 you could have a holiday you'll never forget for that money (and a replica handbag.) I know people would say I am being judgemental but I am also right.

I would rather have something tangible that will last for years than blow the money on a holiday that will last a week. (Not to mention that a summer week in a caravan at a holiday camp costs more than £700 and may well turn out to be a week never to be forgotten)

AdobeWanKenobi · 27/12/2019 11:06

Just been sick in my mouth that’s how much my car is worth

You should see someone about that. Thats an unusual reaction. Maybe GERD.

Rachelfromfriends1 · 27/12/2019 11:12

LV has low stock across their products, both online and in stores. You probably won’t be able to do a direct exchange for the one you want so your options are limited. It may be easier to keep the bag as is.

If this isn’t possible, you can call their client services to see what they advise. I’m thinking if you have your heart set on a specific bag, you might have to return this for a gift card and wait for your bag to come in stock and then pay the difference yourself. But is this worth it? You’d be without a bag and I’d expect your mum would be annoyed if you return it.

You can also exchange an online purchase in certain stores, but they won’t reserve items in store for you, so there’s every possibility that you may take a trip to London for example and your bag is out of stock.

BruceAndNosh · 27/12/2019 11:23

My DH bought me a very glam necklace the first Christmas, definitely expensive. But it was the sort of thing that would look marvellous with an evening dress.
After I couple of days I plucked up courage to suggest we changed it for something I could wear every day. He was a bit but we did and I have indeed worn it everyday for 30+ years.

Tell her you want to appreciate her generous gift by being able to use it every day - concentrate on the size.
Then if she notices the change in pattern, say it was the only one available

allthefood · 27/12/2019 11:24

Is it not possible we find it distatesteful to spend that while we walk to work past homeless people's sleeping in shop doorways?

You shouldn't have anything bar bare essentials and donate all your spare cash. You shouldn't celebrate Christmas at all in fact.

People can fuck off with their virtue signalling.

MeetmeinParis · 27/12/2019 11:27

Yes, I'd ask to change it, be kind and grateful about it but if it's not the one you really wanted, you'll never really love it.
Why are people being so rude about the cost?, it was a gift that the OP had wanted for years, whether someone else deems it to be a ridiculous amount to spend on a bag is irrelevant to the OP question.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/12/2019 11:37

OMG all these judgemental people - if people have enough money to buy designer bags, why shouldn't they buy them? It's no one else's business.

OP - I would change it for the one you really want but if there's a difference to pay it would be cheeky to ask your mum.

(I have 2 LV's and 7 Mulberry's - they bring me a lot of joy )

bubblesforlife · 27/12/2019 11:41

@chocolatesaltyballs22 ^ this!!
I have 3 LV! They make me feel so happy.
I don’t take them out unless it’s a special occasion.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/12/2019 11:44

Aw no @bubblesforlife you should use them! It's a waste if they're left in a wardrobe!

MsMD · 27/12/2019 12:15

I got a Chanel and 2 Kate Spade bags for Christmas from my husband so I'm laughing hard at the jealous af responses about this.

Only you know your DM, is she the type to get offended? Mine isn't, she'd rather me have something I love!

bubblesforlife · 27/12/2019 13:43

@chocolatesaltyballs22 I do. But, my situation has improved and I have money where as my friends and family don’t as much. So I don’t show them off tbh, I could, but I just won’t. Perhaps some of them may react to some posters here. They are for my own enjoyment! I have a keepall and there is nothing more I love then putting that in the back seat and taking off for a night or 2!!! Happiness.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/12/2019 14:34

Ah fair enough.

PatricksRum · 27/12/2019 16:18

f its LV everyone will assume its fake anyway so sell it, buy the fake in the pattern you like

Why would anyone suggest this?
Buying counterfeit is ridiculous.

NailsNeedDoing · 27/12/2019 16:24

If you’re sure you can’t love this bag, then yes, ask your mum in the nicest way possible if you can exchange for a different design. It’s had a lot of money spent on it, you should be able to love your new bag they way you were intended to.

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