To put my name first on present labels?

[mumwithatum]

I buy and wrap all of the gifts for both hub's and my family. I have a large family, his is quite small. When I write labels for my family I start with from me, then him then 3 kids in age order. When it's for his family I write him, me then three kids in age order as an easy way to differentiate between Dad and and Mum presents for his parents and because it's his family.
Yesterday I wrote his dads label and because I was so used to following his name with my kids I ended up writing my name at the end. I laughed and mentioned this to hubs who told me that really his name should always be first as that is the tradition... eg Mr and Mrs.
I told him that it wasn't happening, that it was outdated and that he wasn't more important than me, and that as I did all the work I got the first credit. (This was all said in jest between us).
I then wrote the labels on the kids present from us and realised that I always put mum then dad.
Although I prob won't change my labelling method as it works, it did make me wonder how others might perceive it. So, what do you guys think? AIBU? And what do you guys do?

DH buys and wraps all his own presents to his family, so he can write whatever he likes.

DH buys and wraps all presents for his family and I do mine. On mine I put my name first. For the DC I buy and wrap most of their presents and put my name first. Am sure he will be putting his name first on his.

We do different wrapping paper for my side and Dh's side so we know which bag to take into their house.

But I write for my family, he writes for his. So on my family my name is first, then Dh, on Dh's his name is first.

I don't see it as the traditional way ie the man's name is first, but obviously as a parent you would say your own child first then their partner. So Jennifer and Steven to Jennifer's parents. Steven and Jennifer to Steven's parents.

“Hubs” 🤮🤮🤮

Blimey its just a word. Get over it.

Well, I’m really maverick and write them in a different order each time with all 5 of us 😱🤣

If I'm making the effort its my name first always

You have way too much time on your hands

(S)he who does the buying / wrapping / card writing chooses the order.

If the other half of the couple has a problem with that, then they'll just have to do it themselves next time.

I tend to put myself first if I've done the buying / wrapping / card writing because why the hell not?

If it's for my family i'll put "Ann, George and the kids" if it's his, we'll put "George, Ann and the kids".

DH just just as much shopping and wrapping as I do.

I sometimes write Mrs & Mr when the opportunity arises.

On presents from us to the kids, we just label with the childrens' names - they know who they are from!
All other presents - depends who writes the tag 😉

Crikey wish this was all I had to worry about...

by the end of the wrapping when I am doing stocking presents its from m & d

For God's sake get off the ew she said hubs bandwagon. It's just a bloody word. You make yourselves sound ridiculous.

FWIW I always do me first and then him. Just because I'm more important, obvs

If he wants his name first, he can wrap them.

Luckily my husband is from a different culture so he deals with his family's days and I deal with mine. Unluckily (if we're being petty) there's none of the bullshit wrapping and tagging and thoughtfulness involved in his culture's presents. A gift set or voucher or a box of fruit on the way to their house is seen as a totally sufficient amount of thought.

Jealous, honestly.

who told me that really his name should always be first as that is the tradition... eg Mr and Mrs.

If he’s going to pull that bullshit you need to remind him that he is correct when addressing to Mr and Mrs however when using first names in a social setting the wife’s name goes first.

I use the same method as you for family. For the children and my DH I use a different paper for each one. No labels to write, saves lots of time (and all this over thinking 😳😁)

Tell him to sort his own presents out and then he can write what he likes.

Don’t get why Mumsnet feel the need to be mean to op over their loved ones nick names. She hasn’t come in here to ask about that.

But yeah I don’t think I would even notice which name came first. It’s which ever flows better.

Why does it matter? It's not something I've ever fretted on or debated about.

Same as you, my family - me first, his family - his name first. For the DC we've always put mummy and daddy. Never thought about alternating

If he buys, wraps the presents and writes the name tag then he can do what ever he wants.

If not (he leaves it you you, which I suspect he does) you do it however you feel best.

It’s no big deal, tell him to get over himself.

‘Hubs’? 🥴

I’ve never even thought about this, but I would always put my name first I’d I was writing, and my husband would put his first if he was.

Whenever I write a card/ tag etc it’s always from my husband first.

I think that was just how you write stuff? Like if he wrote it he’d put my name first?