To not want a Christmas Day baby

[Sweetpeach3]

I just feel soooo guilty "what if I'm not here Christmas morning for the kids"

Baby's due tomorrow. Iv had 2 sweeps, got kidney stones and on antibiotics (all should induce labour) but Seriously no bloody sign of an arrival. Doing everything I can but I feel perfectly fine in myself I can't sit still and bump is still pretty high

Baby number 3- first was 2 weeks late , 2nd was a week early so yea was no telling what way this will go
I'm just dreading it being over Xmas eve or Xmas as their such a special magical time I don't want to miss with my other 2 baby's. This is such a big gear and i know baby's coming when baby wants to come theirs no waiting lol

I just don't want to get everything set up Xmas eve for Xmas morning then go into labour through the night then they will see what Santa's brought and me and their dad miss it as we won't be here.

I sound so selfish I just don't like missing any time with them?? their always with me and doing things with me. I only have a break when they go nursery 3 days a week an that's only 1-6!! Then I don't want the baby being born on Christmas Day as people keep sayin "it'll save us a fortune buyin one present for 2 occasions if baby's born Xmas day""
I don't agree with that at all and I have said if baby is born Xmas day the birthday will be celebrated either before or after like a proper birthday
Just feel shit iv clearly not planned the dates well here ??

I was due a Christmas Day baby last year. First came on due date, second was an emcs at 33 weeks. This one was huge and midwives and consultant all expected her early. I remember being so thankful she didn’t come on Christmas Day. She waited until 6 jan!

I’m one. It’s the best. I loved it so so much as a child. Good luck either way OP!

@PinkSpring do you think you will go before Friday?? I hope I don't have to have a third sweep because honestly. You can feel the baby's head right their ??? Cringe as that sounds. When she did my last sweep her face was shocked I hadn't gone with baby being so low an it was my third so I genuinely had to check for myself haha and i can feel baby's head about 3 cm away from the escape route.... xx

@Sweetpeach3 - can't say I have attempted to feel but I know at my sweep yesterday she said she could feel the soft spot on his head so he must be pretty dam close to the "exit"!!

This is my second and our first arrived at 40+2, this is now 40+3 and he seems to be making to signs of vacating the premises any time soon. With our first, one sweep and she was out within 12 hours! This one is a boy and he clearly isn't bothered about making an appearance anytime soon, despite two sweeps to try and get him out.

Don't jinx it yet OP. My last baby had a recorded delivery time of 1 hour 6 mins.

@PinkSpring I was just beyond curious when I seen her face to the shock of how low baby is ! Lol my friend said I should check for myself and I attempted sex the other day but felt realllyytt strange as baby was right their ? I had to stop! But my DS1 was 41+6 dd2 was 38+1! This is definitely a boy lol any money. Their lazyyyy !!!

@MerryChristmasUfilthyanimal oh don't say this id love have it over an done with now I just want baby here so bad!! With my DD (number 2) I had contractions about 8am ish but they was really spaced out so hospital said get a bath and go when I was closer together. I got a bath an made the hospital. As I got to the hospital door her head came out!! Was a 2min delivery on paper lol she was born 9.48. I was home for 2 before older kids got home from school 😂.

Il not be that lucky this time I know it ! Xx

Any news yet?!

@Sweetpeach3 any signs of baby yet? 😀

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@AlfieandAnnieRose @Queenest

Still no baby. 3rd sweep this morning and they've booked me in to be induced in the new year 😩 thought number 3 might of came abit easier then this lol I give in!! But all my decorations are now down an house is spotless just incase !
Shan't hold my breath though lol
Hope you all had a lovely Christmas xx

@Sweetpeach3 our decorations came down today as well so we are well and truly ready for him to arrive!!

I have my sweep in a bit (third one) and then I give up, he clearly can't be bothered to come out! I don't want to be induced as that would mean no home birth but he can't stay in there forever!

Mine was due on 22nd December. Induction 2nd Jan, ecs on 5th Jan.

@PinkSpring atLeast I'm not the only one. He said I should have left them up for the kids but he wouldn't of took them down?? An I don't want to be induced either it's ment to be uncomfortable but my sweep today really hurt! Xx

My third baby was due on this day last year.
Born 9th Jan after an induction. By far the latest of all my babies.
Also my easiest labour though when it got going so don’t worry too much.

