WIBU to spend Xmas alone doing housework

[treaclepumpkin]

The current plan is for us (DH, DS1 (3) and DS2 (1)) to go over to my PIL on Xmas day. We'd go over around 11ish and spend most of the day there. Back late afternoon/early evening.

There is rarely ever time I am ever at home alone. Can't actually recall a single time in recent history and the house is a constant mess.

It's sad, but I'm thinking I would be glad to have a few hours child free to just tackle the place. Declutter a bit and finally use our new carpet washer.

I'm thinking I could drop them off and go back home (40 min round trip). Then maybe come back maybe an hour before they are ready to come home. So I would spend a little time at PILs.

Is this ridiculous? WIBU to "abandon" my family - especially for something as mundane as housework? It just seems like a perfect opportunity...

In fairness, I could probably "send" DH to his parents with the kids another day, before work starts back (but he might not really want to do this).

Why can’t you DH take them out for the day (cinema, soft play etc) on another day??

Your dh and inlaws will be offended

3 and 1 year old at the cinema? Noooo

You know the answer .

I'd ask in laws to have them and both of you clean another day

Once it's done do it little and often to keep on top of it

Surely your DH can take them out another day? Seems sad for you to miss Xmas.

Crack on

My house is a bombsite (three kids under five) so I get your frustration, but surely your oldest child at least will be upset about this? Get their dad to take them out another day, or ask a friend or relative to babysit and he can help with the cleaning. Don't spend Christmas Day doing housework when you have young children.

This is very odd! You can’t ditch your family at Christmas to clean the carpet! Send them out for a day some other time!

I can see the appeal however i think it would be best if you did this another day in the holidays. Then you can put away all the new things.

In fairness, I could probably "send" DH to his parents with the kids another day, before work starts back (but he might not really want to do this).

Tough. Hopefully he can think of something else he can do with what I am assuming are his own children.

You want to kiss Christmas Day with your kids to go housework? I cannot understand that at all.

But late now but I would have got DH to take them out for a day last weekend or this so I could blitz the house.

There's no way I would spend Christmas cleaning. Certainly not with young children. They aren't young and loving Christmas for long. You don't want to miss it.

You can't do that! Why can't you "send" them another day or why haven't you "sent" them another day up until now?

There is rarely ever time I am ever at home alone. Can't actually recall a single time in recent history and the house is a constant mess.

This is what you and your DH need to address ^^

Cleaning on Christmas day will not fix that problem for you.

Let me get this right, you would rather send Christmas Day doing housework than spending time with your family? That's bizarre! If the state of the house bothers you that much then you and your DH are equally responsible, but sorting it on CD is not the answer. Your kids.. just why?

Please don't.... Enjoy Christmas day playing and enjoying your 3year old

How about you take the DC out another day while your DH stays at home and does the housework?

Get your husband to take them out another day! Do you really want to miss Christmas wit your kids to clean??

On Christmas Day?
Don't be so bloody daft.
There's 364 other days that you could pick from to do carpet cleaning.

Why would you want to leave your kids on Christmas day? Your going to massively offend dh and inlaws

On your deathbed, do you really believe you'll be thinking "I wish I'd ditched more Xmases with the kids, so I could have done more cleaning"?

It sounds like you desperately need some time on your own OP and also for the kid free time to do some
Housework.

Honestly I would do what makes
You happy. If you prefer some time to yourself on Christmas Day then why the hell
Not!

But make your DH drive and just stay at home
In your jammies. With a big
Mug of tea!

Just to say, my youngest has health issues that have ultimately meant until very recently, I couldn't really be separated from him for more than a couple of hours.

And I guess I don't need to send DH to his parents, he could go wherever he wanted with the kids.

DH has said it's fine by him, but yes, perhaps PILs would. They would never say. They are lovely people, so it's not a case of us not getting on or anything.

Last weekend DH had been out and then we'd had lots of projectile vomiting to deal with (DS2'a vomit, not DH).

I tidy every day and have a cleaner once a week, but I think we just own too much stuff. I have lots of baby bits I no longer need (two and done for us) and the amount of toys these kids own, it's just unnecessary (large family, mummy with a Prime habit (that I'm slowly trying to kick) and generous friends = gifts galore). We have so much we could give to charity, but sorting through it all is never priority because I have 50 million loads of laundry to wash and iron every week and well as all the usual stuff. I've been on maternity leave but back at work in the new year, so just want a fresh start all round.

But I guess that doesn't have to be Xmas day...

YABVVU. We only get a guaranteed 18 or so christmases with our children before they might want to be doing their own thing and you are thinking of giving one of these up to do housework? And how will you frame this to your PiL? As you say your DH can take them to his parents (or elsewhere) alone another time if you need some time in the house on your own. This is one of the weirdest things I've ever read on mumsnet. I'm kind of assuming you meant to put 'lighthearted like in your thread title.

@Flower777 yes, I think a bit of me just wants to be alone for once too...

I'm only saying I'd drive because that way I can come back and still spend time with them. If they take the car then I can't come at all.