I’m really not sure what I should do. My friend is having financial issues and is in quite a lot of debt. Not sure on exact figures but pretty sure it’s north of £10k.
We were meant to go out to do an activity last weekend (me, her and both our DPs). We had to book in advance and pay so I triple checked with her that she was happy and she said that she was as she was getting a bonus that month. So I booked and paid (it was non refundable) and she was excited and made no mention of being unable to pay. On the day of she cancelled. She has made no offer to pay and I think she thinks because she didn’t go that she doesn’t have to pay. But it means that I’m paying for it now, we tried to get a refund at the event as we still went but couldn’t.
We are much better off than them financially and I think she tends to think it’s ok for us to pay for her. There have been a lot of things recently that we’ve had to pay for. She probably in total owes me around £700. Some of it I did offer to treat so that doesn’t really count but just to get a rough idea of how much I subsidise her.
She is a really good friend, she is always there for me when I need her and we have a great time when we are together. She’s only had this debt for the last couple of years, before then we had no issues regarding money.
I have asked for the money but she just ignored it. So should I just forget getting the money back or should I ask again? We are planning on moving soon so really want to be saving as much as possible.