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Original poster

DH is making himself ill because he always has to be right

337 replies

Whereisthechicken · 25/12/2019 12:27

After a bit of a hunt this morning, I've just located a whole raw chicken in our car after DH obviously forgot to bring it in with the rest of the food shopping on the morning of the 23rd December (I had gone out to a different shop for a few more little bits in my car so he was left to do the unpacking from his car).

I am clearly annoyed and insisting the slightly green chicken is bad now but he is adamant it's fine as leaving the chicken in a cold car for two days is as good as leaving it in the fridge apparently. No idea on the temp here but it's been raining/a bit sunny here in Wiltshire during these last two days.

I'm certain he's just saying this because he's a stubborn person who, if I said the grass was green he'd argue that it was pink. Doesn't do it to anyone else, just me. He always has to be right. I've said the chicken is bad and so he's insisting it's perfectly fine to eat and is now cooking it. I'm pissed off knowing there's a strong possibility he's going to ruin boxing day being sat on the toilet the whole time which is just great when we have two young children. Is he bu for eating it or aibu (it is safe and I should leave him to it)?

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CalamityJune · 26/12/2019 06:53

Pigheaded arse, but I bet he is absolutely fine, annoyingly.

Soubriquet · 26/12/2019 07:36

Laxatives Xmas Grin

What a brilliant idea!!

Oysterbabe · 26/12/2019 08:18

It probably will be fine but I probably wouldn't do this and I'm super slack about these sorts of things usually.

TigerJoy · 26/12/2019 08:50

What news OP? Did he get through the night? Never have i been so interested in the bowel movements of a stranger

AllYouGoodGoodPeople · 26/12/2019 08:52

He might make it through the night but I have high hopes pinned on the leftover sandwiches finally pushing him over the edge.

DukeChatsworth · 26/12/2019 08:54

When I had campylobacter the local authorities wanted to know all places I’d visited in the 2 weeks prior to me falling ill. So I think it must have quite a long incubation window.

MiniEggAddiction · 26/12/2019 09:08

I would make it clear that if he's ill and leaves you to look after the kids as soon as he's better he'll be taking the kids for two days while you have a mini holiday.

CrohnicallyEarly · 26/12/2019 09:09

Sounds like my DD got off lightly- she had campylobacter aged 3. Her only symptoms were stomach cramps and diarrhoea- which had blood in it around day 2/3 (which is why they did a stool test and found campylobacter). They didn’t even try to work out where it came from, and she was fine after a week.

dottiedodah · 26/12/2019 09:28

Has been very mild here on South Coast .Sunny too ,I think maybe to tell him to look online ? Many NHS sites have info about food poisoning and how to be safe with meat .Surely it will taste off anyway?

RightYesButNo · 26/12/2019 09:48

OP - him being former Forces really cut down on his chances of getting food poisoning from this, very seriously. Probably should have even mentioned that in the OP Xmas Smile

You can’t believe some of the stuff my husband had to eat while overseas, and somehow didn’t get truly sick except once, from fish he couldn’t turn down (from a local)... in Afghanistan... which he realized was a landlocked country... which meant he then realized it came from the canal they did EVERYTHING in - suffice to say, he got maybe actual cholera? Can’t remember, but it sounded awful. As you can imagine though, extremely tough for anything from Tesco shelves to kill him now. My 95-year-old granddad, also former Forces, and the things he chooses to eat for joy can sometimes turn my stomach a bit already so Crown Envy

Your husband may escape this one unharmed. I imagine anyone who has been in periods of having to eat questionable things maybe has a stronger stomach than most of us, as they’re discovering so much of your immune system is connected to your gut now.

Usernamechange1 · 26/12/2019 09:51

Jesus. I've never wanted a man to shit himself so much. Just to teach him a lesson. Why is karma such a mystery temptress.

If he does shit himself, he'll be adamant that ofcourse it wasn't the chicken. Hmm

Deep down, he'll know.

CrapTVAddict · 26/12/2019 09:59

Can food poisoning really be contagious even if others haven't eaten the same thing? My other half constantly eats stuff I wouldn't and I have a major fear of being ill or sick

Ninkanink · 26/12/2019 10:06

Yes it can - it depends on which virus or bacteria has caused it.

Stilllivinginazoo · 26/12/2019 10:06

My OH thinks he's an idiot and says he will get extreme pleasure if his arse explodes taking his genitals with it

Ninkanink · 26/12/2019 10:09

You only have to have Norovirus once to learn never to take chances with potential food poisoning. I’m very relaxed with food rules - use by dates on meat, eating curry that’s been left out overnight, taking a chance on yoghurt that’s two weeks old, etc, but that’s because I understand how foods work and I know which risks to avoid.

lisag1969 · 26/12/2019 10:09

Throw it away when he goes to the shop to get the papers or something and put it in someone else's bin, so he can't find it. X

Ninkanink · 26/12/2019 10:13

Mind you, it’s true, he’s likely to have a much stronger constitution if he’s ex forces. Just make sure he doesn’t get cocky and start thinking he can feed that kind of food to the children.

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Whereisthechicken · 26/12/2019 10:14

He came down from his lay in (we're taking it in turns) about 25 minutes ago and seems absolutely bloody fine. Fgs. I'll admit, I am wishing a little tiny bit of illness on him. Just a few hours or so in the toilet so I can make my 'I told you so' toilet roll banner. The kids and I are quite happy eating crap food and watching Dr Who all day. Fingers crossed the sandwiches do it Grin

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DurhamDurham · 26/12/2019 10:22

Anyone who eats chicken which has been in a car for two days is ridiculous, especially just to prove a point.

He won't necessarily be ill though, a few years a ago she came in from a night out slightly worse for wear and age an entire pack of uncooked chicken goujons from the fridge. She thought they were cooked Hmm
The next day when she realised what she'd done we were all convinced she was going to be ill and had all the cleaning supplies handy. She was totally fine, not even an extra trip to the toilet. She was very lucky though and she could have been very ill.

firstimemamma · 26/12/2019 10:32

Thanks for the update op. Aaaahh I feel a bit mean for admitting this but it is annoying that he has managed to avoid illness. Means he hasn't learned a thing!

Ah well, have a good Boxing Day Xmas Smile

catwithnohat · 26/12/2019 10:32

Any update on the state of his lordship's guts yet?? Xmas Grin

Barbie222 · 26/12/2019 10:41

I wouldn't have eaten it. I feel your pain, though. Had similar here with a pack of sausages years ago, but he learned his lesson with dodgy guts afterwards!!

Nutkin123 · 26/12/2019 11:10

Place marking for shitmaggedan

billy1966 · 26/12/2019 12:56

One of those mixed emotions situations..... you'd love to be sooo right.....but then you'd have to be sympathetic at some point and have to "mind" him🙄.................🤔🤔🤔.ok.......... being right would win for me😂

TurduckenFucken · 26/12/2019 13:59

Any chance you could still sabotage him? A bit of left over pate from the bin? Grin