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To think this is rude
Mashaandthebearr · 23/12/2019 15:22
A friend of ours was talking to DP a few months back and DP mentioned he was getting a certain gift for DS for Christmas.
Well DP never got the gift and when I asked him why he told me he couldn't because the friend went and bought it for DS. He's pretty pissed off, and says he let friend know he was annoyed and hasn't spoke to them since.
I think its rude, however I wouldn't have told them that, I would have just taken the gift and said thanks. Was DP BU for telling them he was annoyed about it, and I for kind of agreeing with him, or was friend BU for buying the gift for our DS that DP had planned to buy?
Am I being unreasonable?
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I said if dp had bought the gift for him, it would have been from santa, so friend has ruined that for him..Butchyrestingface · 23/12/2019 15:28
Er, where is the gift? Does your partner have it? If so, he should return it. Inappropriate to accept a gift for your child from someone you promptly fall out with because of gift!
If he doesn’t have gift, well, he’s got one more shopping day til Christmas!
goodluckhun · 23/12/2019 15:37
So your DH and his friend were chatting, DH mentioned a gift he wanted to get your DS and friend bought it for him instead?
I'm clear on that part (if above is correct interpretation?!) but can't understand your DH falling out with friend over it? Either it's not a 'big' type present so pal thought oh I'll get it as I have no other ideas and obv DS wants it, OR it is a big type present which is a bit weird to spend a lot on someone else's child but pretty generous and I'd just say thanks so much and get your son something else?
Mashaandthebearr · 23/12/2019 15:42
goodluckhun yes youre right, and it's a pretty big gift, which is a big reason I think he was wrong to say anything as I think maybe friend was just being a bit thoughtless, but generous. Again, they haven't properly fallen out, DP responded letting them know he was unhappy that friend bought it, friend never replied and they haven't spoken. I 100% have not fallen out with friend, and I won't be either.
StillCoughingandLaughing · 23/12/2019 15:46
This seems way OTT. You say your partner mentioned it to his friend months ago? He probably remembered the item your son would like for Christmas, but not that you were already planning to buy it for him. People have a lot going on.
In any case, if I was close enough to someone to be buying Christmas presents for their kids, I’d be pretty pissed off if they fell out with me for buying the wrong thing. Are you sure you don’t have two children - one of whom you married?
KurriKurri · 23/12/2019 15:51
All sounds a bit odd - but I see lots of threads on here where the parents say to someone they are buying child a gift and the 'someone' then goes and buys the gift. It's weird - maybe these people are a bit uncertain about what to buy for a child and latch onto the idea once it has been mentioned.
Anyway - your child is presumably getting a toy that he will enjoy, it's hard to get cross over someone giving your child a gift (unless there is some serious passive aggressive previous for this kind of thing). I just accpet it, say thanks, and never mention what I was buying in front of that person again.
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