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hands up who got a baylis and harding gift set!
PineappleDanish · 25/12/2019 10:02
I did.
From my mother. Even after lots of conversations through the year about how we're using solid shampoo and bars of soap to cut down on plastics.
She explicitly asked what we wanted for christmas and we decided to ask her for vouchers for a family day out at a local attraction. But apparently we had to have "something to open too". So mine was a Baylis and Harding set and a car of whole nut cadbury's chocolate which I don't eat either because of palm oil.
DH got a similar gift set as did DS. Suspect they were on a 3 for 2.
Not wanting to be ungrateful but if she'd just have stuck to the plan we would all have been delighted.
Am I being unreasonable?
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I know he meant well he just didn't think!TulipCat · 25/12/2019 10:23
Just chill out and try to remember that giving gifts is a two way thing. It's partly about the pleasure of giving as well as receiving. My mum is exactly the same about "something to open". Just thank her and pass it on if it's not right. Don't suck all the joy out of giving!
Inforthelonghaul · 25/12/2019 10:27
Not me for the first time in 20 odd years thanks to us deciding not to swap gifts with family this year. Extremely liberating and nothing to regift or donate for a change. Even better, we have spent some lovely time with family, it’s definitely not spoilt anything.
SweetPeaPods · 25/12/2019 10:45
I’m in a similar boat OP. My sister and sister in law both asked for ideas for kids. They didn’t buy any of the ideas (definitely not over budget, my sister said she couldn’t be bothered) so they got them things they already have. Trying not to come across as ungrateful but I would rather someone bought nothing than put no thought into a gift.
fiftiesmum · 25/12/2019 11:32
Did last year along with food items that were way past sell by date from same person (would have been harmless but probably would have lost the flavour). The gift set caused a lot family arguments as the sun shines from the gift givers rear end. I regifted the baylis and Harding back to them this year (waiting for the fall out)
thebakerwithboobs · 25/12/2019 11:50
The ingratitude is breathtaking. They bought what you wanted and also wanted you to have a gift to open on the day. If you don't want it, someone at the local shelter will be very grateful for it but give your family the pleasure of seeing you open something and appreciate the thought.
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