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To put my name first on present labels?

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mumwithatum · 24/12/2019 07:31

I buy and wrap all of the gifts for both hub's and my family. I have a large family, his is quite small. When I write labels for my family I start with from me, then him then 3 kids in age order. When it's for his family I write him, me then three kids in age order as an easy way to differentiate between Dad and and Mum presents for his parents and because it's his family.
Yesterday I wrote his dads label and because I was so used to following his name with my kids I ended up writing my name at the end. I laughed and mentioned this to hubs who told me that really his name should always be first as that is the tradition... eg Mr and Mrs.
I told him that it wasn't happening, that it was outdated and that he wasn't more important than me, and that as I did all the work I got the first credit. (This was all said in jest between us).
I then wrote the labels on the kids present from us and realised that I always put mum then dad.
Although I prob won't change my labelling method as it works, it did make me wonder how others might perceive it. So, what do you guys think? AIBU? And what do you guys do?

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TowelStripes · 24/12/2019 07:35

If I'm wrapping


ILoveGroot · 24/12/2019 07:36

I put his name first in presents to his family, for our DS we alternate on each gift tag!


Bluntness100 · 24/12/2019 07:37

I think you're both really over thinking this


heartsonacake · 24/12/2019 07:37

YABVU for calling him “hubs”.


DanielRicciardosSmile · 24/12/2019 07:37

For my family, it's from me, DH and DS. For his, it's from DH, me and DS. For DS it's from mum and dad (dad and mum just sounds weird imo)


OceanSunFish · 24/12/2019 07:38

Whenever I write a card or present tag I write my name first, then his, then the DC in age order. Same whether it's his family or mine. It's a tiny recognition of the person going to the trouble of writing it IMO!


Mileymileymoomoo · 24/12/2019 07:39

On present labels and card, I do myself then DH then kids in age order for my side of the family and for DHs side I do DH, me then kids in age order.

For stuff to DSD, DH always goes first. For our DD I always go first

If DH told me his name HAD to go first, I would think he was a bit weird.


saraclara · 24/12/2019 07:39

I did the same as you, OP.

But yeah. Dump hubs. The word, not the man.


abcde11 · 24/12/2019 07:40

Whenever I sign anything it's mostly in alphabetical order, luckily my initial comes near the start Xmas Grin


Fr0g · 24/12/2019 07:40

whoever shops, wraps and writes gift tags gets name first


saraclara · 24/12/2019 07:40

The same for families I mean. For kids, mum and dad rolled of the tongue/pen more easily. Didn't give it a thought.


Betterbegoing · 24/12/2019 07:40

YABU for calling him ‘hubs’

For my family and friends, it’s me then DH, for his it’s DH then me.
I do all the present buying, everyone already knows that. A tag makes shit all difference Grin


Ginfordinner · 24/12/2019 07:41

I just put "from the Ginfordinners". It's easier than writing down 5 names.

But if you are buying and wrapping then you get first dibs on name order IMO.


Breastfeedingworries · 24/12/2019 07:42

If you’re buying and wrapping all the Christmas presents you put your name 🤷🏼‍♀️

If he’s starts going out, finding a parking space, walking into shops selecting gifts, carrying them to the car, driving home, unpacking then wrapping and writing the labels he can put his name. Grin


emilybrontescorsett · 24/12/2019 07:42

I always write mum & dad.
Me first for my family, dh first for his side.


OccasionalNachos · 24/12/2019 07:42

Alphabetical order for me, because it usually evens out equality-wise over all the gifts to and from people!


Ohyesiam · 24/12/2019 07:44

Sometimes I put from mum and dad. Sometimes I put from dad and mum.
Sometimes I put from dumb and mad.

(PS none of it matters)


Cat0115 · 24/12/2019 07:45

My husband buys, wraps and labels all his presents to his side of the family.....they don't get anything if he doesn't. Smile


Topseyt · 24/12/2019 07:45

We don't give to the wider family. Or send Christmas cards. So I've never really given this much thought at all and can't say I would really notice what other people do.

I don't actually think it matters much.


MyEnormousTurnip · 24/12/2019 07:46

Dh writes tags for his family so probably puts his name first. I’ve no idea though. If I’m doing it then my name is first.

However I’d never write a gift tag or card for MIL and write “to mum”. That would feel weird. But he does his own so not an issue.


cookiemonster5 · 24/12/2019 07:47

It's a non-issue. Mum and dad on the kids stuff because it flows better. Hubby then me on others stuff again just because it flows better. Kids in age order.


GrannyBags · 24/12/2019 07:49

I’m too tight/being eco friendly so don’t buy tags. I just write the name of the recipient on the back with sharpie. We give out all our presents in person so they know who they are from.


NorthernBirdAtHeart · 24/12/2019 07:51

YABVU calling your other half hubs...I didn’t get further than that..


ItWentInMyEye · 24/12/2019 07:51

My DP isn't bothered if I put my name first on presents for his family, but I tend to put his first for theirs just so I can distinguish between the two sets of mums etc.


fantasmasgoria1 · 24/12/2019 07:51

His family his name first, my family my name first. We don't have any children together which makes things easier!!!

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