WIBU to tell him to get lost based on these two date suggestions

[GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby]

Option 1) tescos
Option 2) "crap pub"

Context: met through OLD, chatting for a couple of months, talked on the phone and arranged to meet on 27th.

His car is off the road so i said i would come to his neck of the woods, he should suggest where as i dont know the area.

Tescos is his first choice. Crap pub came about after i pushed back on tescos.

Told him as its a first meet and i am travelling to him (circa 50 miles) i expect more than tescos or a crap pub. Its in his court but I feel like saying "sod it" all together

Couldn't agree more @chamenanged bet he's got a bag packed already for the Tesco meet.

Hhmmm it sounds like he's not got much cash. If you're interested in him she to is personality and not bothered that he appears to have literally no cash. I would suggest some where near that location that seems decent from online reviews and offer to pay half. However, I would definitely think twice about dating someone who has no cash just because it's a stressful situation to be in and makes dating a bit crap.

Get to the [cash]point @napmum

Wise decision OP.

Hold out for someone who lives closer, who has imagination and wants to impress you and cant wait to see you.

Good luck.

Just message him back saying you don't think you are on the same wavelength.

I would not be travelling 50 miles for any date. You should not be making these compromises ever, never mind before even meeting.

This isn't even snobbery about Tesco Cafe, it seems no effort put into it from his side based on the language used. Also there is such a thing as public transport if the car is off the road.

Hard NO from me.

50 mile round trip for a date is a long way. Why cant he jump on a bus or a train and meet half way

He’s hardly eligible bachelor material!

Bet he will ask you to pick him up to drive to Tesco and back, moan that you haven’t got any bags-for-life or Clubcard points he can have, ask you to get some Durex as he’s run out of cash, then drop him at the pub on your way home.

@ghostOnToast

I have told him i no on account that he obviously cant be asked to put any effort into us meeting. And i have told him he will get no further contact from me.

Back to the top shelf.

Thanks everyone

Well done @GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby
and have a Happy Peaceful Christmas

Good call OP.

I was once in a similar situation and he suggested the motorway services midway between our locations for the coffee...... I didn't go.

Motorway. Services.

Good call GivemestrengthOrAHobby - you’ve saved yourself 100 miles of driving and being crushingly disappointed!

Well done OP!! Brilliant to see a woman on here actually standing up for herself and not accepting crappy behaviour and emotional crumbs from a bloke.

You're not on the shelf, @GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby you're pinnacle! Well done for not settling for some naff OLD loser who won't make the effort. That'll learn 'im

Have a fab stress free relaxed Christmas and 2020 will bring you good things!

OLD story for you, when I met my now-DH for the first time irl we had arranged to meet in the middle, which was 50 miles each. The pub he had looked up on the web, where he'd suggested we meet, turned out to be a complete dive, so he said "no way I'm taking you in there, you'll never want to see me again!"

We ended up in a lovely pub, had a fab lunch (log fire, home cooking, etc) and the rest is history.

Btw, distance is no object, provided you've had a good few weeks emailing/texting/chatting and you know there's chemistry between you and can't wait to meet each other. You quickly get to know long before meeting up if it's going to bomb!

Well done OP. You’re not on the shelf. You can be far more lonely in a crap relationship with someone who doesn’t deserve you, than you can on your own. It’s more back to the drawing board.