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To think that the queen not visiting her DH in hospital...

97 replies

AlorMy · 25/12/2019 01:14

Is yet another indication that the royal family operate on strange (to the general public) emotional terms?

Would it not be standard that family would visit if you are unwell and in hospital?

And yet it appears that the Queen and family did not attend Prince Philip’s side.

OP posts:
Countryescape · 25/12/2019 03:39

They don’t have a real marriage so why is anyone surprised?

eaglejulesk · 25/12/2019 03:46

I would be fine with no visitors if I was only in hospital for a few days. Not really our business anyway!

Aaarrgghhh · 25/12/2019 03:49

Why does it matter? We all do things differently.

Jossina · 25/12/2019 03:52

@AlorMy I really wouldn't. Especially if I knew there was other family and traditions that they'd be missing out on. And if I was apparently a prickly male born in the early 1920s.

It's interesting that you put them in your shoes so easily but never thought they might wear a different size. Or however that metaphor would go. People are different.

Dogno1 · 25/12/2019 03:57

Well they're hardly 'Liz and Phil who've never spent a night apart during their marriage'. She's not going to be popping in with a bag of grapes, puzzle book, and setting up her stall knitting next to his bedside. As a total derail - I'm not necessarily a massive fan of the monarchy, but when she passes I'll be sad to lose a female head of state.

expat101 · 25/12/2019 04:03

I'm sure numerous family members and close friends popped in to see him without it being reported... but if he wanted to be alone with only his immediate Aid or such like being there to avoid the circus media, so be it and good on Him.

Nanamilly · 25/12/2019 04:28

Sorry @Jajabinksfeetstink**
But that is utter bollocks
With the staff HRM has, there would definitely been ways to avoid the situation you suggest

It’s obvious Prince Phillip means the world to you and your upset HM didn’t visit him in hospital but you Really should try to calm down.

pallisers · 25/12/2019 04:38

They don’t have a real marriage so why is anyone surprised?

What an absolutely weird thing to say.

They are married for decades and have 4 children. What isn''t real about it?

It may not look like your marriage or my marriage but why the hell would you decree it isn't a real marriage. I'd say 60 years, 4 children, whatever number grandchildren and great grandchildren and the ups and downs they have weathered are probably more real than many of the marriages of people on MN.

ivykaty44 · 25/12/2019 04:48

What is a real marriage?

GlummyMcGlummerson · 25/12/2019 05:18

They've been together for over 70 years, I like the way they lead separate lives, and they're obviously secure enough that they can do that and not be attached at the hip. Like a PP said the security issue is so important - if he was on his death bed I'm sure she'd visit

Topseyt · 25/12/2019 05:25

He wanted peace and quiet. I can understand that. Also, we don't know that she didn't make a clandestine visit.

It tends to be obvious when she is around for any length of time though and would cause the rumour mill to go into overdrive. So, she doesn't usually.

I'd bet that she phones him daily.

NemophilistRebel · 25/12/2019 05:40

I thought it a good decision of hers not to visit considering how heavily people read I to her every action

The press would have been only reporting on his imminent death

But this meant that it was minor news and gladly he is out and with queenie for crimbo day

speakout · 25/12/2019 06:04

How do you know she didn't visit?

What the media reports is not always true or compete.

NemophilistRebel · 25/12/2019 06:17

OP along with the British press were well aware queen was in a totally different part of the country

WineOrGinOrBoth · 25/12/2019 06:21

What a goady thread. WhenEver I’m in hospital I loath having visitors. I prefer peace & quiet. The lovely private hospital near me where I usually have to go to is better than any hotel. I don’t want visitors disturbing my precious time there thank you very much.

Also what’s a real marriage? My parents marriage is probably fairly similar to theirs. They often spend time in different homes in the UK. Country house & flat in town. House abroad. They both travel separately & are not glued to the hip. It’s certainly a very real marriage just a different one to yours.

thickwoollytights · 25/12/2019 06:25

She must have so much emotion stuffed down and locked in, after all
DoEs affairs over the years - perhaps living apart for most of the time and not seeing each other too often , works for her.

myself2020 · 25/12/2019 06:28

I absolutely hate having visitors in hospital. Especially if its only for some days.

Notwiththeseknees · 25/12/2019 06:34

Quite probably she had lots of appointments, traditions and duties to fulfill and being so loyal to her country she carried them out. She is very stoic and if he had been in hospital in Kings Lynn would probably have squeezed in a visit.

Ariela · 25/12/2019 06:34

You can imagine the news if she did visit 'PP on death's door, Queen visited him in hospital'

NameChangeNugget · 25/12/2019 06:36

Why are you so concerned OP?

PlumsGalore · 25/12/2019 06:37

I’m sure they FaceTimed each other all the time 😀

ElizabethMountbatten · 25/12/2019 06:38

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the request of the OP.

WineOrGinOrBoth · 25/12/2019 06:38

Well quite! Maybe she visited maybe she didn’t. Their marriage not yours.

Sparklybaublefest · 25/12/2019 06:42

I dont think it is necessary. It was a "planned procedure". They have days apart ordinarily.

Fruitbatdancer · 25/12/2019 06:49

I pressume he was in for a blood transfusion to get him into best of health before Xmas day? Under those circumstances I can understand that it was pre planned and she didn’t visit so as not to disturb other patients/ staff by arriving with her circus...