Supposed to be at my mums but my mum’s been really hard work recently. If you remember my last thread I posted under a different name about how my mum is taking over my pregnancy.
The other day my mum said she was cooking a curry for the family on Christmas Eve. I don’t live with her. I assumed I would be invited as all of my brothers and sisters are there. Yesterday I said I will see you tomorrow for Christmas Eve. She said why? I didn’t think you’d be coming. I said okay I won’t come, and she said well I just don’t need the drama (I am trying to remain as drama free as possible as pregnant and she is picking fights with everyone).
I decided I would go to my partners for Christmas as he is spending it with his family, but I received a text from my mum apologising and saying please come. So I have come to my mums.
In the space of two hours, she has made digs at me already. First when my grandmother asked me what I was writing about (I’m a journalist and I was funnily enough assigned how to avoid conflict at Christmas) and I told her, to which my mum goes ‘How about not inviting your daughter’ out of the blue. No arguments nothing, I’ve been trying to be nice to her.
I then said I was looking forward to having my first Christmas at my house next year when my baby will be here, and she said ‘Why don’t you spend it at your house this year instead’.
It’s been non-stop digs and her trying to start fights with everyone for days and I just don’t need the stress. But I don’t want to upset her by going to my partners because I know she will be vile to me and manipulate me into feeling guilty and like I’ve ruined Christmas.
Would IBU to go to my partners for Christmas?