DH sick or inured EVERY Christmas

[CornishPorsche]

OK, bar one.

In the last 6 years DH has been either sick (viral heart related infection, bad cold/man flu) or injured (very sore back involving the dressing gown of doom, a refusal of pain meds and plenty of grunts, moans, and twitching).

The only year this hasn't happened for him was when we went to his family.

I KNOW he can't help it, especially the pericarditis, but FFS.

AIBU to stuff painkillers in him because he had sore back again and insist he gets in the car with me on Monday do I can drive us, the dog and a car full of presents for 6hrs to my brother's?

Or maybe a convenient patio would suffice.

I guess if the OP did that, would he make a pain in the arse of himself by phoning/messaging saying how bad he is and can't cope and trying put guilt trip her?

Turn phone off and problem solved, or there's a great function to mute messages and calls from a number 😂

Turn phone off and problem solved, or there's a great function to mute messages and calls from a number 😂

It's a given you can do that, but if people are many miles from home, it's not always the best thing to do if something real happened.

Morning all! The malingering twat is still in the Dressing Gown of Doom, schlepping in his comedy dog slippers, and fixated on the Xbox (Harry Potter Lego).

He's not in as much pain this morning (amazing. Couldn't be do to with taking tablets, oh no...).

Good point on the OD side of things, I'll check what I have given him and what he should have now.

No chance of seeing a GP before we go anyway as he has to see a military one. We only have one car, so if he stays he'll have to organise someone else to drive him to the military base at 0700 on Xmas Eve. Oh wait, we've done that trip three times in our relationship! 😂

Anyway, I appreciate some people think I'm being mean, I assure you I'm doing everything except wipe his arse. He's been told he'll have to have a shower if that becomes necessary. I have chronic migraine, and he's good as gold to me when I'm unwell, so it would be churlish not to look after him too.

We have a very piss-taking relationship, so we do tend to poke lots of fun at each other when we get a chance. I've cackled away this morning about his Dressing Gown of Doom and he thinks it's hilarious!

We'll decide what he's doing later on today. I need to take the cat to a mate if he's coming, or lay in a load of food for DH if he's staying!

@CornishPorsche How is the malingering twat? Are you both going away for Xmas?

Evening.

He's doing OK. Thinks he's loosening up. Cat is off on her holidays. Dog is watching the stairs constantly for her, bless her.

I've scrubbed the house, tidied, packed everything I can think of, and we're almost ready to go. I have to help a friend at 0900 tomorrow for a few mins (signing legal papers), then we're off!

So what happened? Did he come with you?

We're both in Yorkshire, complete with dog. He's finally accepted that painkillers help enormously. 🙄

Why are men not allowed to be ill or in pain in here. They get zero sympathy. If a woman was in pain or ill and the man started a thread the way OP has, he’d get crucified and the woman would be believed.

@Jeansforme because it's MN and the rule of thumb, is every man is a useless bastard.

Actually if you'd read the thread properly @Jeansforme and @PhilCornwall1 you would realise it's not about him being ill, it's that he suspiciously only gets ill EVERY Christmas when there's loads he doesn't want to do and yet also mysteriously refuses to take pain killers despite apparently being in pain. Basically it's cause he's lying.