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To make no further effort to deliver her package?

167 replies

Heyduggeefordays · 21/12/2019 17:33

Me and DP do not accept parcels or deliveries for the next door neighbours as they never bloody collect it. DM didn’t know and took one for them yesterday. Big heavy box now cluttering up half my hallway.

DP knocked a few times to deliver it and got no answer even though they were clearly in. Needed them to collect it as we are leaving tomorrow and are gone over Xmas.

Heard her coming in talking on the phone about how she doesn’t have to worry about hiding presents from her son. She leaving deliveries with neighbours and she’ll pick them up on the Xmas eve.

By the time i’d got down the stairs she’d already gone in and yet again isn’t answering the door.

WIBU to leave a note tomorrow before we leave saying that she won’t be able to get it now to after Xmas as she doesn’t answer her door?

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 21/12/2019 23:09

I’d just go away workout a note as she is sick a CF!🤷‍♀️

Instagrump · 21/12/2019 23:45

I'd post one note saying, "Please pick up your parcel from No.58 ASAP" when you know she's in but not answering the door to you. Do NOT say you're going away. Just go. And revel in the fact that she's fucked up her gifts to her son because they're all sitting there, just out of reach, locked in the house of people she took the piss with.

For added LOLs amazon Prime yourself a Ring doorbell or a Blink XT2 battery cctv camera and get it up before you go. Then you can have the pleasure of watching her frantically pound on your door on Christmas Eve. You can even talk back. "Er can I help you? Parcel? Why yes it's in the house but as you refused to collect it or receive it when we have called round, I'm afraid we won't be able to get it to you until the 27th! Oh dear!"

Instagrump · 21/12/2019 23:47

(To add, having a security camera is a no brainer these days anyway so definitely worth getting. They're worth their weight in gold if they're ever needed)

Rachelfromfriends1 · 21/12/2019 23:51

This is bitchy but if her son is old enough to answer the door I’d happily hand the parcel over to him and potentially ruin the surprise Xmas Wink

TerribleCustomerCervix · 22/12/2019 00:03

I’d go away and wouldn’t bother with a note.

With the effort you’ve gone to so far, my conscience would be clear.

It would also send a clear message that her cunning plan Crown Hmm isn’t such a good idea for Christmas 2020.

Cohle · 22/12/2019 00:09

People go away for Christmas all the time. Her "plan" is ridiculous. I'd just go and leave her to reach that realisation herself.

melj1213 · 22/12/2019 00:32

Tbh I'd be putting a note through the other neighbours' doors telling them what you heard the CFNeighbour saying about them all being unpaid storage well before I'd put any more effort into delivering the one you have!

I dont mind being a storage point for presents provided the people who want me to store them have at least asked me. I also wouldnt be advertising to all and sundry that I was going to be away over Christmas. There are many reasons why you might not be around for the CFNeighbour to collect their parcel. I work in retail and will be at work on Monday and Christmas Eve until 8pm and then am going to family across town for Christmas Day, so while I'm not going away I am also not going to be at home either.

JaJoJe · 22/12/2019 00:46

make fake delivery notes and put them through her door saying to organize collection by (insert date/time) or the package will be returned to sender as it is undeliverable.

LilQueenie · 22/12/2019 01:20

I'd leave a note for the child's sake. Then just leave. oh and refuse any further parcels.

burgerrings · 22/12/2019 02:39

I wouldn't bother with notes etc. You're not her personal storage facility.

plantainchips · 22/12/2019 03:05

She’s so cheeky

Honeybee85 · 22/12/2019 03:49

What a cheeky cow.

I wouldn’t do anything and let her learn the lesson she obviously needs to learn though it’s a bit sad for her DC. But in the end it’s a consequence of their mum’s behavior.

HouseworkAvoider10 · 22/12/2019 04:12

Go.
Leave the parcel where it is.
What a CF.

Llioed · 22/12/2019 04:19

Did she pick this parcel up?? Can’t understand why people are like this? I hope your time away is a great one, OP, regardless of whether parcel is picked up or not.

EmilyStar · 22/12/2019 04:22

I was originally thinking that you should leave a note because you’re going away, but pp’s have made a very good point about it being a bad idea to advertise that.

I’d probably still leave a note just asking them to pick the parcel up, without saying anything about when you’ll be away.

Really, given that it’s not exactly unusual for people to go away for Christmas or be out doing Christmassy stuff most of Christmas Eve, using neighbours as an unofficial storage facility for a child’s Christmas presents like this is quite a high risk strategy.

BozoBahHumbugScroogesItUp · 22/12/2019 05:02

Oh my please update us as to whether the cheeky mare collects it or not.

sleepingpup · 22/12/2019 08:38

Literally dying to know what has happened here OP.

Beyond CF - ery.

Feelingabitashamed · 22/12/2019 08:46

Don't leave it on the step at all, even if you can hear them in. She sounds cheeky enough to claim it never arrived.

She's an idiot. Loads of people go away over Christmas but I am entirely on the fence about leaving a note or letting her learn the hard way. It's not the son's fault but then he will get the present eventually... hmm. picks out splinters

ShamefulBlanket · 22/12/2019 08:50

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Ohdearohdearyme · 22/12/2019 08:53

Do not leave it on the step incase it goes missing.

Put a note through the door saying you're going away so they need to collect it within 24 hours or itll have to be after xmas. If they dont collect itnit isnt your issue.

sleepingpup · 22/12/2019 09:00

I would bang on the door. And then leave note.

^Please collect parcel ASAP.
^
Then forget about it. If they get it they get it and if they don't they don't. Still a PITA for you whilst you're there but you've done everything you can.

I wouldn't say you're away for security reasons and you're not really obliged to tell her your plans just because you took in a parcel for her.

SinkGirl · 22/12/2019 09:21

Surely she’ll know the OP is away when nobody answers the door for days, lights are off and their car is gone etc?

Maybe set up light timers and a Home Alone style fake party, just to wind her up. Any chance you’ve got a train set, a turntable, a mannequin and a life size cut out of a basketball player?

MaggieFS · 22/12/2019 09:22

I was going to say leave a note that you'll be away, because despite her CF, it's not her son's fault he's got such a knob of a mother, however, I think pp are right you shouldn't disclose that you're going away and certainly not how long for. You could leave a note saying 'collect today or I'll return it as unwanted' and leave it at that?

SkaraBrae · 22/12/2019 09:27

Ok we definitely need an update on this one!

nowaypose · 22/12/2019 09:29

I’d leave a note saying ‘I tried to deliver this parcel for you but you didn’t answer. Can you collect it by the end of the day please otherwise I will return it to the courier, thanks.’