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To make no further effort to deliver her package?

167 replies

Heyduggeefordays · 21/12/2019 17:33

Me and DP do not accept parcels or deliveries for the next door neighbours as they never bloody collect it. DM didn’t know and took one for them yesterday. Big heavy box now cluttering up half my hallway.

DP knocked a few times to deliver it and got no answer even though they were clearly in. Needed them to collect it as we are leaving tomorrow and are gone over Xmas.

Heard her coming in talking on the phone about how she doesn’t have to worry about hiding presents from her son. She leaving deliveries with neighbours and she’ll pick them up on the Xmas eve.

By the time i’d got down the stairs she’d already gone in and yet again isn’t answering the door.

WIBU to leave a note tomorrow before we leave saying that she won’t be able to get it now to after Xmas as she doesn’t answer her door?

OP posts:
WildRosie · 21/12/2019 20:10

Shout 'FIRE' as loud as possible several times through your neighbour's letterbox. If that doesn't get the ignorant tart's attention, nothing will.

ElfAndSafeKey · 21/12/2019 20:15

Fuck it. Leave her a note saying you have it, don't mention you are going away. She still has tomorrow and Monday, if she doesn't collect it, tough.
She can have it when you come back.

JennyWoodentop · 21/12/2019 20:16

Personally I would not do anything else till after Christmas.
If you wanted to leave a note I wouldn't say I was going away I would just say I had tried X times to deliver it & since they have not been answering the door when they are clearly in I will not be trying again. They can come round & collect it if they want it - maybe give a deadline by which time I would be returning to sender.

rwalker · 21/12/2019 20:28

note through say can you collect urgently but don't mention you are going away

Lulualla · 21/12/2019 20:29

Is it OK to tell her your place will be empty over xmas? You've said there is a lot of crime in the area. I'd have no worries telling all my neighbours that the house would be empty for a few days, but I dont live in an area of high crime.

UnnecessarilyUpset · 21/12/2019 20:37

Whatever you decide you should mention that you heard her on the phone and you'll never accept parcels for her again.

WoollyMollyMonkey · 21/12/2019 20:42

Put a note through saying you’ve now notified the sender of an unwanted delivery seen as she hasn’t collected it.

BananaChocolateLump · 21/12/2019 20:49

I wouldn't even bother with the note after hearing that. Sod her. Its on her.

Blahblahblah12345 · 21/12/2019 21:00

Dont leave a note after the conversation you heard. Just go. It's her own fault.

ineedaholiday11 · 21/12/2019 21:03

I live on a small street (8 houses). We take parcels in for eachother all the time. We always collect immediately.

She has rudely (a) boy collected; and (b) ignored you when you've knocked; and (c) assumed without asking that you're happy to store things for her.

Seriously go away and DO NOT leave a note. If she doesn't get it until after Christmas then it will teach her not to be so rude. Also to be bloody prompt re collection in future. Have a nice break!

ineedaholiday11 · 21/12/2019 21:04

*not collected, not boy

MotherOfLittlePeople · 21/12/2019 21:10

Go away and do not leave a note. You don't know her. You've tried to deliver it to her she hasn't bothered answering. Not your problem

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 21/12/2019 21:27

I wouldn't leave a note, just go away and let her panic.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 21/12/2019 21:28

Just go away. You’ll be back by the 27th, at the worst they’ll get it a couple of days late and the lazy fucker might think twice in future about leaving parcels in other people’s houses.

draughtycatflap · 21/12/2019 21:35

Write ‘Humongous Festive Dildo. Handle with care’ on the box in glitter and leave it outside her door.

Fr0g · 21/12/2019 21:37

a - Ring the bell, leave a note to say that if she doesn't collect it before 10am tomorrow, you'll leave it on the doorstep.

b - How old is the son? If old enough to be out and about or in the garden on his own, tell him you have a nice big parcel for his mother, would he like to come and collect it. Perhaps you could open the outer layer together, in case that makes the package smaller for him to carry.

c - Ring the sender, tell them the parcel was delivered to you in error, you think neighbours have moved, can they take it back? - leave doing that until the new year if more convenient.

d - Do nothing, she is minus present for son at christmas.

HerkyBaby · 21/12/2019 21:44

Practice a VERY assertive knock - a police officer knock and then knock the door in that manner. After the knock shout through the letter box that she needs to open the door immediately. Alternatively just gently toss it into her back garden.

justgivememulledwine · 21/12/2019 22:01

Given that you’ve tried to deliver it even though it’s not your job/responsibility and the phone call you overheard, I would just go away, no note, nothing, CF’s

Giraffey1 · 21/12/2019 22:02

If you know they are in ...Knock loudly. Shout through letterbox you are leaving parcel on doorstep. Retreat.
If they are out. Leave note to say you have parcel and if they don’t collect it by date / time you will be contacting the carrier to have it collected.
No need to mention you are going away.

tillytrotter1 · 21/12/2019 22:17

When you return make a point of not answering the door, even stay away longer.

WaggleWiggle · 21/12/2019 22:29

Personally, I wouldn’t even make it your problem. She knows where she is and she can come and find it...only you won’t be there because she’s taken so long. Tough. Her own problem. Might teach her to stop using you as a CollectionPlus point for her internet shopping once she realises you won’t be available when it suits her.

WaggleWiggle · 21/12/2019 22:31

It, not she.

Petrichor11 · 21/12/2019 22:50

Given she’s a CF I wouldn’t leave a note, I’d just go away as planned, her disappointed child is her problem not yours, and might teach her a much needed lesson

Justmuddlingalong · 21/12/2019 22:54

Phone the company it's been ordered from and tell them to pick it up.

Leeds2 · 21/12/2019 23:06

I would just go away, no note. She has already had, and will have a few more, days to collect. For security, I wouldn't tell her that you will be away.