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Christmas Gifts - AIBU?!

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Mama8474749 · 23/12/2019 07:01

Ok, so I have a large family with lots of younger cousins! Generally speaking I spend around £15 per child and I’m quite happy to do so.

My son has been gifted something that is clearly second hand and worn... am I being unreasonable in being a little unhappy about this?!

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Am I being unreasonable?


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ChristmasSweet · 23/12/2019 12:49

Mama8474749 ignore the sister part sorry not sure where I got that from. Blush But still you are relatives, speak to her.

RicStar · 23/12/2019 13:02

I think she forgot your ds - panicked and wrapped up something to hand. I would definitely suggest you dont keep doing this year after year with a growing pool of children - either get a family gift or just do a trip / meal together depending on age of children.

winterisstillcoming · 23/12/2019 13:08

My SIL did something last year. She gave me a set of pyjamas last year, wrong size, longer length when I have 5'2. Also, I didn't receive them until after Xmas. Suspected it was a regift or sale item so just gave it back to her in form of my husband and hers and said if you can swap it for something else that I can wear, I'd be grateful otherwise keep them for yourself as they look as though they might fit you.

Give it back.

Totallycluelessoverhere · 23/12/2019 13:49

Those posters saying that OP is being u grateful...the relative bought new and presumably appropriate gifts for all of the other 9 children. If it was an affordability issue she could have spent £1 less on each of the other children and therefore been able to afford a new gift for OPs child. OP spent £60 on the relatives 4 children! I’m not eh sort of person who gives to receive or expects the same amount to be spent as what I spend but it sounds like this family had a gift giving arrangement and had planned to meet up and exchange gifts as a group. To treat one child so differently to the others is plain wrong. Something needs to be said and things need to be done differently in future years.

GertiMJN · 23/12/2019 15:54

That's weird.
Like pps I wonder if she overlooked one child (your ds).

Or could this have been intended for someone else and the gifts got muddled..

If the gifts for your other children were on par with those given to other children in the family it seems odd to think it's a deliberate act towards you.

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