To put my name first on present labels?

[mumwithatum]

I buy and wrap all of the gifts for both hub's and my family. I have a large family, his is quite small. When I write labels for my family I start with from me, then him then 3 kids in age order. When it's for his family I write him, me then three kids in age order as an easy way to differentiate between Dad and and Mum presents for his parents and because it's his family.
Yesterday I wrote his dads label and because I was so used to following his name with my kids I ended up writing my name at the end. I laughed and mentioned this to hubs who told me that really his name should always be first as that is the tradition... eg Mr and Mrs.
I told him that it wasn't happening, that it was outdated and that he wasn't more important than me, and that as I did all the work I got the first credit. (This was all said in jest between us).
I then wrote the labels on the kids present from us and realised that I always put mum then dad.
Although I prob won't change my labelling method as it works, it did make me wonder how others might perceive it. So, what do you guys think? AIBU? And what do you guys do?

This has to be peak Mumsnet! Who cares?! When you unwrap a gift, do you scrutinise the order in which people have written their names? Do you value them more/ less because of where they come on the label pecking order? No? Didn’t think so. It really does not matter 😆

I’ve always just put my name first as I’m writing it. DH writes his own name first. I guess I do more of the presents but he’s never complained. That’s a bit of an outdated view he’s got there.

Mine goes first on my family and DHs on his regardless of who shopped and wrapped. Not sure why recognition is needed tbh and it’s not that hard to buy a gift and wrap it.

I just write the name of the person receiving it in a sharpie pen on the wrapper from The Bakers because we have six kids and life is too short! Nobody gives a shit what order names are on a label of a gift they receive.

I just put "from the Ginfordinners". It's easier than writing down 5 names.

Yeah me too. Though if I can get away without labels I do.

If I'm writing labels then my name first, if dh is doing the writing then he starts with his.

We used to pass the damn things around as dh wanted to write his own name on each one, and his own message. Took such a loooong time. As the years have gone by, he's got bored with that one.

People who put their husbands name first because of “tradition” need a good shake. There’s absolutely no way I would put my husbands name first on presents to my friends or family that I have bought and wrapped. And there’s absolutely no way he would question it. Some of you seem to live in a time warp.

Unless he’s going to be purchasing the gift, wrapping it and writing the card I don’t think he gets a say.
If he’s going to complain then next year he can do it all.

I write my name 1st because it comes 1st alphabetically.

It is my daily act of tiny feminist resistance to always put the woman's name first on cards and gift tags. Men first as a tradition harks back to when men were "head of the family". So...no.

Sorry, not so clever as some of you as to be able to directly quote replies in bold before responding.
Guessing "hubs" not a popular one then 😂 😂

Thanks to those who answered my question. As I said, I prob won't change my method and it was a bit of a laugh between us, but it's good to know that lots of you do the same.

For those that thought I had too much time on my hands... I'm a mum and it's Christmas. Of course I don't have any spare time on my hands, just thought I would ask a question that I was interested in the answer too. But if you know what this "too much time" is and how I could get it I would really liked to know 🤣🤣

His for his family, mine for my family, not writing forms on the dc presents, they know who they're from.

He is bring ridiculous.

I put my name first on things to my family and DH's first on things for his.

I always put the woman's name first - for everything.

If I'm sending a letter or e-mail to an organisation I always put 'Dear Madam/Sir' When I send presents or cards to people I know I always put (e.g.) To Sue and Pete.

When I write gift tags (when married) I put 'Love from Lucy and knobhead'.

I hate the patriarchy of 'men first'.

I always put DH first, then me, then children in age order.

When I see the DW has written herself first, it smacks of a silly statement being made, along the lines of 'im an insecure wo man and I neeeeed to be first! I'm important!'

(Light hearted)

Same as you and for same reasons ie could different between which parent it is for.

I do the same in cards though too.

For kids its always mummy and daddy, I don't think Daddy and Mummy sounds right?!

I just try to remember who we are, sod the order

I just put myself first because I’m the first person I think of when I’m writing it

I do exactly the same as you

In cards I always write me, dp, then children in age order. So, loutypips, loutyboy, dsd & dd.

Ladies first!
Always!!!!
Or.... as it's nearly 2020 - who gives a shit!?
You do what YOU want OP.
You've put all the effort in. You are the one writing the tag.
So it's entirely up to you.
Ignore your DH.

Get a life!

@indigo13
I always put DH first, then me, then children in age order.

When I see the DW has written herself first, it smacks of a silly statement being made, along the lines of 'im an insecure wo man and I neeeeed to be first! I'm important!'

(Light hearted)

really? light hearted my arse, goady more like

DP and I were laughing about this the other day, my DP are really picky about this but over time frankly they have learnt not to annoy me by saying anything . I had sent them a parcel as we are currently in a detente from the usual 40 year cold war and I honestly hadn't done it on purpose , I had been thinking about dm at the time and about the present I had got her and I wrote her name first as in Mrs x.y shiny and Mr g.u Shiny on the address label for the parcel. Dp laughed and said that would drive df mad.

Hes right it will.

Can't say I care , i didn't do it on purpose to make a statement but I'll take the petty laugh now it's there.

@mumwithatum, I do exactly the same, so if I've wrapped gifts for people with the same name - eg mum and dad, I know which gifts are for my side of the family and which are for his. It's just organisation.

Of course, if he wants to be first on the tags he can wrap and write them himself.

Your husband is being ridiculous but as it seems so important to him I think he should do all the present buying and wrapping in future.