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DP gone awol after day/night out

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username272819 · 22/12/2019 05:08

So my DP went out at about 2pm with all his lad mates for a pub crawl.. He's spoke to me throughout the day so that's all fine. He messaged me at 1:30am saying he was at the pub round the corner from our house with all his mates and will be home soon. Said pub is genuinely 1 minute away. I was asleep when he messaged so didn't see it till 3:50am when I woke up and he still wasn't home. I rang him and he answered immediately which makes me think he had his phone in his hand and didn't mean to actually answer. It sounded like he was walking and I could hear people in the distance which sounded like girls being drunk loud IYKWIM?. He sounded all flustered and was talking really fast, he said "I'm going to be home really soon I'm right round the corner walking back from the pub, I'll be home in a minute, the pub had a lock in so was open till way later" so I said "oh okay well I'll stay on the phone to you until you're home then" He was then like "no it's okay I will be home really soon" he then hung up on me.. So immediately I'm thinking wtf, that was weird so I ring him back and it rings a few times and goes off. So I went and stood by the window and looked out for him since he should be walking on our road by now and he's no where to be seen.. This was at 4am.. I kept ringing him and he just kept cancelling the call and I messaged him a few times asking why he's being strange. He then replied to me by message but still ignoring my calls and said he was at his friends house (he put the name of his friend in the message) this person is someone I've never met but I know he exists because I've seen him on SM.. he also put that his phone was going to die.. I tried to ring him straight after and his phone immediately went to voicemail and my message didn't send to him. I don't believe his phone has died, I think he's turned it off.. but why?? I'm really confused, why did he say he was walking back from the pub and would be home really soon if he was at his friends house, I could hear girls in the background when I spoke on the phone to him but obviously I thought he was walking back from the pub but if he's at his mates house there's obviously girls there..
I'm just going a bit crazy here I dunno why I'm even writing this. Suppose I just needed to write it out and stop myself from messaging him when I know he's turned his phone off.. Aibu to be going this mental and to be thinking the worse?

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Pukkatea · 23/12/2019 17:17

It's very possible that he sounded strange and said strange things that don't add up because he was completely pissed. Particularly if you said something like 'are you at the pub' a drunken mind will be led onto autopilot by this and just say yes, and also lose track of location and time. Plenty of drunk people have no idea where they are.

He shouldn't have gotten so drunk but it doesn't automatically point to anything worse than that.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 23/12/2019 17:21

Hi OP, did you ever get to the bottom of what happened?

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