I was crying, he was filming

[RexDangerVest]

I've done everything for Christmas, literally every single thing. DP hasn't bought a single present or contributed ANYTHING. Hasn't even asked what I've bought the kids or showed the slightest bit of interest. He went to bed last night, I stayed up finishing sorting everything. He has a lie in, I was up at 5.30 with eldest DS (SEN) trying to calm him and stop him waking everyone up. Youngest DS wakes up so I said we can go downstairs now but need to wait for daddy to open presents. After some persuading DP comes downstairs. He's already grumpy and snappy with me and the kids (eldest is hyper). I ask to borrow his phone to take some photos as mine is broken. He's being rude and I'm getting upset as kids are starting to open presents. He starts filming on his phone and I tell him to stop but he won't. I tried to get his phone and he yelled at me and wouldn't give it to me. Carried on filming. I missed the kids opening their presents because I was so upset and he just sat and filmed the whole thing. He didn't even deserve to be there the selfish fuck. I'm LTB I hope you all agree IANBU

@ItttsssssChrissttmassss in @Havaina's defence, she was being an arsehole to the person who thought I was lying about my phone being broken

Oops... apologies @Havaina!! 😂😂😂

@Havaina yawn! I know...but I typed too quickly and didn't check spell checker...big deal.

@RexDangerVest you sound like a peach. Hope you're having a lovely Christmas!

Well, made it through the day. Kids had a nice time and are now asleep. Told him it's over. Merry Christmas MN and cheers to a new year of freedom 🥂

Well done OP. You can do this. Merry Christmas x

I’m sorry but that is abusive in my opinion. Putting phone right in your face when you are upset..that’s not nice behaviour, that’s not loving, it’s what a cruel bully would do. You need to leave him ASAP

Hugs

Just keep that memory very very clear in the forefront of your mind.
If you don’t want a repeat (or worse) of it next Christmas then keep that memory really clear and stick to your plans of leaving this absolute arsewipe, useless, pathetic excuse of a man
Happy 2020, make it count!

Well done OP let’s hope next Christmas is much happier for you and your children.

Happy new year

Oh and for those who called it - he played the 'mental' card. Said to me 'do I need to call a doctor' in reference to my reaction!

I’m sorry but that is abusive in my opinion. Putting phone right in your face when you are upset..that’s not nice behaviour, that’s not loving, it’s what a cruel bully would do.

Exactly!! I said to him 'if someone is distressed and they ask you to stop, you stop' he just scoffed at me saying distressed.

What a nasty bastard... you need to LTB.

Christmas, and everyday, would be better without his miserable face.