@Sweetpeach3 my second and third sweeps weren't as bad as the first one, that one really hurt - today she said she gave it a "really good go" and my bishop score is now an 8, it was 7 on the second sweep and 2 on the first. I am apparently 3cm dilated but again, it doesn't mean that much as it's my second.

However every single time they think that the sweep will work so I am losing faith. Apparently I can only have three sweeps so that is it now, it's wait it out or induction if it doesn't work.

I think DP's thinking is we are now all ready and won't have to take them down one the new baby arrives, I think he was a bit Scrooge-ish but I guess it makes sense - we didn't have loads out anyway

@Sweetpeach3 from what I hear inductions can be very very different. I've heard very positive stories and negative. Mine was very negative, but then they couldn't even reach my cervix when they did a sweep I was that unripe. Turns out baby's head was not in the right position (I knew this all along but they refused to go straight to c section) so he was not coming out anyway. Uncomfortable is not quite the word I would use for my induction 🤔. I hope you go into labour soon and if you don't I hope you have a nice easy and quick induction. I hear its definitely possible.

@PinkSpring oh no. They said I was 3cm also but they didn't seem hopefull about it working although they did say with it being number 3 anything can happen.
But for some reason it reallly hurt. They've never hurt like that before! She offered me a 4th sweep next Friday but I said it's pointless as I'm ment to be induced on the Saturday anyway....
@Rubyroost yea iv heard a few different tales and I guess every labour and situation is going to be different I'd just rather be in my own comfort in pain then sat in a bloody hospital if I have the choice lol clearly the baby has the ruling over this one though!!
I'm still quite high and really would of thought I'd of gone by now as iv got kidney stones an had antibiotics etc but nope nothing. Clearly a comfy. Lazy BOY!!! Haha xx

I was induced and it was a positive experience. Took 24 hours to start working, but once it did I had a very straightforward vaginal delivery within 4.5 hrs of labour starting and with just a little gas n air.

I was told by MW that walking was the best way to get baby to get in position, strengthen thighs and hips for pushing etc.

I plodded/waddled miles every day in the last couple of weeks, just slowly and steadily walking and walking.

Not sure if it actually helped but thought I'd pass along the advice 😁

@TorysSuckRevokeArticle50 I don't sit still an that still isn't working 😩 I'm trying everything but sex atm lol
Iv got 2 toddlers so sitting around isn't an option. Was in the play centre last week going down the slides! Lol but atLeast you had a quick delivery!! Xx

@PinkSpring any news? My waters have actually gone now so fingers crossed anytime now x

@Sweetpeach3 nope had a bit of a bloody show this morning and period pains all day but that is it, nothing else happening

With my first I don't recall my waters ever going so not relying on that for me!!

@PinkSpring let's hope that it's a sign for you then !! An iv never had mine go either so I ain't holding my breath. Got no pains just sat eatin a makkies lol xx

Even if no pains you’re on a countdown now aren’t you after waters breaking? How long will they give you, 24 hours?

Iv got 24 hours otherwise they will induce me so I hope something happens rather do the labouring at home then just go hospital for last 5 mins like last time lol. It'll be what it's guna be

Dp is pissing me right of. Got the hospital then First text sayin I'm a scruff because I hadn't got any nappy bags out of my baby draws upstairs for the nappy's an only scruffs put them in the bin without a bag( he only had go get some more if he ran out I left him pjs nappy's an wipes on side wasn't askin much) Then text again saying I'm a soft twat (havnt said anything to him just could he help as I'm constantly pissing my pants as it feels an he's guna have help with the kids) soon as I went hospital as I had be checked with waters going. Then hes text me saying hurry home he's "deteriorating" and ha/ the other 2 kids (he feels he's getting a bug) he's been in Bed all day today an yesterday hung over and was out drinking all Thursday
I'm seriously pissed off. Then text me sayin iv been gone 2 hours what am I doing. (Hospital is 35mins a way atLeast ) soon as I walked in the door he walked straight out to go see his duckin friend. I asked if he would watch kids why I changed my pants as I was soaking. He said he wanted long enough

He can seriously fuck off I don't want him anywhere near me or near when I'm in full labour because I don't think I'm selfish?? He's clearly a selfish twat. To I'll watch his kids but well enough to go out !! I'm livid xx

Your waters have broken and he's gone out drinking?

Umm right.

Do you have a mum and/or sister and/or good friend? You need one to be with you and the other to pack his stuff in bin bags and throw it out in the road.