DH has sent all Christmas Day playing computer games

[Shanny81]

My sons came to stay yesterday until Boxing Day. DH started playing his computer game last night in another room and I didn’t see him all night. This morning he got up and went straight on his game in the other room. He hasn’t been off it all day, has literally played on it by himself since 9am this morning taking a quick 20 minute break for dinner. I’ve been sat in living room with my sons all day (and all last night) by ourselves. DH has been sat totally by himself playing computer games in the other room since last night.

I’m fuming. Merry fucking Christmas, the picture of a happy marriage right?

It’s probably been mentioned before, but video game addiction is a serious problem and he might need help overcoming it. I remember reading about Neil Robertson’s (snooker player) addiction to computer games and how it almost cost him his marriage and career.

Your next steps will hopefully depend on how receptive he is to acknowledging this and seeking help. Good luck.

Get rid OP. He might never even notice!

As Lycidas mentioned above, he's clearly addicted. This is well beyond "just being a dick" behaviour. IF you think the marriage is salvageable, then I would suggest seeking support from one of the addiction charities on how to approach the issue. Perhaps with reinforcements from his wider family (kids, parents, siblings).

He would need to acknowledge that he has a problem and want to get help though, which is likely to be the biggest hurdle.

But it's up to you. It's not your job to fix him and nobody would blame you if you feel things are now too far gone to recover. Only you can decide what you want to do next, but living in limbo like this is just miserable.

I left my ex in large part because of WoW. He sat staring into his screen all day with a headset on, talking to his friends in another country. He didn't even turn around to acknowledge me when I came home from work and didn't seem to notice whether or not I was there. It was like I had ceased to exist.

I hate it when someone describes this sort of addicted behaviour and people say "gaming is just a hobby like any other". Yeah because whenever I bring my knitting or vinyl collection our, my DH is dead to me, right?

When we argued about it, he said "just tell me to come off if you want to do something together!".

I didn't want to "do something together", necessarily. I just wanted him to be present, not in another fucking world 24/7.

Pull the router out of the wall. When he charges downstairs, stage an intervention.

You're going to need to be more specific, I'm new and don't know any of the initialisms here.

Have you ever considered that antisocial folk tend to avoid social interactivity as it causes them stress? Your attitude would only make the situation worse if you were to question him in this state.

I've worked with those under similar circumstances, and this is typically done to avoid people who make them uncomfortable.