To consider becoming single at nearly 30

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Bit of background: currently in a long term(6 year) relationship, no DC involved but would have liked to have one by now. Relationship not working out and drifting apart. WIBU to consider taking time to myself and hoping to meet someone in the future, or have I left it far too late?

Not too late- 30's still so young, but do it now and don't waste any more time.

Don't settle with someone you're not happy with; though don't leave unless you're absolutely sure there's nothing to stay for either- both options are a gamble.

It's not too late. I split up with my eldest father at 28 and went on to have another serious relationship at 32, which ended a couple of years later and then met my now DH at 35. Its never too late, and honestly in my experience being alone is better than being unhappily paired!

Get rid or now you’ll waste another few years. Currently you have lots of time.

You haven't left anything too late, ffs. You're not even 30!

Agree with PP.

Didn’t meet DH till I was 32-married by 35 and have 3 DC. Life is too short to nee unhappy and/or settle.

Yeah end it now...of course you're still young enough to meet someone else and have children.

Do it! I wish I had.

Seriously? You're worrying if you've left it "too late" and you're in your 20s?? You won't turn into a pumpkin when you turn 30 you know...

Oh no, not 30!! You'll turned into a wizened old cat lady if you're single by 30 don't you know. 🙄

Definitely not too late at all. Your eggs won’t shrivel up on the strike of midnight on your 30th birthday! And it would be foolish to have a child with someone you no longer love.

I think some people are being unfair, it IS a lot harder to meet someone in your 30s especially if you want children

No one is ever BU to ‘consider becoming single’ if they’re in a relationship that doesn’t make them happy. Whether they’re 17, 30, 60 or 100.

What’s the alternative? Staying in this relationship which you say isn’t working out, for the rest of your life? Forever is an awfully long time to be unhappy.

I split with my partner of 10 years at 30. Met someone else a year later and we’re getting married in a few months.

Your age is irrelevant.

Your relationship is what you base your decision on. If you want to spend the rest of your life with him stay. If not. Don’t. Go find someone else and stay with them until you don’t want to anymore. Even if that’s when you’re 87.

still young, OP! life is too short to stay in an unhappy relationship and remember a baby tests even the most solid of marriages

PumpkinP, OP is not even in her thirties yet, though! Of course she deserves better than hanging about and hoping a dying relationship will magically improve. Six years is more than enough time to know and being still under thirty gives her loads of time.

I met my DP of 10 years at 37 and had ds3 at 42. I'd end it with your dp either way as you're not happy. Good luck 🙂

She could be 30 next month, obviously I’m not saying she should stay on a relationship but all the snippy comments are unnecessary, lots of women worry about meeting someone in their 30s and wonder if it’s too late and like I said it is more difficult in your 30s that’s not me saying op should stay in her relationship but she is nbu to worry imo

I seriously hope it's not too late. I'm 35 and newly single as he "couldn't stand my children" I seriously hope I'll meet someone else one day.

End it now. You get one life and it is short.

🤦🏼‍♀️ you can always freeze your eggs if it comes down to it.
Definitely not too late at all!

Seems to me that you're looking at this the wrong way round.

You're in a relationship that isn't working for you, so get yourself out of it and make a life for yourself.

Are you seriously considering staying in a failing relationship in case you've left it too late to meet someone else?

So what if you don't end up meeting someone else that you want to spend your life with? That's no reason to stay in an unsatisfactory relationship.

Not being in a relationship is better than being in a crappy relationship.

You're not even 30 yet and you're writing yourself off? That's very sad.

Better now than in 5/10 years time

Course you haven't left it too late! I left my first husband at 31. I'm now 39 and have been married to my second husband fur five years and we have three children together. My life started all over again and yours can too. Don't waste you life at any age, but certainly not at 30.

I don’t think it’s much more difficult in your 30s, PumpkinP. In my experience, at that age it’s much easier to meet people who are looking for something serious (if that’s what you want) and you can also be much more upfront about what you’re looking for rather than having to play it cool in case it scares them off!