WIBU to spend Xmas alone doing housework

[treaclepumpkin]

The current plan is for us (DH, DS1 (3) and DS2 (1)) to go over to my PIL on Xmas day. We'd go over around 11ish and spend most of the day there. Back late afternoon/early evening.

There is rarely ever time I am ever at home alone. Can't actually recall a single time in recent history and the house is a constant mess.

It's sad, but I'm thinking I would be glad to have a few hours child free to just tackle the place. Declutter a bit and finally use our new carpet washer.

I'm thinking I could drop them off and go back home (40 min round trip). Then maybe come back maybe an hour before they are ready to come home. So I would spend a little time at PILs.

Is this ridiculous? WIBU to "abandon" my family - especially for something as mundane as housework? It just seems like a perfect opportunity...

In fairness, I could probably "send" DH to his parents with the kids another day, before work starts back (but he might not really want to do this).

To be honest I’m slightly against the grain here - could you both drive, send them off at 11 as planned and you join them in time for lunch? You might get a couple of hours of time for you to do what you like.

Christmas with 3 and 1 year olds very overrated if you ask me!

I do kind of see the appeal - and it would be lovely to start the New Year with a clean house.
Except that with children so young, it won't stay clean and you might feel that you've missed Christmas for nothing. What are you doing for New Year's Day? Vastly over-rated and you could clean carpets then!
PS Don't over-think sorting things out; into a binbag and out the door is the only way to do it.

My childhood memories of my Mother, are arse in the air in front of the TV manically eubanking the carpet.

You used to iron DHs boxers!

Agree with the majority saying you shouldn't do this on Christmas day, but arrange another day for dh to take the kids out, maybe on a regular basis.

I would do it if I could although I find it helpful to just set myself mini targets, eg all kitchen drawers one evening, all bathroom cupboards another. It may take a couple of weeks but at least you wouldn't have offended any family members.

I remember dreaming of arriving at the airport for our family holiday and realising there was a passport missing. Oh goodness, it's mine. Don't worry you go on ahead I will catch up with you in a weeks time.
Bliss.....

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yanbu.
It's Christmas Day - you spend it with your kids and your family. It's one day.

I wouldn't want to miss Xmas with young dcs there's only so many years that it's magical for them

Get him to take them another day.
I often get dh to take dd out whether that's to nap. Or crack on with some housework. To be fair he normally will stay out 6 hours or so therefore I get all the cleaning done and then nap

Glad you’ve decided to do this another day. If I was your DH I’d have been really upset!

I never get any time on my own either - I’m a widowed parent of 2 DCs about to head off for Christmas at my parents’ - but my parents are at the ‘looking after’ age now too, so I’m looking after everyone 😬😬

I wouldn't do it, think you will regret it and feel guilty and offend people. However, I want to say that I feel your pain. If there is any other time over the next couple of days use that, even an hour will make a difference. I vividly remember Christmas Eve 9 years ago, (had a DS3 and a DS nearly 1) found out DH was working so I had to do everything round the kids and I remember just wanting to cry (I probably did cry) cause I just wanted to be on my own to get house stuff done. In hindsight was v tired, pretty miserable and probably had borderline PND. If you can get a bit of time its a bonus, but its also lovely that someone else will be cooking Christmas dinner so you haven't got the stress of that.

No way how have you not managed to find one day yet. If not weekend - annual leave. He could even take them out boxing day why would it be Christmas Day ??!!!!