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DH has sent all Christmas Day playing computer games

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Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:19

My sons came to stay yesterday until Boxing Day. DH started playing his computer game last night in another room and I didn’t see him all night. This morning he got up and went straight on his game in the other room. He hasn’t been off it all day, has literally played on it by himself since 9am this morning taking a quick 20 minute break for dinner. I’ve been sat in living room with my sons all day (and all last night) by ourselves. DH has been sat totally by himself playing computer games in the other room since last night.

I’m fuming. Merry fucking Christmas, the picture of a happy marriage right?

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Tombliwho · 25/12/2019 19:22

Have you asked why he's doing this?

SquareAsABlock · 25/12/2019 19:24

Instead of 'funing', why haven't you said anything?

Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:24

Yes, he said he’s looking after the dog 🙄 and “there’s no room on the couch”.

Well fuck him when his kids come to stay on Boxing Day. I’ll happily pretend they and he doesn’t exist either

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Stressedoutaboutinlaws · 25/12/2019 19:24

Whats he playing, did he get a new game for christmas?

ilovesooty · 25/12/2019 19:24

Is he usually so antisocial?

Jenpop234 · 25/12/2019 19:25

What did he say when you mentioned it to him? You did mention it to him right?

Minky35 · 25/12/2019 19:25

That’s pretty shit, and giving a strong message to your DS’ ☹️
My DS is pretty well addicted to FIFA but he’s managed a good few hours break to sit with the family.

Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:25

It’s not a new game. This fucking stupid shitty game has been tearing a hole in our marriage for months now. Today really in the final straw. Christmas Day??

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MsMellivora · 25/12/2019 19:26

I am an avid gamer but I know the difference between what’s ok and what isn’t. One of my gaming mates online was dumped by his GF of three years recently and gaming was a big part of the reason. He has seen the error of his ways but it’s too late. I did one mission for an hour last night after everyone was in bed apart from DH who was making cards for the family and I was banned from the kitchen so I couldn’t see.

Has he always been like this?

Leeds2 · 25/12/2019 19:26

Does he get on with your boys? Does he maybe think that you have spoilt them by buying too many presents? Not that this excuses his rudeness, which I would find very hard to forgive, but just wondering if there is a reason behind it?

MsMellivora · 25/12/2019 19:27

Is it an MMO game?

Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:28

It started about 6 months ago, he got addicted to this stupid fucking game. As a result we’ve not had sex for 6 months as he doesn’t come to bed until early hours and I’m asleep by then.

He gets on well with them. They keep asking what he’s going. So fucking disappointed and angry.

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Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:29

What does MMO mean? It’s an online game

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Fairylea · 25/12/2019 19:30

I’d be tempted to cut the plug off the WiFi but that’s just me Blush

I divorced my now ex over very similar behaviour. My now dh loves computer games but there’s a time and a place.

Parker231 · 25/12/2019 19:31

Leave him to sort out the kitchen , laundry and meals for the rest of the Christmas break. He won’t have time for any games. Alternatively treat him like a child and switch it off - why is he playing games on Christmas Day when it’s family time.

EKGEMS · 25/12/2019 19:31

I'd unplug the entire system and throw it out in the yard followed closely by him

Pegase · 25/12/2019 19:40

My DH did this once. Not on Christmas Day but just generally became too addicted to a game to the detriment of our relationship. It was when you had to have the games on disc. I snapped it in half in the end when the sensible discussions didn't work.

KatherineJaneway · 25/12/2019 19:42

Change the WiFi password. Soon get him out of his room.

belay · 25/12/2019 19:43

He sounds addicted

sonjadog · 25/12/2019 19:43

Could something mysterious happen to the WiFi?

Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:45

Nah I don’t want to physically force him off it. If he chooses that shit over me at Christmas then at least I know where I stand. Fuck him

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maddening · 25/12/2019 19:48

How old are the kids? Do they get on with him?

Shanny81 · 25/12/2019 19:50

20 and 18, yea they get on.

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ToEarlyForDecorations · 25/12/2019 19:55

MMO means Massively Multiplayer Online

World of Warcraft, Blade and Soul etc

welshsoph · 25/12/2019 19:56

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